Hey everyone. I'm raquel. And my boyfriend has broken up with me after 6 month relationship and it seems like hell has broken loose ever since. My ex acts like he doesn't kno me at all and doesn't speak to me but to my sisters and my friends. I try to speak to him but he ignores me and keeps on walking. Does that mean he's not over me? Or that he blames me for everything? I'm just so lost because I wanna talk to him as just friends but it seems like he doesn't even wanna be that. And another question to go along with that. Now his really close friend likes me and I like him to..Is it wrong to date hime or is that just an unwritten rule made by others?? Someone please help me!! I would really appreciate the help. Simcerely,
Raquel
2007-11-04 13:35:23 · 15 answers · asked by lilballagurl16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say leave him alone. He broke it off. You don't need to stay friends.
2007-11-04 13:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raquel, you are not responsible for your ex acting like a jerk, and you shouldn't let anyone treat you like you don't exist. Is it because he's so not over you? Maybe, but if that's how he responds to love, with showing disrespect, I don't think you should really care.
About the friend, it is going to be awkward, and not the best idea, but if you find him a really nice person who can give you the love and respect that your ex couldn't give you then forget about all unwritten rules. Good luck!
2007-11-04 21:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Julie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Raquel, If your ex acts like he doesn't want to talk or have anything to do with you, I'd say, ok, its over for us and let him go. Maybe somewhere down the road he might want to be friends, but I'd say he is either too hurt, or too mad to even speak to you right now. Give it time, once you have been more than friends, it is hard to go back to just being friends. You will always have that relationship memory in your mind. As far as dating his close friend, put yourself in his shoes, how would you feel if he started dating your close friend? Wouldn't be very cool would it? I'd say look elsewhere, leave his friends alone. Believe me honey, boys talk and you don't want to be the center of their conversation! Just move on, and good luck to you.
2007-11-04 21:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Linda W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raquel, your ex-BF has you on High Ignore. It's for his reason...you don't need to know what it is. In the long run, it won't help you to know what it is. He's immature and is showing it in the way he treats an ex. Let it go. He is very likely WAY over you. Not the deepest of people, I'd bet big money.
Whether you date his friend doesn't have to go by "rules made by others." Date whomever you please...but if the friend is as deep as the ex, I'd pass on that doomed opportunity. Sounds like he's hot, like your ex probably was, and is pouncing at the first opportunity. You need to widen your circle of friends and choose your dates more carefully. Good luck, sweetie...sounds like you're going to need it!
2007-11-04 21:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by rb29440 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, stop worrying about your ex, you guys didnt break up because of how perfect everything was. Second, dont go for his friend because that is just a good way to cause more trouble for yourself. There are plenty of fish in the sea, find a new spot to drop your line.
2007-11-04 21:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ado 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me if your ex isn't giving you the time of day that he is really still up set with you and you should just go on a different path , i don't think it is to soon to see this other guy as long as you know in your heart once you take this path that there is no hope for rekindling what you had with your ex. over time he may speak with you . this could be a very long time. please move on and enjoy life theirs no need for you to be lonely or sad.
2007-11-04 21:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nice to remain friends after a break up but not neccessary. It's their loss you are obviously the mature one so move on...( some guy/girls get bitter or scorned) It is not important anyways ...that's why you two are not together anymore.
2007-11-04 21:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by CHRIS W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lilballa, Dear people are all different so if you are wondering leave him a note or some kind of message ! Everyone is fair game after you split !
2007-11-04 21:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think go for the mate and stuff him if he wants to be childish forget him. hes probably cranky cuz his mate likes you but if its been a fair while after the split then fine go for the mate. i just dont agree with ppl sleeping with their partners mates when they are still with them. if theres a gap between relationships and his mate is fine then go for it
2007-11-04 21:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignoring is the best way to deal for him i guess. and why not you ignore him as well and date his friend. theres no rule that says you cant date your ex's friends.
2007-11-04 21:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by -pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋