So my husband got a really good job at a really good company. Coincidentally, my cousin also works there.
As a kindness, my husband put her name down in the "referral" box on his application. When he got the job, my cousin received a $2,500 incentive bonus because the company thought that she referred him. She did not refer him or help him get the job in anyway - she didn't even know the position was open until after he interviewed and put her name in.
So she got $2,500 for doing absolutely nothing, and my husband didn't get so much as a 'thank you'. Really, she didn't even say thank you.
She sends thank you notes to other people for things (like when my mother helped her move).
Then, to add insult to injury, my father overheard her talking to a group of people at a neighborhood get-together. She was telling everyone that SHE got my husband the job - as if she was the one who did US a favor!!! My father set her straight right there.
Opinions please?
2007-11-04 14:27:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Rev- it's funny that you mention 'character assassination' - not two weeks into his new job and my cousin stopped by his dept to say hello, and as a "joke" she said something like "wow, I guess you don't have enough privacy to look at your porn"! It came up in a meeting with the vice-president and my husband had to 'explain' my cousin's comment. Now he thinks his computer is being monitored.
2007-11-04 15:06:26 · update #1
A couple of extra details: My husband putting her name down on the application in no way helped him get the job. His career is highly specialized and they had been looking for someone for that position for 6 months before they finally found my husband.
Furthermore, my cousin doesn't have a good reputation there, so her opinion of him wouldn't count - not that they even talked to her about it at all. It's like I said, he just did her a favor and told HR that she referred him just so she could get some extra money.
2007-11-04 15:09:22 · update #2
Your cousin is an ungrateful twit with really LOW self-esteem. She will probably never make anything of herself.
Stay away from her.
If she tries to do any character assassination on your hubby on the job, he can file harassment charges against her.
It was very good of your father to call her down on her BS in public... hooray for him.
2007-11-04 14:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may have not informed him or even had any impact on his being hired. Then again, his putting her name down as a referral may have had some impact, you never really know. Having an current employees name as a referral may get you at the very least and interview you may not have otherwise gotten. I'm not saying she did or didn't, I don't know and really neither do you or your husband. She should have without a doubt thanked you and brought your husband a nice gift or something. In the end tho this isn't really something to get bent out of shape about. It gives you more insight on who your cousin is but shouldn't get in the way of you having a relationship with her. Good luck.
2007-11-04 14:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that she is responsible for giving your husband a thank you because she received the incentive bonus, I mean, he got the job...it's possible his referral of her gave him the extra boost-called to get this "really good job," right? It's absolutely true at lots of good companies that knowing somebody there, even if they don't take an active role in getting you a job, gives you an edge over the other guy.
That said, yeah, she definitely sounds pretty arrogant in general. I don't know that I would describe it as ungrateful, how about disgraceful instead? She shouldn't be taking credit for his hire merely because she coincidentally works for the same company.
2007-11-04 14:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by consideringall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why you did this was a shock to me. why did you say she did refer you? that was dumb and you seem to be upset that she got the money. well you must hve known she'd not say thankyou so why even come near her stay away from her and not talk to her. yes, shes trying to make trouble but if he just puts like he doesn't like her know her and they will see her lying and stuff and about porn that is why they are checking his computer that is sad. but you sorta created it all just now just keep working hard ignore her and forget you knw her take care.
2007-11-08 14:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is very ungrateful. fire her. or at least talk to her. she doesnt deserve the job if she acts like that. she should not be telling ppl she got him the job. what a altoid motherfuck.er. she is so dead for doing this to you. omg fire her now you dumb @$$ ******! jk jk
2007-11-04 14:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋