I want to meet a good looking but decent guy, but so far, of the guys I have met, the good looking ones are full of themselves, and the other ones that seem to be interested in me I'm not interested in them, they are either way too short, or I have nothing in common with them.
2007-11-04 12:24:34 · 18 answers · asked by funky_lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have that problem too. I'm now 35 and have no prospects. I think we're being too picky.
2007-11-04 12:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by RadTech - BAS RT(R)(ARRT) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got it. So the real question is, what are you really committed to? If it is finding a really great guy, how he looks would have nothing to do with it. And pardon me for saying this, but I used to do it is how I could. So, are you just complaining about it because you really either don't want a relationship or have some other issue about yourself that you are not saying? Like, for example, do you truly, 100% feel you are worthy of a great relationship with no little voice in the background telling you otherwise? If so, work on getting your self esteem up before worrying about anyone. You cannot find a man to love you until you can love yourself. You also cannot accept others until you accept yourself and without acceptance, there is no room for love to show up.
2007-11-04 12:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by Cutiepie88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahahaha there is never a 'shortage' of short guys who are available. LOL. (no offense guys, but it's a tall girl's complaint!)
You need to just get out there. I always have met guys in evening or weekend classes I took at the local community college...classes in foreign language or some sort of athletics...soccer....weights...tennis..softball.
If you're spiritual, check out churches. Get a gym membership. Best thing I think though is to get involved in extra curriculars...so either the leisure class at the local comm. college, or joining a softball team or becoming a local at a couple of hotspots where great bands play :)...maybe even picking up a shift or two on the side as an excuse to be there so often :)
2007-11-04 12:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.CherCher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most good looking people, male and female, think they have something up on others. But beauty fades or can be lost in an instant. A good heart can come in any shape or form. Are you sure you know the guys you say you have nothing in common with well enough to say that? Maybe you should expand your area. I know its hard being lonely, But stop looking so hard for love...Let it come to you.
2007-11-04 12:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by Wondering.... 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it's some sort of communications problem here lol. Cuz tons of good looking, NICE girls are all saying the same thing. Good looking nice guys are taken. Good looking guys are jerks. and than there are the guys who are nice but kind of creepy (I know it sounds superficial but seriously at least in my experience those guys who mean well can come across as stalkers). But than there are those good looking, NICE guys who seem to have the same problems!!!! Why can't us girls and guys ever seem to meet up???
2007-11-04 12:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Dani K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in life you cant be so picky. I am the same way ... I know what I want, and think to myself ... Im not gonna settle for anything less. well My dear to an extent you have to give in. Drop your standards a little and you will find an amazing guy! And you always find one when you arent looking. Be patient Whats meant to be always finds its way to you...Just try meeting new people First...
2007-11-04 12:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can give ya as far as advice goes, and take it to heart cuz it's actually true:
quit looking
I know, everyone thnks that it sounds so mean, that you shouldn't say tht and all, but it's completely true. God is preparing someone for you RIGHT now, and this VERY MOMENT. And, wouldn't you rather have it as a surprise, waiting for you? God is preparing someone for you right now that is going to be perfect for all of your needs. So, if you just back off a lil, and wait a lil while, that perfect guy might just land right in front of you...
God bless, and good luck!
2007-11-04 12:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Cullen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to re-evaluate what is important to you. Good-looking shouldnt be a top priority. Find someone who you share lots of common interests, and can have lots of fun and fulfilling quality time together is way more important. Remember, beauty fades. You need to value people's inner attributes, rather than focus on the exterior attributes
2007-11-04 12:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Brad 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you can try to go to the next town or some online service but neither has a guarantee you'll find the right guy. Also you can lower your standards for looks for personality but that's entirely up to you.
2007-11-04 12:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. in my area, guys dont usually like white girls and the other guys i liked didnt return interest, and the guys that liked me were some of my best friends. =P but for me, i go out into the suburb malls and there are plenty of hot guys who return the interest =] try a mall out of your area a little, but still close enough to live close to those guys
2007-11-04 12:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by Ducky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. In my community, it is the same. But instead, they are all stuck up and really hideous!
In my community, we have some people who are like "matchmakers". you go to them, talk to them a little about yourself, and tell them what kind of guy/girl youre looking for. They get lotsa people like that, so eventually you are destined to find a perfect one! If you dont have that, then just wait. it takes time. go to hangout spots, go with your friends alot and tell your friends to bring friends. maybe one of your friends friends will be mr. perfect!
2007-11-04 12:30:00 · answer #11 · answered by Person... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋