There is this girl I have known for around 9 years that I really like. She lives in the next town over and we both go to a summer camp where we met. Now we both work there. We are both 17 and I have liked her for along time. She is the easiest person to talk to. We talk on the phone for hours. I'm just not sure if she likes me. How should i tell her I like her and still be friends with her afterward if she says she doesn't like me?
2007-11-04 13:09:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just go for it, ask her out, or you'll never know, and if she says no, then oh wells, move on
2007-11-04 13:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's talking to you for hours on the phone, she's just a little bit interested in you. I'd try see what she does to various acts of intimacy.
Like kiss her on the cheek, start hugging her more, like everytime you see her, or whenever you leave. Put your arm around her when you guys are walking do it casually though, just throw your arm around her shoulders when you guys are walking and just keep talking to her like's it's completely natural what you just did(if you do it already anyway your ahead)
Flirt with her, compliment her, try to get her to blush, show that you like her as opposed to telling her. It might work better for you.And you've been friends for around 9 years you have a history, that's extremely important especially after high school.If she says she doesn't like you in an intimate way then talk to her, act like you used to before you did anything, eventually it'll go back to the way it was.
But seriously, don't just come straight out and say you like her especially after 9 years of platonic friendship, because she'll just shrug it off or be confused but she won't respond in the way you want her to, so you have to do the whole flirting thing and ger her to thinking about you guys as more.
2007-11-04 13:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by XOxKittyKissesxOX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also fell in love with my best friend. I took her to an amusement park. We had a lot of fun, lots of laughs. We got off the log ride, dripping wet and were hanging onto each other laughing. I just pulled her around and kissed her. She was surprised. I sort of apologized saying, "That just slipped out. I couldn't help myself." She smiled, and I added, "I really like you, you know. In fact, I've fallen in love with you." She said, "Yes, I know." And she kissed me back. Then she said, "I love you too." My point is, you have to say, or do something to break the status quo. If she hadn't returned the kiss, it wouldn't have destroyed the friendship. We had been good friends 7 yrs and best friends for months. It was easier for me to make the move during fun and laughter, than having a "serious talk." BTW, she proposed to me one week later. And we've been married over 40 yrs.
2007-11-04 13:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh gosh, this is so exciting!!!! im not creepy, thats just the same exact thing that happened to me. ok what my boyfriend did was after being friends FOREVER, when i was 16 he started talking to me more and more on the phone, we talked for hours, we'd start at like 8 and talk sometimes until 2 in the morning. everyone always picked on us and said we should go out. But i wasnt so sure, i didnt really like him in that way. but then he started showing a sweeter side. he was nice to me, and gave me compliments. Then one day he admitted he liked me, and then i started thinking of him differently. Then he asked me out, and i said no for like the first 80 times cuz it'd be wierd, but then i fell in love with him. If you guys have been friends for that long, and you really like her, just tell her. chances are, if you tell her what your thinking she will like you back. i been with mine for 2 years now, and i think best friends make good couples. it'll work out just be honest. good luck! sorry this is so long.
2007-11-04 13:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her! If you dont you will regret it for a long time to come especially since you have known her for a long time.
I think you would be better of knowing even if it ends your friendship (very worst case scenario which is not likely).
You will always miss 100% of the shots you dont take!
2007-11-04 13:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could casually ask her if she would like to go get something to eat with you on a date, or something along those lines.
If you really want to be sneaky though, "arrange" to have a friend invite you to double date with them and see if she says yes. lol.
It's always best to keep things casual at first though, no matter what you try.
2007-11-04 13:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...she lies the next town over...if you can drive...ask her to hang out. hang out...and just be yoursef. I mean if she puts in the time to talk to you she probably likes you too. esp if its on the phone. tell her face to face...and say soemthing like hey...listen i dont know how you feel...but i kinda wish that we could be more than friends..if sh stares blankly andgoes uhh...and then follows with ano...say ok, well i jstu had to kow...no hard feelings...and give her a high five or some camp thng you do to show friendship...it keeps it lightearted and youll now waht to do.
2007-11-04 13:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by 00000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to go to the movies or out to dinner with you. As your good friends this wont seen out of the ordinary. If she says no. She doesnt see you as more than a friend. If she says yes then spand time together, go on more dates and see how it goes from there. Goodluck
2007-11-04 13:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that she is the easiest person to talk to: just tell her. More than likely, she is mature enough to still be your friend, even if she doesn't like you.
2007-11-04 13:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by colin_rpg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, plus not to be a downsider but if it dosent work out like most age 14-21 relationships you may ruin your good friendship.
2007-11-04 13:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm good question..but if she is easy to talk then,then you should have no problem telling her.
(Maybe slip her a note,or get it in the conversation)
Most of us girls like it when the guy makes the first move.
And you'll never know unless you try,right?
Good luck!^_^
2007-11-04 13:15:47 · answer #11 · answered by abyss_guardian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋