It's the same 'ol, same 'ol story - meet, sleep together by the 1st few dates, move in quickly, then discover that there are things you don't know or found out about the person. Why don't people bother to get to know others before plunging into relationships without any thought?
2007-11-04 13:39:58 · 32 answers · asked by ♥ Shell ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Amy:
I think it has alot to do with the psyche
of young women who are far too young
to even consider getting married or
establishing long term relationships.
Men?
All we wish to do is get laid by any
Hottie, & have fun! Most of us do
NOT wish for girlie Drama in life.
We are pretty shallow!
Most of the time it is the girls who
push forward the idea of marriage~
& all the predictable ideas in their head.
Little 18 yr olds say:
"I am just So in love"!
They have NO Clue!
Our brains are NOT fully developed
until around 25!
BTW~
Is it just me~
or is this Yahoo Answers Site merely
a continuous recording of predictable
posts that state:
"Am I In Love?"
"How do I find a bf?"
"What should I do?"
"Is he cheating?"
"How do I approach him?"
"I like my best friends bf!"
"Should I go out with him?"
"Do you think he is cute?"
"What do you think of this IM from him?"
"Why didn't he call me?" .........
On & ON~
Ad Nauseum
Yes~ it's very predictable!
Solutions?:
If you are young, just have FUN!
Don't be so dramatic! Date as
many people to gain experience!
Wait until you are at least 25 yrs. old+
before you even consider getting married.
Never, ever ~move in with a lover!
Get to truely KNOW them for about
3 years + before you sign your marriage
contract! And get a Pre-Nup!
2007-11-04 14:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by LedHead 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the days of the man earning the living and the woman taking care of the domestic stuff are long gone. Everyone does everything now and there are less clearly defined gender roles. As a result, people don't need to rely on the other partner as much, thus the value of relationships are greatly diminished. Its much easier these days to just tell someone to "f" off as soon as any little thing goes wrong, where in the past they might have been more likely to forgive and forget. Not that this new way is bad or good, its just different. I really get sick of hearing women complain about wanting to be "independent" and at the same time wondering why they can't hang onto a guy. Its a paradox.
2007-11-04 13:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by partyinmypants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heard the old saying...."Fools rush In?"
Well that's what you have here. I just had a man leave a message on my cell phone at 5am telling me he loved me and please don't run. This is after 2 or 3 dates.
Please don't patronize me. If I can say I have learned anything, it would have to be don't rush the relationship.
I am no spring chicken mind you. Most women my age are "desperately seeking Rubin" so to speak. And the men are just as bad. They feel like the clock is ticking once you are in your late 40's to 50's.
Not me , well not me anymore. I have made those mistakes before and yes you are correct, I could predict everything that would happen if I accepted the rushing approach. For me, it does not work.
It takes time to get to know someone, and time is all I have, so I guess it's what's you do or don't do during those precious times, but don't rush for goodness sake.
Being older has it's advantages of knowledge. It took me a long time to become disciplined but I can honestly tell you I am not going to keep repeating the same mistakes over and over. This just comes with taking charge of your own life without being manilupated into rushing.
If you meet someone and you are head over heels for them, I still say date and get to know them. Enjoy your time together and yes again. don't sleep on the first second or third date.
If it's meant to be, it will happen, better to protect your heart and reputation than rush in and find out NO WAY, whew am I glad I did't confuse the relationship any more by having sex for gosh sakes ::))
2007-11-04 13:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because sexual relationships have become the new version of "good friends" in the modern social world.
It wasn't too long ago that people met over dinner a few times and decided to get hitched.
Society evolves to meet the needs of the people. At least, the majority of people.
2007-11-04 13:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Super Jules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are living in fantasies and never think about the unexpected when they are in relationships. When someone thinks they are in love, they will just believe and trust in their partner and never think about anything going wrong. Also, the media influences are thoughts on how we should be in our relationships, which kind of ruin it because they think the relationships on TV help them.
I, on the other hand, am not like these people. I take relationships real slow to get to know and see if things are going in the right direction.
2007-11-04 13:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have a need to be in a relationship to feel loved, at least the case with some people. Other are to immature to realize the mistakes they are making. Then I'm sure theres other various reasons why people do stupid things like that.
2007-11-04 13:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by crystal_of_ravenclaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been wondering the same thing.
I've been wondering what happened to dating people for a while before you get serious.....and even dating more than one person at a time until you find someone who really interests you.
I think people move too fast....and get married too fast.
2007-11-04 13:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, or what one thinks is love makes people do stupid things... In my opinion, most individuals confuse lust, or a strong liking for love and think to themselves...it's time for the next step, hence moving in, screwing, having kids...blah blah blah. If people took a step back, reviewed the situation and said to themselves, wow...this person is unbelievable and it could really go somewhere and took their time...they're probably would be a lot less divorces within 2 weeks of marriage...haha. ...Kinda sad. Ugh...to answer your question...Dude...I don't know...people are retarded.
2007-11-04 13:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not necesarrily, maybe its just one side of the coin, there are relationships that work till the end, just that many people are so impulsive and want to rush things, based on their passion, not giving much thoughts.
2007-11-04 13:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by Krizia ^_^ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 08:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋