The baby died of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). This is such a good family, I wish there was more that I can do. The who community has pitched in to help, but it doesn't seem like enough. So if you have any suggestions, please let me know. Thank you.
2007-11-04 14:40:14 · 4 answers · asked by cnhanna87 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How tragic! The best thing anyone can do is to listen. Write a note, if necessary, letting the parents know that you are available any time they way to talk about their baby.
Many people shy away, try to change the subject, try to jolly the parents out of grieving aloud. This is unintentionally cruel. Those of us who have lost a child, whatever their age, need to talk.
Grief is a knife running through our hearts. Please listen ... and listen some more. It helps tremendously, more than you can imagine.
Bless them. And bless you for caring so much.
2007-11-04 15:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. The best thing you can do for them is listen. Let them know that you are truely, deeply sorry for their loss, and that if they ever need someone to talk to, a shoulder to cry on, you are there. Most importantly, make sure they know that THIS IS NOT THEIR FAULT! Many parents will feel that it's their fault the baby died, if they'd only listened better, if they'd only been paying attention that very second, if they'd only..... in the case of SIDS, there's really nothing they could've done to prevent it. Maybe get them a small sculpture of a baby angel in large hands (symbolic of their baby in God's hands) if you feel it would be appropriate, or some other way to remember the baby. It will be difficult for them, and they may not want to talk about it for a while, but they will appreciate knowing that you care enough to listen when they're ready to talk. Don't try to steer the conversation away from the baby or their grief.
2007-11-04 16:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cassie B. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing you can do other than to just get a nice greeting card and give your written sentiments to them... "I am so sorry for your loss and we will all miss her. Little ____ was a darling little angel here on earth and is no-doubt charming all the big angels in heaven with her sweet smiles and coos."
One idea... perhaps get a few people together and plant a garden in her name and put in a plaque. It doesn't have to be big. A few rows of pretty perennial flowers geared so that something is blooming most of the year. The plaque can be something you get done at the engraver's at the mall, and attached to a post among the flowers.
2007-11-04 14:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't....Wow what a horrible loss.thats something the'll have to work through,but remain close,If they do need something from you at least you'll be close enough to be asked.
again wow I'm very sorry for there loss
2007-11-04 14:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by rainedgy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋