Our family has always pulled names on Thanksgiving for Christmas because it's a big family but the grandchildren have always stayed out of it and everyone gets us a gift. I've always gotten gifts from all of my aunts and uncles and I've loved it. But my family is debating on rather or not me and my cousin who are both 21 now should be apart of the name pull as well! But honestly I don't want to! Because I'm used to getting a lot of gifts that I love and just one little gift is a step back from all of the gifts I'm used to Is that so wrong?
2007-11-04 13:42:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, it is selfish.
You're a grownup now. Sadly, somehow, you made it all the way through your childhood & into your adult life without learning the joy of giving and the gracious art of receiving with gratitude. You haven't learned that gifts aren't something that you 'deserve', but something that you cherish.
2007-11-04 14:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are offering you an "out". They are saying that you are not going to get a bunch of little gifts this year. The choice is whether you want to be in the pool to be drawn from.
If you do not want to receive one nice gift, and GIVE one nice gift to someone, then don't participate at all.
2007-11-04 22:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be a grown up or not? You're acting like a spoiled 7 year old! If you get all pouty, and refuse to draw a name, you may find yourself without ANY gift this year! I know if you were my niece and acted that way, I'd sure drop you from my gift list!
2007-11-04 21:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by baeb47 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Someone needs to check your birth certificate. Surely you are not 21. I'm guessing you are 12.
Grow up. You are being selfish and you are forgetting the true meaning of Christmas. It's not all about you.
2007-11-04 21:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you're lucky it lastest until 21. If you want your family to treat you like a grown up, you need to act like one. Christmas isn't about the gifts anyway.
2007-11-04 21:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie Z 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is very selfish and immature so please join the fun and pull a name. You cannot remain a child after you've become an adult and now it is time for you to start behaving like a 21-year-old ought to behave and think about someone other than yourself. Please don't spoil the holidays for others with your negative attitude.
2007-11-04 22:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ha ha, yeah kind of. you're asking to be treated like a little kid which is fine as long as you want to be treated like a little kid in every aspect of your life. Do you want mommy smelling your breath everytime you come home or calling ahead before you go to a party? I would think not - and those are adult things. You need to be an adult about this.
2007-11-04 22:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by smile and don't stop 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In our family, you are considered an adult at 18. You join the name jar. You are also expected to contribute to the food with something you make or buy.
2007-11-04 22:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That sounds incredibly selfish and childish. You're an adult now, you should participate as an adult. You do realize that Christmas is about giving and the birth of the Christ.
2007-11-04 21:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by justme 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Time to grow up. More kids come along and its expensive to buy for them all.
2007-11-04 22:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋