Why does my sister hate me?

Question

I found my little half sister on Facebook that I had only met once and I haven't seen her or my father for about 11 years or so. I contacted her with a fake Facebook account because I did not want to invite her to my friends list if it was the wrong person. When I found out it was really her I canceled the fake account and reinvited her to my real one. Ever since I did that she refuses to talk to me and won't even tell me why she doesn't want to talk. This is very strange because she had told me that she had some things she wanted to tell me and even asked me if she was coming on too strong. I told her of course not, I have always loved you, etc.
My dad and my grandparents had mentioned something about her possibly being jealous and my dad said something about her always having what she wanted and being the apple of his eye. I don't feel she has any reason to be jealous. Can someone please shed some light on this situation?! Thanks.

FYI I am her sister, not her brother. I'm a woman.

Answer 1

huh. Maybe she is upset about the other account... I dont know. Maybe go to her in person and ask her.. Good luck

Answer 2

You know, I can only speak from my own experience and the sort of shared ones from people close to me, but this isn't too uncommon. It seems that there is a lot of different pressures and it's just such a bizarre social time in your high school years that siblings will tend to drift. It may take time, but you sort of reprioritize as you get older and these things end up reversing themselves. At some point you'll just find a common ground and the trend will start to go the other way. Just keep being cool, and hopefully she'll come around soon enough. Either way far more often than not it's just a phase. I highly doubt that she HATES you. People use those years to start filling into their identity and sometimes things take a shift. It'll be cool. She's probably just figuring herself out. I'm the youngest by 5 years which creates a whole different dynamic, but I have two sisters who are separated by 2 years. I remember they were sharing a room, and they ended up getting so furious with each other that one of them moved into a walk in utility closet as an alternative to sharing the room. Now a days they are really great friends. You said some of the dispute is over sharing, sometimes, especially when you've done that all through your life, you will rebel against any sort of a fused identity. (now I'm just getting way too arm chair shrink on you, but the point is these things work themselves out).

Answer 3

Of course she is jealous. She does not need to have real reasons for it. If she does not want to have a relationship with you I would just let it go. You have been nice and done your part; now it is her turn. She is obviously dealing with some issues and is not ready to be close to you. The situation might change in the future as you both mature and grow older or it may not. I have half siblings and I am not close to them; there is always competition in these situations. Just dont blame it on yourself.

Answer 4

Umm to me it sounds like she could be just a little jealous. I mean i was in this same situation. I have a sister on my mothers side that i have only seen 2 times in my whole life. And i mean, its very confusing to me to know that i have another older sister. And like sometimes im mad cause i cant see her the way i want to, or talk to her the way i want to. All because we don't have a close relationship. And if she is smaller than you, then maybe she is mad cause she's wondering where have you been? Or maybe how come you don't go see her or something like that. Or, she could just be confused or something. Many people have different feelings, and you never know how they feel until you try to talk to them. So my best advice to you is, to try to explain to her you know whats been going on and stuff. And try to tell her that's it's not all Ur fault. And maybe she will understand and overcome all anger! Its worth a try! And i hope i helped...

Answer 5

does she know about the other facebook? maybe she feels played. or maybe she has issues going on at home and you may have said something that reminded her of them. it could be so many things but it most likely isnt you so dont fret. try to get your dad to talk to her and see whats up. maybe she is reacting that way because the things she has to tell you are serious, or atleast seem serious to her, and now that you have contacted her she realized she is not ready to tell you and she is snapping back in order to prevent a situation where she has to tell you from coming up


hope this helps!

Answer 6

Maybe because since your half sister found out about your fake account, she might feel uncomfortable talking to you or she's not ready to talk to you yet. She will answer and start talking to you again when she's ready but for now, i'm guessing that she need to trust more in you to talk to you.

Answer 7

Dishonesty will get you nowhere, when dealing with relations, it's best to be as honest as possible, and even though you didn't mean any harm, this is obviously the way this person or your half sister is taking it. My personal advice to you is back off, don't chase her asking her to talk to yu, their will be a time she needs to speak with you and all will be fine, she just needs a little time to think about what just took place.

Answer 8

seems like someone has a problem only one way to fix that buddy ur gonna have to get straight to the source and talk to her about whats bothering her asking people this and that wont change any resultsf she has a problem with u and its important that u find out why the longer u let this happen the worst itll get.i dont know much about any of you nor ur half sisters past time so not much i can say about that but you should emphasize this method with any family problems.hope it helped some what


ps.or it could be she was abducted by aliens and now they have control of her and u dont even know it.....that could be it ...maybe....right?......no.....well what about....green.....donuts.........shoes...

Answer 9

Please don't feel that way, your sister loves you dearly she just doesn't know how to show or tell you. I'm a baby sister and my sister was always with her fathers side. We have never gotten along that well, but when it comes down to it she is still my sister. Maybe what you need to do is go get her and you guys go out for a sisters day out. I think that she would really love to spend some sister sister time with you. Believe me TRY IT!!!!

Answer 10

She, knowing about you is insecure. You are your fathers first born. That is something that scares her. you could , in her mind have your father start seeing you again. She can't have that happen. She knows he left you and there is a possibility he will do that to her. she is jealous of you, strange huh?

Answer 11

if you live close surprise her at where she live and ask personally. She probably mad because your father might had spoke about you A LOT. If all fail, write her a note speaking hytpotheticly as if your someone else. If That dont cure your sore, I dont know, she probably young, send her a myspace request.