I get sooo freaked out when walking to the bus stop!!!?

Question

its dark and i always feel like someones watching me....i cant really walk with anyone, all my friends live in opposite area of the neighborhood.

What to do!?!?!?!?!?!

Answer 1

This will be a long answer,
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on
what they look for in a potential victim and here are some
interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for
women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly . Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone , searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number two: is office parking lots/garages. Number three: is public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged
because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question , like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here," "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the
arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings , take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if
the guy really was trouble.

1 . Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse.
RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3.If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc, and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS
YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5 . A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or
parking garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the
passenger door Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than
dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control,
ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it , but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----
This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.


This was an email someone sent to me.. I have worked with women who were victims of rape and a lot of times these women really were not paying attention to their surroundings.. Just be alert and try to follow some of these tips..

Answer 2

Honestly I would never walk anywhere at nighttime by myself. Driving at night is ok, but not walking out to my destination. This world is filled with crazy people, and anyone’s safety is worth paying for a cab or getting picked by a close friend or family. I know a cab driver can be a whacko too, but it's safer then walking. You have less of a chance of being in danger, rather then when you’re walking you’re out in the open. If you have no choice then I suggest you carry some type of protection with you, make sure to always have a phone, and never stand in the dark where no one can see you (just in case someone is watching you at least they will know that anyone can see you so maybe they wont try anything). I saw on TV once that you could easily be targeted if you even look like you’re not being aware of your surroundings, so look around periodically while walking. Final, definitely carry a small flashlight. Be safe, and I hope I didn’t scare you. Peace.

Answer 3

I actually read all that... and understood. Well, my hubster is up in Dallas and I'm at my mom's watching my nephew. Been pretty lonely, since everyone else is either working or at school. It's nice, cold and sunny outside, fixing to drop below freezing sometime soon. We don't get snow, not down here, not too often. I've actually been on Y!A now for over an hour! Go figure... I'm bored out of my wits while my mom watches some annoying Spanish gossip show and my nephew silently plays with his toy cars. All is good though... =)

Answer 4

Salam

Take Allah SWT with you where you go and go back to Allah SWT in your home inshAllah be khair. Make dua when yo leave and when you enter your home for safe return inshAllah and passages. Stay with the guidance of Allah SWT in all times and you will find yourself no longer looking back as to who is not there and who is. What is your intention to going to the bus stop, its taking the bus right. InshAllah those who made the stop, have made it in such ways you can be seen and protected in that enviorment. You can study the stop and see what is needed for you to be more secure and give notice to whom ever owns it. That is a good start if you really fell something is wrong there. Did you talk to the bus driver about the stop and ask him if its safe. I am sure the driver knows more than the company itself.

Answer 5

Insha Allaah make du3aa to Allaah to protect you.
pepperspray and a cell are a must. and I would also turn my cell to silent...I'm paranoid..lols just in case I get into trouble no one knows I have a cell if it rings..lolz.

yep I'm truely, paranoid. I hide all my kitchen knives b4 I sleep my hubby thinks I should go and see a shrink.

Read ayyatul kursi while walking.
and remember the powerfull du3aa of prophet Ibraheem(as)
7asbunallaahu wa ni3mal wakeel.

Answer 6

yeah me too.. and i moved to another city and i found that men here arnt afraid to call a women. its really disgusting and i just keep walking.. my bus stop is a block away from my house so i really dont worry much cuz my friends are there... when i feel unsecured i talk on my cell phone so i dont feel all lonely.. and if anything happens my friend on the phone will know.. anyhow take care of yourself and think positive..

Answer 7

Pray Fajr in jama'a (with father, mother, brother, or sister--at least you and someone else) because who prays fajr in Jama'a is under the protect of Allah SWT all day. Also, get a CD player on MP3 player (or something like that) and listen to Qur'an on your way. Qur'an is a great way healing, relaxing, and assurance to those who believe in Allah and the Last day. Last, but definitely no least, depend on Allah and say the Du'a before you leave. Here's a link for the book of supplications. http://www.islamhouse.com/p/39062 (choose the file type you want and save it) This book is excellent.

Answer 8

Recite Ayatul Kursi for protection before you leave home. I always do this. During the winter it's still dark here in the morning and I have to go by myself so I always recite Ayatul Kursi. I go without fear knowing that Allah is watching over me.
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Answer 9

C if u can get a ride from some1.Going and staying there alone is pretty dangerous.

Answer 10

I always make this duaa and it always makes me feel better:

bism allah allathy la yaduru ma' 3a ismihy shay' an ma fil ardy wa ma fil sama' a wa huwa al samee3u al aleem ( 3 times).

Try to walk with members of your family ( brother, father) if possible.

Answer 11

Do you say the duaa of leaving the home? "Bismillah, tawkkaltu ala Allahi, wa- la hawla wa-la quwwata illa billah." "In the Name of Allaah, I put my trust in Allaah. There is neither might nor power except with Allaah." Say this duaa
and put your trust in Allaah.