please help someone....i feel like crying?

Question

last night i say my ex for the first time since we had broken up. he was nice an everyhting but everytime i saw him he was all over other girls. dancing and flirting with them. And i still like him. so it made it so ****** hard. i dont no what to do. i want to tell him how i feel but then i no he would not talk to me anymore.....i cant control him and make him not flirt because im not his girlfriend anymroe but i wish i was. i wish he was mine but he isnt. and he dosent want to be anymore. he just wants to be friends. im so ****** confused and messed up right now.

and i cant even stop thinking about him long enough to relize that other guys like me. but if i did then i feel like i would lose him. and i dont want to. the other guys are not as good as him. they arent as cute or nice.......so i dont want anyone where i would rather have my ex.

i just really need some advise.....please someone.

Answer 1

You can't control him because you're not his girlfriend anymore???
Does that mean you tried to control him when you WERE his girlfriend???
Here's the deal, the word control doesn't belong in a good relationship. First get rid of that concept, then move on. There are plenty of guys to go around and you will find the one for you.
Remember love is a fifty- fifty thing. If it isn't, it isn't love.

Answer 2

Hey girl! I am so sorry you're having to go thru this. In the end of all the heartache and pain you will learn a lot from this heart wrenching experience. I have a couple pieces of advice for you all because I did this.. 1) Don't let yourself stay caught up in him and close all the doors you have open because your too afraid to move on. 2) Once you move on a little try not to rush into another relationship because then it is a rebound even though if you don't want to say it is it will be.
I got with another guy 3 weeks after breaking up with my ex and I had to do some leadership things with my ex it was horrible. But the other guy made me laugh and feel so comfortable I thought that was it! Well now like a month later I am beginning to wonder if he really wasn't a rebound. I just posted a question about all this if you want to answer it cool if not then thats cool too.
Just remember keep your chin up and God will provide all the comfort and love that you will ever need! GOD BLESS

Answer 3

The reason why it's very hard for you is because he's your ex. Your just probably thinking about all the good times you two had & you wish you can go back to those days, but you have to face the facts. The past is the past & he just wants to be friends with you. Try not to push it & try to get over him. It's better having him as a friend then nothing at all right? BUT, if it's really hard for you to see him acting the way he does, I think it's best that you stay away from him for a while. I know your hurting but you'll always be hurting if you don't give up on him. Who knows? Maybe later, in the future, you two will get back together. You never know whats going to happen so just sit back, enjoy your life right now, & somebody, someone more special than him will come into your life. Cheer up missy!!!~

Answer 4

Well if he is flirting with other girls, It's seems as if he wants to be a player, or at least not ready to settle down at the moment. It wont hurt to tell him how you feel. But if he doesn't come around, that's fine too, just remember you are better then that. There are many fish in the sea, that will treat you better, and who knows, they could even be cuter then him. Don't let a man run your life, go out and live. Just give it time, let them come to you.

Answer 5

I think, that if you really still like this guy, you need to tell him how you feel, and whatever happens after that will probly be better. he may take you back and try again, or he may just be like, sorry...but that would help you get over him
If you dont tell him though, then you may just get over him, and you may find a new bf who is even better,
it is your choice what to do, and i bet as you read through these answers you get, you are disagreeing or agreeing or thinking, 'thats stupid' and stuff,
So goodluck with whatever choice you decide to make,
my personal advice, it isnt good to get into an old relationship again, things dont tend to work out.
Hope i helped :)
Goodluck ^_^
Tazzy<3

Answer 6

You already know what to do. If you know that he doesn't want to get back together with you, then you need to move on. Will it hurt like hell? Yes it will. Will it take a while? Yes it will. But that's unfortunately a part of life. We get our hearts broken and we hold on to love that doesn't even exist anymore. Eventually you will be okay. But you have to stop forcing something that isn't going to happen. If it's meant to be, you two will find your way back to each other. But don't put your life on hold hoping to get back together with this guy.

Answer 7

It's way hard to get over someone, but the best thing you can do is stay busy and try not to think about the person. You have to accept that they have moved on and try to move forward as friends, or, if you can't handle being around him, avoid seeing him! He's not worth your time if he can't appreciate you anyway. Good luck, time will definitely help!

Answer 8

hes a typical guy.......
well the reason he was probably dancing and flirting around with other girls was to make you jealous so you shouldnt feel so low he probably still wants you back the way you do for him. so dont panic! oh yeah 1 thing you dont want to do is go mess around with these guys that like you because that would make look like a slut and you definetly dont want that k!....good luck...and try not to think so much...this is what i always go by....what ever happens, happens and its usually for the best

Answer 9

there was also a time in my life when i couldnt get over an ex of mine whom i built my world around into. i could just imagine how you felt when you saw him the first time after your broke up. i could define it with these adjectives: painful, horrible, terrible, hell, and literally world crumbling.
when i was in your situation, i was in a public place and i was with my mom and brother. the moment i saw him, i turned my back at him and my brother brought me to a corner where he couldn't see me and my tears were overflowing. my mother told my ex not to follow me anymore.
it was horrible. it took me 2 years to get over him. and within those 2 years, i kept looking for a venue to forget how i was so much in pain. my friends would accompany me every night for 5 days a week in one year drinking and going home at 5am in the morning and just sleept a bit, and then took a bath, and then went back to office. i did that for one year. and that year, i spent my money on treating out my friends so that they could accompany me as i drowned my heart with drinking. i also could consume 2 packs of cigarettes in one day only! i was a total wreck.
the next year, i also hooked up with somebody who had a respoinsibility already. i was totally wrecking my life all because of my ex.
on the last quarter of the 2nd year of my grieving,i had a new bf. but i was on the rebound and was not exactly a good girl because i still dated other guys. it further made me feel like i was a *****...:( and then after 2 years again, i had a bf that lasted for 2 weeks only. what made me stop doing all those?
it was because i realized i had to love myself because no man would...just yet.
i tried to pick up myself, put back my dignity, tried to fix my finances, go back to my old values....and i did that by coming home where i am unconditionally loved.
the point i am trying to drive at here is that while you may want someone so badly and he doesn't want you or love you back, it does not mean you have to stop your world from evolving without him. sure you like him. he's unique and he is not like other men. i guess that is the quality you liked about him. but there is one thing that he has that some guys also have: he is a jerk for dumping you and for flirting with other girls, and for wasting your love away.
but dont let him get into you and ruin your chance of finding true love. you must let go of him because he is just dragging you...but you still cant stop him from doing what makes him happy. and besides, you are the only one who's trying to hold on and he is not. what is the point of waiting for him now? none. nada. no point at all. believe me dear. when you let him out of your heart, you will have more room to love yourself and treat yourself right, and most of all, let someone else into your heart.
hope this helps in a way.
good luck!

Answer 10

he is not so nice he has used you and put you to the side now he talks to you when he likes maybe just to keep you on the side but he is not nice if he was he would have never left you as far as being cute there must be other guys that are drop him before he tares you apart and to tell you the truth he likes that you feel like