Do you have the right to be mad at god and turn your back on him when he turns his back on you?

Question

When I was pregnant with my first son I found out that my son was very sick. They told me that I could abort my son or I could go on with the prgnancy. I choose to go on. I went thr doctor appt. where they had to stick a needle into my stomach and into my uters every week for months. I was ready to do anything for my son. And I asked God to make sure my son could get here and have the surgeries he needed. I went day to day and I thought we were going to make it. Then 3 weeks before induction day my son died. I had to feel him die, I had to deliver him dead. Do I have the right to turn my back? Do I have the right to blam him? Cause as I see it he was the only one who could have made the difference.

Answer 1

I'm really sorry for your loss. I had three miscarriages before my three kids came along, but I can't even possibly imagine carrying a child to almost term, especially after you did everything in your power to save him.

There is no answer to why these terrible things happen. They just do. Maybe it's all part of the grand picture. Sometimes we just don't know how the story ends, but maybe in retrospect it will make some kind of sense in the grand scheme of things. Some things just happen and shape who we are. Maybe some strength is needed of you in future, for your future children. This will make you love them even more, knowing how special they will be to you.

Getting angry at God won't solve anything. But it's ok to be angry. But then after the anger and the tears must come a time to move forward. Remember to go on living and reach out to those around you and find comfort there.

God asks all his believers to have faith. He never said life was going to be easy. He even sacrificed his only son. So if you believe in God, believe that it was never his intention to hurt you.

Someone once said it's only because of great sorrow that we can know great joy. I'm sure there will be joy in your life again.

Answer 2

I feel your pain and I am most sorry for your loss. There are moments in life when our pain overshadows our soul and makes us think that God has turned His back on us. This is so far from the truth. The thing that stands out most in your case is that you write when I was pregnant with my first son. I assume you have had other children since. Unfortunately we do not always understand God's will. Remember that we live in a world full of llness and disease as well as disasters and we sometimes forget that we ourselves (mankind) has done a poor job of fulfilling the purpose for which we were created which was to glorify God, be caretakers of this planet and populate it using the guidelines He gave us and be happy. If God were to turn His back on us ever the chaos we live in would seem like a walk in the park compared to what would take place. Take heart in the gift of the children you now have. Reach out to others who may be going through something similar and ask the Lord to give you strength and wisdom to realize that our trials have a purpose and although we don't always understand He is not to blame for it is we who need to trust and rely on Him for the strength to continue to survive, thrive and give each other support along the way. Remember anyone who was near you during that time could've been an angel of God sent to comfort you so He was there - you were never alone. Trust me I have been through a lot and I only find peace when I let go and let God and accept that His will serves a purpose ALWAYS. Be blessed now as you read this and may His embrace be as real to you now as is the trust of your child when you let the doctors vaccinate them for their own good. When we take our children to get injected they experience excruciating pain and we actually hold them down in order for this person to "cause pain" to our child but we know it needs to be done for the greater good. The day will come when you will realize that it all has a reason and that trusting the Father means we must do so when it hurts which is when He is carrying us and allowing "pain" for a greater good. Hope I helped.

Answer 3

IS GOD UNCARING AND HARDHEARTED?

6 Many people think that the answer to that question is yes. ‘If God cared,’ they reason, ‘would not the world be a very different place?’ We look around and see a world full of war, hatred, and misery. And as individuals, we get sick, we suffer, we lose loved ones in death. Thus, many say, ‘If God cared about us and our problems, would he not prevent such things from happening?’

7 Worse yet, religious teachers sometimes lead people to think that God is hardhearted. How so? When tragedy strikes, they say that it is God’s will. In effect, such teachers blame God for the bad things that happen. Is that the truth about God? What does the Bible really teach? James 1:13 answers: “When under trial, let no one say: ‘I am being tried by God.’ For with evil things God cannot be tried nor does he himself try anyone.” So God is never the source of the wickedness you see in the world around you. (Job 34:10-12) Granted, he does allow bad things to happen. But there is a big difference between allowing something to happen and causing it.

8 For example, think about a wise and loving father with a grown son who is still living at home with his parents. When the son becomes rebellious and decides to leave home, his father does not stop him. The son pursues a bad way of life and gets into trouble. Is the father the cause of his son’s problems? No. (Luke 15:11-13) Similarly, God has not stopped humans when they have chosen to pursue a bad course, but he is not the cause of the problems that have resulted. Surely, then, it would be unfair to blame God for all the troubles of mankind.

9 God has good reasons for allowing mankind to follow a bad course. As our wise and powerful Creator, he does not have to explain his reasons to us. Out of love, however, God does this. You will learn more about these reasons in Chapter 11. But rest assured that God is not responsible for the problems we face. On the contrary, he gives us the only hope for a solution!—Isaiah 33:2.

10 Furthermore, God is holy. (Isaiah 6:3) This means that he is pure and clean. There is no trace of badness in him. So we can trust him completely. That is more than we can say for humans, who sometimes become corrupt. Even the most honest human in authority often does not have the power to undo the damage that bad people do. But God is all-powerful. He can and will undo all the effects that wickedness has had on mankind. When God acts, he will do so in a way that will end evil forever!—Psalm 37:9-11.

Answer 4

I am not going to go into the theology of this. Also, feelings aren't about whether you have the "right" to feel something, you don't need to ask permission from anybody to feel anger or anything else.

It sounds like you are going throught the one of the stages of grief: anger. When people suffer some tragedy, it is only natural that they want an explanation; they want to know how this could happen and who is responsible.

Maybe you should ask someone at the hospital to refer you to a grief counselor.

Answer 5

You have the right to do anything you want, but sometimes things happen in life, that are just plain cruel. No one really knows why, but it's always easy to blame someone else for our problems, even when our problems are no body's falt. If you believed in God before, then think long and hard before you turn yer back, make sure it's what you really want to do. I might not matter, but then again.....it could.

Answer 6

GOD NEVER EVER TURNS YOUR BACK ON YOU.
It is in the Bible "I will never leave you nor forsake you"
I am so sorry about what you went through that has got to be tough but at least you didnt abort your baby.
Look at the trials that Job went through and he still praised God and it turned out he got everything back plus more for his faithfulness. I have been diabetic for 8 years and the last 2 years my condition has gotten worse to the point I am going to a new doctor to figure this out. I have been held back grade wise over this and had my drivers license takin away. I have been hospitalized over it and I know God will come through on his time table and I notice it has drawn me closer to HIM and EVERYTHING YOU HAVE GONE THROUGH WILL MAKE SENSE ONE DAY SO JUST TRUST IN HIM AND DRAW HIM CLOSE TO YOU.
God Bless
and I will pray for you

Answer 7

Yes you have right. That has to be horrible to go through. I dont like to think he abandoned you. There are negative forces out there too that we often forget and God tests our faith in often cruel ways. I yell cry hate god for the pain i go through but in the end he is still standing there for you, and later on when the wound has healed some we will see the reason. I send you a hug.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't even begin to imagine what an awful experience you've had. But I hope to reassure you that God did not turn His back on you and your son, He was right there with you.

I hope that one day you look back and find (as the song goes) beauty from ashes, strength from fear, gladness from mourning, peace from despair

Answer 9

The man that said there is no GOD will soon FIND OUT THERE IS but GOD loves him........That is very tragic but never never turn your back on GOD even if you have he still loves you and will be there for you.......You have asked the holy father to help your son and he has.....he took you son to some where we are all trying to be worthy of going................ to heaven...........have you seen on the news about tragic deaths that happen....about freak accidents like planes crashing or buses falling off a bridges.... etc..... this may sound strange but it is said that GOD have saved these people he took them off this Beautiful but sinful and wicked world....some people are wicked and very sin full you read in the paper or see in the news people killing one another, Wars, stealing, drugs, global warming, gang violence, guns, sex, lusts, prostitution, lying.............life is a blessing.... but your son deserves better than what is happening in our world today.....I know you are disappointed but think about what is going on in the world and what I have said do you really want your son in this world... god flooded the earth was because he saw how (((WICKED))) man was....isn't the world today full of wickedness.....give God thanks for your son is in loving good hands do not worry....MOST IMPORTANTLY ALWAYS ALWAYS HAVE FAITH IN GOD AS MUCH AS IN JESUS.....Faith...believe....thats all its is

Answer 10

I am so sorry for you... truly suffering is something that everyone wrestles with... and there are never any easy answers. You will be in my prayers. I pray that instead of this making you turn your back on Jesus, you will grow closer to Him... I know you want to see you little baby again, your little boy. Your son, is definitely with the Lord.

I am so sorry this happened... I recommend a good book... "Making Sense of Suffering" by Peter Kreeft, please read this. Take care.... I will be praying for you!