She is driving me nuts. For now she is living here along with my aunt and her baby brother. Wow she is a complete brat. I help her with her homework and she starts getting mad because i make her read the directions instead of giving her the answers. She comes in my room without knocking and Ive discovered her Brat toys in my room (she comes in when I'm not home and plays with my stuff). She is constantly lying about everything and she wont shut up about her dad which she knows no one on her mom's side likes( the guy cheated on my aunt and they got a divorce but she doesn't know he cheated on her mom)She insults me and talks back all the time. It's like she wants to grow up and be a teenager already, she wants to wear make up, she wants to wear heals, she is dying to wear short clothes. Also, she talks A LOT!!!. She is driving me crazy, every time i see her she bugs me. What do I do to to try and avoid this feeling. Ive tried avoiding her but she follows me.
2007-11-04 14:03:19 · 4 answers · asked by FishyFace 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How can I learn to live with her?
2007-11-04 14:03:54 · update #1
Ive told my parents its hard to get along with her but they don't really care. Also Ive tried playing with her and whatever but it's just not working. I love my cousin but she really gets on my nerves
2007-11-04 14:13:26 · update #2
Stop a minute and think about it -- your little cousin may seem like a brat to you but just think about what she must be going through. Her father left and from what you wrote she probably doesn't know why (at least not the real reason). She had to move in with your family, which is a big adjustment for everyone. She probably looks up to you because the adults in her life are all too preoccupied with their own problems to even realize what she must be dealing with. My guess would be that is just looking for someone who will listen to her. I know it's easier said than done, but just be patient with her. The part about her going into your room when you are not around is not okay though. She needs to respect your personal space. If you can, put some type of lock on the door.
2007-11-04 14:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kid is needy. Period.
About all you can do is play the ol' "carrot and stick approach" and reward her when she is "good"... like when she does her homework assignments herself or picks up after herself. Rewards can include playing favorite boardgames or taking her to the park to play.
When she acts up, you pull away and tell her that you don't have to put up her if she is going to be a bad little girl like that.
You take a little time out to establish a rapport with her and teach her respect for your stuff... and everyone else's stuff. This is a major life skill. She needs this knowledge.
If you want to keep her out of your bedroom, I would suggest hitting the hardware store and getting a doorknob with a keyed lock on it, and locking your door whenever you leave. At the very least, put a lock on your closet door to turn it into a safe and keep the kid out of your stuff.
2007-11-04 14:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with her doing things she likes once in a while and she will respect u more.
2007-11-04 14:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.......well you can talk to your mom or her mom and just tell then that your cousin is ____________ and I would like it if she can give me my space. If you tell then how you feel then they will take care of it........hopefully! Goodluck.......by the way how old are you?
2007-11-04 14:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by PRiNCESS(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋