Ok......dating this girl I'm 19. Anyway, we always foreplay for an hour plus, sex lasts for around 10-15 minutes....we both get off, but she seems to be a little upset I can't go again. Is this normal? Am I in the wrong here? Anything I can do to improve this?
2007-11-04 10:29:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, nothings wrong with you. Its normal for there to be a delay until you can get erect again, and that amount of time varies from person to person. For some 20 - 30 minutes, for some hours.
If she wants further stimulation after the act, try other things. Manually stimulating her, Oral, or even a sex toy, if she's willing.
But only if your willing too. It should always be a mutual pleasure or there's not much point.
2007-11-04 10:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you, if she gets upset then she is just going to have to deal with it. But what is normal for some is not for others and you can only be who you are and can only do what you can do. There are ways you can improve this as your only 19 it may be doing some or more exercises to improve your stamina or exercises to improve your mental state of mind as well as exercising regularly to keep your stamina up. But I would talk to her about it, ask her why she gets upset and explain to her why you can't go on again and hopefully she will understand. If she truly loves you or cares for you then she will understand, there are also other ways to make her get off again after sex if you can't keep going and she still wants to like more foreplay or getting her to play with her self while you touch her or whatever if you get my drift.
But the most effective and important element to a relationship is communication, if you don't she won't know what to do, react or what you are thinking and may think that you are being selfish and may leave or will affect the relationship between the two of you. Talk to her work something out between the two of you there are plenty of otherways to please her if you can't go again and she still wants to.
2007-11-04 18:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by Dancegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are hard during the entire hour of foreplay thats quite a long time for your age. At least by my 21 yr old standards.
She should be satisfied with over an hour of fun.
My advice: Make sure she is really telling the truth about getting off. When i was her age I faked about 80% of the time and lied lied lied. At 19 no one truly knows what gets them off and what their body responds to.
Also if you can't go again right away and she needs more "satisfaction" . Then pleasure her until she's had enough. You are not in the wrong.
2007-11-04 18:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kristiin Knows 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try slowing down the foreplay a little and try for longer sex...10 to 15 minutes is pretty short. As far as control, try thinking about something else ( ...Janet Reno in a thong always works for my hubby). As for going again, it's normal for a man not to be able to go again for about 30 minutes to an hour, but if you're seriously having issues getting it up again after that much time, talk to your doctor about that issue. You're young, you should be a walking hard-on.
My only question is what do you mean when you can't go again - how long do you wait til you try?
2007-11-04 18:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by Maria 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. For most men, it might take up to an hour for them to be "ready" to go again. (Not all men though, that is just an estimate) Suggest a little bit of cuddling and then jump back into that foreplay so that you are ready to go again. If she cares about you, she will understand. If not, then it may be time to move on....
2007-11-04 18:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by US Army Soldier 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of guys can't go again right away, especially if they've expended themselves a lot during foreplay and the act. She's wrong for acting that way about it.
2007-11-04 18:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jacob A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have to give you props for the long foreplay, but most guys cant go again, but what you can do is take Ogoplex Pure Extract[TM] it isn't like Viagra or any thing like that, this makes it so you can go for round 2, 3, 4 as long as she wants :)
2007-11-04 18:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by kel m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal for a girl to want more sex, But you are not wrong if you cant do it again.
2007-11-04 18:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by C T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you go again? Would this be as in not again at that time or within another half hour or so?
Your not wrong. Maybe pleasure her orally or other means until you are ready to go again. Geesh at 19, you should be able to keep going and going! LOL
2007-11-04 18:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by noone 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Premarital sex is risky and you may not be prepared for the emotional and physical consequences of having sex with someone that is not your wife.
2007-11-04 18:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋