I can usually help with these things but damn
Her father drinks alot and she found him passed out tonight...she dosent want AA for him though. WHAT DO I DO??
Im a guy , so tak it from my point of view thx
2007-11-04 12:57:52 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Ask how badly she wants her father seriously injured or killed when he's drunk. It isn't safe for anyone but when people are drunk they can fall and will not be able to do anything to break their fall. The possibility of a broken skull is a consequence that can cause permanent brain damage No drunk is safe walking while drunk but older people are seriously injured much more often and they don't heal very well from injuries.
2007-11-04 13:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by redd headd 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well i depends how far her father is in terms of an alchoholic. If he dosent like talking about it, then he needs some help, really she is in trouble if she dosent want AA or any other organization. Try to convince her that Maybe AA is the best option but choose ur words carefully
2007-11-04 13:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not your decision to make, its not even your friends decision. Her father is an adult and may not take being told what to do and what not to do from his daughter very well. Going to AA is a personal choice and having someone make you go defeats the purpose. Unless your friend is in danger from this behavior I think you should stay out of it, she probably does not like problems with her home life being brought up when she is trying to hang out with her friends. She can tell her father that his behavior is upsetting her but other than that it is his own decision if he wants help. If it it causing your friend a lot of emotion distress she may wan tot start attending Al-Anon meetings herself. Also finding someone passed out drunk once does not make them an alcoholic.
2007-11-04 13:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want AA meetings for him? First off. It depends how old this girl is. Are there other younger kids in the house? Is the girls mother in the picture? If she doesnt' want AA meetings for him, will she consider rehab?
Do you talk to her father? You could possibly talk him into rehab by telling him he could run into a hot chick like Lindsey or Brit. There could be hot chicks in rehab. I am not making light of the situation. You just have to have your friend find the one thing that will help him to want help. There is always Church. Good luck.
2007-11-04 13:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by dragonslayer_74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes ppl who love family members who are alchaholics or have other problems, are 'enablers.'
That means that they are used to covering up the problem for the family member who has it. Keeping it a secret from the outside world becuase that's what they've been taught, or because they feel that is a way to show their love and loyalty for the family member.
So. . . . if she doesn't want AA, and she wants to just put him to bed, call his boss in the morning to say he's 'sick', she's an enabler.
Nothing you can do about that. You have to just wait until she's willing to let him get the help he needs and not to 'cover ' for him.
So, if you can't agree with how she wants to handle it, you have to just listen.
2007-11-04 13:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by pansyblue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In 1st through 3rd grade my mother was an alcoholic. It was scary when I found her lying unconsciously on our front yard. I immediately called 911 for help, but it felt like it took forever for them to come. I suggest you find a hospital with your friend together for her father to help him get better. It is going to take a while, and you never know if he will drink again. But if he is in a facility that will help him 100 percent of the time I am sure everything will turn out alright. Just support her, and tell her that she is not alone. It might be hard for her to hear at first, but she will understand. I hope this helps, and I hope everything will be ok.
2007-11-04 13:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She needs to keep an eye on him and make sure she's breathing all right and doesn't choke on his own vomit. She should really call the paramedics, but I don't think she'll do that. She can't make him go to AA until/unless he's ready, but she shouldn't enable him either. The man could seriously hurt himself or someone else in that condition. Really push her to got to Al-Anon meetings, where she can learn to cope with his behaviors and meet other people in her situation.
2007-11-04 13:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by justme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her mother if possible, an adult would be the best person to approach the situation. If she wants to casually bring up the subject have her print out some info offline about getting help or cirrhosis of the liver or how it effects your family and see if maybe she could leave it in plain view for him to find it.good luck. she needs a friend like you.stay by her side.
2007-11-04 13:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by †Fakey McFakerson♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she should talk 2 him when he's sober about quitting and tell him that she doesn't want him to be drunk all the time. My father had a drinking problem and he quit because my family practically begged him to. We got locked out of the house once when he was passed out so we spent the night in a hotel.
2007-11-04 13:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by Adri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her father definitely needs some professional help if his drinking is getting out of control around his children. While she may not want to, she needs to get some outside help. She shouldn't do this on her own. She CAN'T do this on her own. Be responsible and lead her in the right direction.
2007-11-04 13:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Jena 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋