what should my baby's last name be???

Question

im 14 and im pretty sure im gonna move in w/ my bf. he is 17 and the financial issue isnt a problem. my mom and dad r divorced and i currently live w/ my dad and step sister. my dad is away alot and its usually me and my friends at home. the father could be my bf or my other friend andy who is 15. should i give my baby my last name or his/her father's last name????? also should i move in w/ my boyfriend????

Answer 1

No offense since the "damage" is already done, I won't say you shouldn't have been having sex in the first place. But now that you are pregnant, I think its more advisable to stay closer to family. And at this point I would probably suggest finding a way of going back to live with your mom, probably have your sister come along too. Because in a time like this, family usually would stick beside you, but a guy would freak out and dump you. Even if he is your boyfriend. Besides that he is 17 anyway, next year or maybe even this year he will be turning 18 and I don't think it would look too good to him to have a knocked up gf that is 14 going on 15. Not saying you should care what others think, but he will no doubt be viewed as a pedophile that raped a minor. So again family be best to stick close to in case your bf becomes flaky and decides that you aren't worth being with when the baby comes or when he finds out there is a baby in the first place. Secondly, in my view the child should have your last name. As you are too young to be marrying anyone, the child will need to have your last name as a sense of identity. That is if you choose to keep him or her. But from how your question reads it appears you will be keeping the baby. Thirdly, I do believe you need to tell both bf and friend that you are pregnant. And though the bf might be mad as hell at you, because you cheated on him with your friend, he still has the right to know if this child is his or not. Same way with your friend. And lastly I do believe you should get a paternity test done after the baby is born, so everyone knows who the father is. And you and him can make plans on how to take care and raise the child. As for moving in with the bf, I don't know what state or country you are in, but in all honesty you and the bf can't move in together as you are both currently minors. And minors can't move out of the parents home until they are 18 or so. Which might work out fine for your boyfriend but won't for you. So going back to what I said earlier you need to stick close to family. In case the bf does decide to move out but not take you with him. Hopefully this helps. I know it may sound judgmental and all that, but hey, you have made your bed and now you have very few options to choose from. Just do the right thing for this child. That is the bigger issue here, rather than how you, the bf and the friend are going to get along after the baby arrives into this world. Remember baby first, you second and then the father.

Answer 2

Kiddo, if the police know your situation, all of you including the parents are in big serious problems...........stay in your house with your Dad and sister, ( I suppose there is a mother or stepmom in the picture?).
If you are pregnant and your bf is responsible to accept, the baby has your bf's last name, he is the father, no? he signs the birth certificate, too.
If your bf doesn't want responsability, then you give your last name to the child (your father's).
Kiddo, I am sooo soooo sorry to say this, but you have a very dysfunctional family, no wonder everything is out of control.
You are a minor....everyone around you is a minor...the adults here I don't know where they are to let a situation like this happen.

Answer 3

Good gracious. You're 14, having a baby, and don't know who the father is! If you keep the baby (and how are you going to finish school??) then the baby has your last name. You're not married. It's illegal for you to move out at 14. Your father may not be a responsible dad, but he has custody of you until 18.

Answer 4

What last name to give your child is the least of your worries.

If you live in the US, there is not a single state where you are above the age of sexual consent. So, anyone who slept with you committed a crime by doing so. Think statutory rape charges here.

If you move in with Boyfriend, I can almost guarantee that eventually someone will report it. Social services will yank you out of that home so fast it will make your head spin. And your parents could very well be facing charges for allowing it. In all likelihood they will lose custody and you will end up in the custody of the state.

You need to do some serious thinking about your situation. You are a CHILD, not an adult, so you don’t get to decide what you do. And if your parents can’t make proper parental decisions, they don’t get to decide either.

Answer 5

i had a baby at 15 but was pregnant at 14 dont let no1 put u down 4 it im one of the best moms there is i love my kids to death but neway if ur unsure who the father is give the baby ur last name & after u get dna change the name to the father's oh & dont move in with him!! take it from me ur relationship will go sour after u do!! I did the same thing & it was a mess we broke up a year later

Answer 6

first of all who ever the babies father is is what you use for last name then you get lawyer and get child support. you asked are you going to live with the man you had the baby with does he want you do you love him i mean that is such an age difference. i have an age difference with my hubby and now hes older and hes slowing down so slow its scaring me cause i will be alone those are things to think about you marry supposidly one time in life and that is what you shoudl be thinking of. its all up to you. but remember if you leave to be with him cause of your situation it wont' get better and its not good choise it has to have come from the heart if its not then stay with your dad. take care.

Answer 7

You need to talk to your Dad and No you are too young to move anywhere.