We move out of state live our friends and be close to my husband mother, becouse my family live in Europe. We have baby my son 11 month .I was thinking my mother in law be close to my son grove up with same family members. And we move. Here dont have no friends , she no visiting to see her grandson for 5 month , from my house to hers 15minuts, all the time we go visit her but she never come to see grandson. And i get angry stop visiting . NO fiting no nothing. She have son he 23years He get some girl pregnant bolth dont live togeher dont communicat with her. But my mother in law everyday visiting that girl and her grandson .And i in family for 4 years married her older son ,work have help her.
2007-11-04 11:23:02 · 6 answers · asked by tina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tina, I am so sorry your mother-in-law is behaving in this manner. I cannot tell you why she would act like this. Have you asked your husband why she is like this? Does he know why she is shunning your child? I think I would start by asking your husband....this may give you some insight.
Truly, it sounds as though you and your husband have done the right thing towards your mother-in-law. This is good as you are being a better person by showing love or, respect! Just because she is acting this way, does not mean you have to be as cruel! Good for you!! Now, I understand that you have gotten angry and I do not blame you but, do not let her behavior turn you into someone you will not like! Sometimes, we do things out of emotions and later, in life, we regret these things. So, I am pulling for you, Tina!! Keep being the wonderful person you have been as you are doing the right thing...she is not!
Tina, you cannot change another persons heart. If you decide to stay away, with the child, that is your right to decide. However, is it the right thing for your child? She is his grandmother and whether she likes this or not, he has the right to decide if HE loves HIS grandmother. It is hard for we Mom's to let our babies experience this but, we must! Truth, will always be best for our babies and they are not as stupid as some would think! Children are very perceptive!! Especially, when it comes to personalities!
This much I want you to know, I am praying that you will find likeminded friends so you will have a happier life. We all love and need friends! I ask God to touch the heart of your mother-in-law, so that she may see the beauty in her grandsons heart and precious life. That she will see that you and your husband loved one another enough to marry and then, start a family! As there is much goodness in you and your life. I am praying she will realize that you two have given her much and that was out of love. Through prayer, God can change things. I will remain in prayer for you and your family.
Please know that I am sincere when I say that I will pray and if you ever want to talk, e-mail me.
Gail
2007-11-04 11:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to talk to your mother in law about this? Maybe somehow she doesn't realize what she is doing. If she doesn't start visiting, you need to do what you feel is right for your son. If you want him to know his grandmother, take him to her. If you feel like you shouldn't have to always go to her, stop taking him.
2007-11-04 11:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe cause you "stole her baby" the oldest is always the one they seem to love the most bc they would A be the hardest to birth and B it was the first time they've experienced the pain and then the love and joy of motherhood, so maybe something in her mind puts u as the bad guy even if she doesnt realize it
2007-11-04 11:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by NeKo-ChAn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, the best thing you can do is pretend everything is fine and always be nice ot her. She'll freak over it and she'll look like th bad one.
2007-11-04 11:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband, what does he think? He knows his mother very well.
2007-11-04 11:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her how you feel
2007-11-04 11:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by NiCoLe i love my Chi cena! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋