Have we lost our capacity to be creative in our realtionships?

Question

Someone just asked me if this site is too predictable & whether our love lives are one long loop of the same recordings. It seems to me that people just keep asking the very same questions here. It appears that many are just stuck in a rut. Do you feel the same way when you read some of these convoluted posts? How do you add spice to your love life? Are you waiting for someone to inquire about something interesting? Do you wish to convey some fresh ideas that can help others flourish & have more FUN? Many of us grow tired of the same old posts about~ "Is He Cheating?" Isn't there more interesting things to focus on?

Answer 1

Well you do make a good point. Allot of people are experiencing the same turmoils in their relationships, but for many people the circumstances that got them there are very different. But I guess it's not what gets you there sometimes. We all live in a similar culture with similar influences and I think that's why many people get stuck in the same rut as others. Which isn't really a bad thing, because people can get sound advice from people who have been in their situation. My ideas on a healthy relationship is not to take everything so seriously. I think many people get caught up in their feelings and jump to allot of conclusions, which just ends up adding tension to the situation. I think people should be more open minded and realize that no one is going to be perfect and to accept others for who they are. If they can't do this then they need to realize that they are probably not compatable. Relationships are supposed to be fun and exciting. Many people loose site of that along the way.

Answer 2

I think lots of people are in a rut right now - and I think that many of them are dissatisfied in their current relationships and are looking for any excuse to get out (hence all the seeming distrust).

I think that we have in a way outgrown the relationship traditions in our cultures. With more and more demands made upon people in general and parents in particular, it's a wonder any couple stays together for more than 10 years. I see lots of women wanting to strike out on their own but worrying about money. I see lots of men dissatisfied but not know what to do or where to look for happiness - or they are cheating on their wives for the thrill of it, just to feel alive.

Don't get me wrong, I know lots of couples make it work, but I know people who are trying innovative things in their relationships. Multiple families in 1 house can provide financial and social stress relief with built in baby sitters and friends for all. What a great way for unhappy women to branch out with less fear or people to get the stress relief they need without having to divorce.

What I am seeing people doing more and more is really looking at their life and custom making a situation that works for them, regardless of "how it's always been done" and it is they who seem happy to me.

Peace!

Answer 3

I do agree there are a lot of repetetive questions on here. Every once in a while, I find a new topic of discussion but usually the same thing, specially kids who are asking if their crushes actually do like them or not.

Answer 4

We are an instant gratification generation. Relationships take patience and time to nurture them.

It is also a throw away society, too lazy to do the work to stay happy with who you are with. So it is easier to dump and move on...

Everyone want's it right now. Not a good quality to have in a serious relationship.

Answer 5

There is. But nobody's going to ask about it. Think about this; if you're thoroughly enjoying yourself, completely having fun in your relationship, it's spicey, it's awesome... what would you ask? Honestly, there's nothing TO ask about. That's why there aren't any questions about it- you're already where you want to be. And yes, there are occasional questions "How do I spice up my relationship," but once you have what you described, you're good.

Answer 6

No, nothing's more fun than the teen angst here.