mine does, and sometimes they are really scary. They get all drunk and everything and tell me to stay in my room and don't come down. They are really loud and smoke fills the air so I can't sleep. And then later I can hear them in her bedroom. I'm so embarrassed about all the different men all the time. I don't know what to do. I'm 14 by the way, so it's not like I can move out anytime soon. please help.
2007-11-04 11:16:34 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Call the police, they will probably take you away to some foster home. It sounds like you would rather live there then with your mom. Ask your mom too, she also has the authority to send you away if she feels like it. Good luck.
2007-11-04 11:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
I don't mean to judge and I don't mean no harm but I come from a different country and I have a hard time processing what I see about women in this country.It seems like they can't live without a man.I see on tv how mothers side with the boyfriends/husband's than the abused child.I have kids so I am all about children.I feel saddened everytime I see kids being abused or hurt in any certain way.You obviously are a good kid.Your parents doesn't define you,you should know that.If talking to your mom doesn't work,talk to any close relative or a trusted adult.If you are attending a church,talk to your pastor/minister.I think it is better if you would move in with relatives.You wouldn't know what will happen the next time your mother will bring another boyfriend.I pray this would never happen but it is better to be safe.
2007-11-04 11:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by xtyn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not tell your mom how you feel? The only advice I can give you is, learn from your mom's mistakes and don't repeat them. The best lesson in life is not to emulate things that you yourself don't admire in people. If any of those men ever lay a hand on you in any way, you call the police! Tell your mom that you are intimidated when she has these people over, since she doesn't know them that well, who knows what they are capable of??? Do you have any close relatives you can turn to? Luckily, you can always stay focused in school, get good grades and maybe go away to college. If you try hard and get outstanding grades you can get a scholarship to a school (far away). You know, if you set no limits on yourself, you can get ahead in life, make a good living, have a career that makes you happy and proud and you will have no need for constant attention from men to validate you. I know the future seems far to you, but it will be here before you know it, and the more you invest in yourself today, the more secure your future will be. Hang in there, good luck sweetie! be strong and always surround yourself with good friends!
2007-11-04 11:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon C 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Talk to a school counselor. They will help. School counselors look after your well being at school and at home and they are bound by law not to tell anyone if you do not want them to.
They will help determine if the situation at home is an unsafe one and if they feel it is, they will ask your mom to go to family counseloring with you and if she gets mad, the law will make sure that she does not do anything to hurt you.
The reason your mom is doing this is because she is lonely and going after men she feels she can easily get but the problem is, she has to let them be men in order for them to stay around and even worse, you are home.
If you feel the option I pointed out above is no good, talk to your mom about letting you stay over a friends house when she has her boyfriends over so that you do not have to hear them "hanging out". It will give them the privacy they want and get you away from that bad situation.
I'm sorry that you are dealing with this and I am sorry this is all I can say to you. I hope it helps.
2007-11-04 11:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by crazy_bklyn_freak 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
First off, thank god they are not trying to hurt you!
I think the best thing for you is to do what you are doing now-stay in your room and find an online counseling group. make sure its someplace that you can chat anonymously
you may be able to talk to a counselor at school too but that depends on how things are in your school.
also try to find some extracirricular activities that get you out of the house more often.
You could try talking to your mom but I dont want her to do what some parents have done and kick you out or get mad for talking to her. I know this is sad but its true-only you can guess how your mom will react.
My father died when i was young and my mom never dated while I was growing up so I can not relate to your situation. I am making these suggestions based on things friends of mine did to get out of bad situations.
I hope this helps. I will pray for you :-)
2007-11-04 11:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by msijg 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I'm so sorry you feel scared and embarrased. I can't relate to it but I can sure help you feel better. I am 13 and I think you need to maybe pray to God about it. I also think you may go to a trusted family member or a friend and talk to them about it. Maybe even talk to your mom which you should do by the way. I hope I helped you and I will be praying for you. Also if the men are abusing you or your mom in any kind of way you should call a teen abuse hotline or the police. He cannot hurt you if he can't get to you if he is abusive. Remember that.
2007-11-04 11:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
I am so sorry to hear this. This is an absolute disgrace your mother is deciding to enjoy herself over the view of looking after her daughter. Seek advice through your school to address the situation. Your mother may be a nice person; however she is overlooking her concerns instead of you. Ask your GP for consultation with your mother to address the situation. I understand you are a frightened & scared girl; however you are doing the right thing by erring your concerns. Hang in there!!!
2007-11-04 11:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
The best and only thing to do is stay in your room and not come out when a strange guy is there. You might get in trouble if you do. SO get some earphones and use them when someone is there, especially in her bedroom. Want to chat with someone jsut IM me anytime
2007-11-04 11:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
i know exactly what you mean. my parents divorced when i was nine, and my mom has been trying since to get married, but she will settle for any guy. even when she is in a serious relationship, she still sees other guys, and it hurts me to see my own mother lowering herself to that level. Also, she is completely biased about men with money. she even once broke up with a guy to be with a another guy who had more money. I feel like i can really help you on this issue, and if u want to continue talking to me my screen name is maximilion718 and my e-mail address is madmax718718@yahoo.com I am a 14 year old boy
2007-11-04 11:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
No, my mom is married.
If your mom is single, then I really wouldn't worry about it as long as the guys aren't hurting your mom. As for your not being able to sleep, well, that sucks, try a different room or ask your mom nicely to tone it down during the week so you can get your well needed rest as a fourteen year old. Oh yeah, why doesn't your mom have them smoke outside? Does she smoke?
2007-11-04 11:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋