What to do with an annoying neighbor?

Question

I have an annoying neighbor who comes right on in if no one answers the door and she is my grandma's friend cause we live with our grandparents. So anyway, she comes in and talks to me about people in her family who I don't know or care about and it's annoying. What do I do? By the way I can't tell her what she is doing because it could ruin her and my grandmother's relationship. Someone Help!

Answer 1

She may be annoying or boring, but she's probably lonely and appreciates your time. You are sweet to listen to her without being rude. I'll bet you are a breath of fresh air for her to spend time with a young person. I used to be bored by old people, but as I've grown up, I appreciate them more. You could probably learn a thing or two from her. Try asking her juicy or interesting questions and she may surprise you with the answers. My 89 year old grandmother used to be boring to me, but then I started asking her questions and I found out that her mother made moonshine in the bathtub while she was growing up. She told me what dating was like when she was younger, even a few stories about sex and stuff. As you talk to her, you'll realize that you are both girls and you may have more in common than you think - she's just got more experience in life than you.

I know it is annoying, but think about how this woman and your grandmother would feel if you were to be mean, rude or hurt her feelings. You're very respectful and unselfish. Thank you for that! Someday you'll be old and imagine how nice it will be to talk to a young person who has their whole life ahead of them. Imagine the experiences and lessons you could share with them. Maybe she has a few things she could share with you so you don't make the same mistakes she did. Ask her! Tap into her knowledge. This could turn into an amazing thing - you never know! (you could write a book about it - remember Tuesday's with Morrie?)

If you truly don't want to hang with this woman, and you really are annoyed, please give her a few minutes of your time, thank her for stopping by, and then politely tell her you have plans and have to get things done (homework, laundry, run an errand, make a phone call, etc.). Smile, tell her you'll see her again soon and open the door for her when she leaves. She may not get the hint, but at least you will establish boundaries for when she's there and you won't feel annoyed that she has wasted your time.

Good luck to you! :)

Answer 2

Technically, you don't have an annoying neighbour, your grandma has a friend who is comfortable enough in the friendship to come enter your grandparent's domacile without prompting.

Presumably she is not breaking into the house, and is just opening an unlocked door.

If you are too young to move out, you could always find better places to be.

She just want's friendship and is being friendly the only way that she knows how. If you are a student, you can simply tell her that, you regretably must get back to your study because of a particular test or deadline.

Certianly not the end of the world though!

Answer 3

Wouldn't it help to keep the door locked so the neighbor can't just come right in? You could then pretend you aren't home. However, when she does start gossiping about her family, you could politely tell her you're really busy right now, and can't take the time to talk, but you'll let your grandmother know that she came to visit. Or send her home with a plate of homemade cookies. That way she won't be offended and her friendship with your grandma will be intact.

Answer 4

Had many annoying neighbors in my time. These people only understand one thing, directness. Just tell it like it is. If you're not direct, these people will take advantage. Take a stand, and get rid of this neighbor once and for all. If you wait, hoping she will go away, it will never happen.

Answer 5

It is nice for people to knock because it is a sign of respect, but being that she is your grandmother's friend, she is able to just come in the house because your grandmother is comfortable with her coming in.

It is also important to be a good listener. Many elderly people don't have too many people that will listen to them and they are very grateful to have someone like you listening to them even if you really don't care.

In other words, she is not really annoying if your grandmother doesn't have a problem with her coming in and out, but it wouldn't hurt to talk to your grandmother about the situation.

Answer 6

Well, she's your grandma's friend, and she's like a lot of old people in that she likes to talk and share stories and just gossip. I have a 95-year-old aunt who does the same thing.

You won't like this, but just be a good listener. Smile and nod, ask a question now and again. She sees you much differently - much more positively - than you see her.

She might not be near her own grandchildren - if she has any. You're her surrogate - let her feel good by letting her talk to you.

Answer 7

If Grandma doesnt mind her walking in then those are her rules and you have to respect that. The lady seems like she is lonely and just wants a friend so be nice and make her yours. Older people are full of lifes experiences and have good advice and lots of wisdom.

Answer 8

Tell her politely that "Could you please respect my privacy? I don't mean to be rude but I feel as if I'm being watched over, I feel like a teenager getting checked upon by a parent every moment the door opens. It would be wonderful if you could call before you come. This is very distracting for me, maybe you could discuss your problems when I'm not around.

You should be respectful, yet straightforward.
Good Luck!

Answer 9

When she does it look at your watch and say well I gotta go, and leave.

Answer 10

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