I'm in my late 20s, have a professional career and I'm desperate to go overseas and work, but my dad treats me like a teenager and thinks its unsafe. He's always saying he has "seen too much".
He says I can do what I want when I'm married, but I have no plans to do that in the next few years.
I feel sheltered and stuck. I want my independence and am so ready to crack. Everytime I mention moving out or overseas, he asks if I'm hating my life and family.
What to do?
2007-11-04 12:35:41 · 6 answers · asked by lojix 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If I get desperate, I'm tempted to rebel like stop paying rent or chipping in for bills.
2007-11-04 12:59:01 · update #1
My dad let's my older brothers do whatever they want.
Its also is a bit of a cultural thing.
2007-11-04 13:07:57 · update #2
he probably feels alone, having his little girl leaving. i guess he's not ready for you to leave yet. the best thing to do is show him how grown up you are, but let him know that you'll always be his little girl. reassure him, he sure needs it. plan the move with him so he can know how to contact you. if he says that he's seen too much, tell him that you haven't and that you need to see the world in your own perspective. its time to make your own mistakes and create your life. but always have him there, in the background. that way he wont feel left out, making him think there's no room for him in your heart. good luck
2007-11-04 12:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by Hadriana E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are way past adulthood. It sounds like this cultural. Any American parent would have encouraged you out and on your own a long long time ago.
So what you have to decide is are you a professional adult, or a little girl. You do not need your fathers permission to do anything you want if you are an American. If you aren't, then you are the only one who knows if this is possible in your culture.
Oh and you are too old to be rebelling. That's for teenagers.
2007-11-04 13:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad seems to be in denial. He probably doesn't accept the age you are. You actually should have left home years ago. What you need most right now is to talk to a counselor to build confidence, the self-confidence your dad has not allowed you to develop. Then you'll feel strong enough to make it clear to your dad that you have your own life and you intend to live it. You have to be Strong. You know he will try to hold you back. Oh, I wish I lived near you to help you. Best of luck, girl.
2007-11-04 12:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its good to have a father who cares about you and if he really has sheltered you as much as you say then there are probablly alot of things that you will come to see that will blow your mind! but he can not control you and hide you from the evil thats in the world forever and you are over 18 so you are an adult. if you can finically handle living on your own take that job overseas.
2007-11-04 12:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by NAF SREWSNA OOHAY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad did what he wanted to as an adult - so can you. MOVE - don't live your life through your dad. He's trying to guilt you into not going because he is worried about you. BUT, you have to live your life and be happy! Do it! I did and have never regretted it.
2007-11-04 12:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult...just do what you want. He is afraid to lose you. Just explain to your dad that you will love him no matter where you are. But you have to live your own life.
2007-11-04 12:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by ghkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋