okay me and my boyfriend tend to get in many fights. mainly because i am the type of person that likes bein with him alot and he on the otherhand enjoys doing his own thing. Alot of times it makes me feel like he dsnt even want to be with me anymore but he swears that is not the case. How much time do you think that a couple of two years should spend together?
2007-11-04 12:27:28 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is no answer for that, it ALL depends on the couple.
You sound very insecure. NO guy likes to be smothered....give him what space he wants...and find some interests of your own....if you dont, you'll lose him and never have a successful relationship
2007-11-04 12:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time you guys should spend with each other, you have to do what's best for your relationship. I think you need to understand that he is the type that likes to do his own thing, and he needs to understand that you want attention a lot of the time.
Without an understanding of each other it's going to be very hard to get any where. Make sure you keep the lines of communication open, and try to make meet him in the middle.
2007-11-04 20:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by LovelyBella73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Length has nothing to do with how much time you spend together, it's the maturity of the couple and the health of the relationship.
If you're fighting a lot, look at what you're fighting about. Maybe it's just not working out. A couple shouldn't be having these kinds of fights.
Work on your communication skills. Ask him what he thinks is acceptable and tell him what you think. Talk about a compromise.
If you can't do that, you shouldn't be dating.
2007-11-04 20:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by kaye t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot atleast 5-6 hours A DAY I spend every weekend with my girl of 4 months ( mainly due to her work ) so if that is any kind of picture for you I hop it helped
2007-11-04 20:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is not the question you should be asking, as different people and relationships don't require the same needs, it is often individualistic. It matters not what others say, what matters is, you both have different idea's of how much time should be or is needed together. How much time do you feel you need? Remember, he too, has his needs and the relationship is about both of you. Maybe then, both could co-operate and meet half way.
2007-11-04 20:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your obviously your not that compatible. He likes to do his own thing and you like to be with him. To me it sounds like he wants to get away from you for awhile but you don't want that. You should probably spend a good amount of time together but the keep a relationship fresh you might need to allow him to do what he wants (as long as it it isn't cheating of some form). To shackle and chain your partner does not create happiness and trust.
2007-11-04 20:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres not a simple answer...theres no "if youve been togehter this long, this is how much you need to spend..' it totally varies,
Some people just need a little room in there relatinship, some freedom..but that in no way means they dont love you as much as you love them..there just wired differently than you..they dont see it the same way..and thats not bad
Just understand that he likes some freedom..doesnt mean he doesnt loves you...and just dont worry about it
2007-11-04 20:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by Southprince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's such a thing as being too smothering. Read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, and for sure you'll make the relationship stronger.
By the way, have as much girls as friends as you can. Guys don't think like girls by the way, I've learned it the hard way, well...unless they were gay.
2007-11-04 20:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you an your boyfriend need to do is ask him do he want to be with you.Just like micheal jackson he sing i"ll will be there.so play that an call him an bring him over your house to talk to each other.To see whats going on with you 2 relationship.because it doesn't makes sense for him to act like that.You know what he wants he wants more attetion.If he don't want that.Just listen to this sing this song to him micheal jackson saying that i will be there.He will probably cry or think about something what you trying to do to ask him why is he doing that to u.So buy him something that he like.Jus t don't give it to him just ask him do you want to be with me or not.And stop fighting you r acting like a little kid.you to suppose to love one another thats whats probably whats wrong with the probably.See have he been drinking.And stop all that fighting because u know that he loves you an u love him.well thats all i got to say i hope my answer come out right.
2007-11-04 20:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a couple doesn't mean that you need to spend every waking moment together. don't you want to do things on your own, too? if you're still this insecure after 2 years, it's time to re-think your compatibility with this guy.
2007-11-04 20:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋