ok this is kinda weird i know but the thing is my sister in law gets pissed over the littlest stuff and i watch there 17 month old but i watch her like 12 to 14 hrs a day and they don't pay me either. i am a touchy person and don't have the heart to tell them cause i don't like people mad at me but it's not thats shes a bad kid it's just that i have to have surgery on my knee and am going to college in the fall but i love my niece i feel like she's my kid i mean i raised her basically ,and i can't talk to my brother cause he won't understand because she has him whooped so bad that she has already started to turn him against my mom. any suggestions PLEASE!!
2007-11-04 13:01:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell them that you're busy preparing for college and you need time to get ready. Remind them you also need surgery and you don't think it's healthy for you to spend much time with young children, especially if it could hinder your health. Then, suggest a babysitting company, neighbor, friend, or relative who could be interested in babysitting. They'll be more likely to listen to you if you offer alternatives and reasons for your inability to continue watching their child.
2007-11-04 13:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sassi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
12 to 14 hours a day? No pay? I'd have quit that a LONG time ago! What do they do that keeps them out of the home for that period of time?
In any case, just what alot of the other's have said. Your having surgery and starting up school soon. You will be needing that time to recover and study. But that you'd love to have visits with your niece as much as possible! Maybe even over-nighters on a weekend night. Good luck hon!
By the way. there is an organization, I believe it's called Child Care Partnerships, that your brother can look into. THEY pay you to watch the baby!! Look into Human Resource
2007-11-06 07:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by drews_mama_jama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calmly tell them, "I love my niece and it's been great looking after her. However, now I need to move on in my own life and find a job." Everyone needs money, and if your brother and sister-in-law don't understand that, then that is not your problem. If they're not paying you for those long hours, then it hardly benefits you (except for the quality time you're spending with your niece). It sounds like your brother and sister-in-law have been taking you for granted, which is not fair. Eventually they'll have to find a new sitter, so why not start now? Give them notice a week or so in advance so that they can begin looking for new sitters without having to panic. Just say, "I was thinking about staying for another week while you look for a new sitter."
Just remember - it is not your job to raise your niece. You have done them a favour, but now you need to live your life and they need to find a new person to look after their daughter. You have the right to move on in your life.
XOXO,
Laurie
2007-11-04 13:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister-n-law and brother you are not going to be able to babysit for them any longer and give a two week notice so they may find daycare or someone else to watch your niece. If they ask the reason you can explain about your surgery, school and income situation (that is reason enough). You can still be a wonderful aunty to her. Sounds like she will definitely need you later on in life with her father who doesn't speak/think for himself, or mother who is outspoken for the wrong things.
2007-11-12 10:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by cure_eeh_us 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Hey guys,
So I just wanted to let you know that I won't be able to watch _____ anymore. I'm just so busy with school and my upcoming surgery. Thanks for understanding."
You are being taken advantage of, and if you don't stand up now, you'll be walked over your whole life. You could potentially sacrifice your education and health to raise your niece. It's time to cut the strings
Good luck.
2007-11-04 13:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do or dont do, some people will be mad at you...some people will not like you no matter how hard you try to please them..you can squeeze yourself into a pretzel and it wont be enough...SO...........family or no family..... BE HONEST!!!!!!!!!!! Tell them what you told us..that you are moving ahead with your life and you will no longer be able to babysit.....if they can not be supportive of your goals, I would question the value of the relationship. Sure, offer alternatives if you can but be firm in your conviction...you want to improve your own life. This is NOT selfish and very healthy. They are big people..they have the capacity to solve their own problems...trust that!!!!
And have a ball in school!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-04 13:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are sorry that you cannot look after your niece b/c you are looking for a job. Who doesn't need money? Then look for a job and get one. You could even get one as a nanny, but make sure you are paid! Aren't you going to need money in the fall when you go to school?
2007-11-04 13:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell them straight out in front of them both that you are having surgery on your knee and going to college and you will need to give themt wo weeks to findsomone else to baby sit. and be done with it. yep, with no money even relative there should have beens omething given. that is the best way be driect and not mean take care.
2007-11-04 13:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 08:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids' a brat, find another sitter!
2007-11-04 13:08:37 · answer #10 · answered by kinky_scotty 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋