I have a good friend that is dating a real asshole. Ive known the girl for years,and I know that she has cheated on every bf she has ever had.Ive known the guy she is dating for a little over a year, and he is such a great person.I dont think that he deserves to be eaten alive by her and spit back out.She is one of those girls who pretends to like what the guy likes to manipulate him into liking her.I feel like he has been deceived by her, and he does not know the fake that she truely is.Im afraid that he is going to get hurt.I cant just reveal her, bc anything i say,she will deny and it is none of my business.On the other hand,If I was him, I would wanna know and would be pissed if my friend was with holding information from me.what should i do.Ive known her for 8 yrs and hes known her 1.I have her number, so i know im right about her character.This is hard to ask,and PLEASE dont think im horrible for wondering if you know anyway I could save my bud from sure misery without bn caught.
2007-11-04 10:25:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were you I would tell him, I mean I
m nosey, but it may not be your business, but the right thing would be to tell him.
Is she xcheating on him right now? If she is you should find out where her and her other bf r going, and ask her real bf if he wants to go with you and some friends to the same place. then say omg, who is she with, and then he'll know.
Or you could just dexplain it like you did o0n your question, how u know it sounds mean, but if u were him u would want to know, chances are he'll take your side, becuz it would be opointless 4 u to lie about it. :) GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-11-04 10:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by AnonBlonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably need to back off a bit on this. You could just drop hints, like "keep your eyes and ears open" "things and people aren't always what you thing they are". But if you have any direct influence over the way the relationship goes, and things go bad, you will lose either one or both of your friends. I am a little confused over who is your friend and who is the a**hole. Be careful how you go about this. Good luck.
2007-11-04 18:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what it feels like to want to save a friend but unfortunatly , this situation is such that you should mind your own business. It could backfire on you and make you out to be the bad guy.Especially if the guy really likes her alot , he may not be so quick to believe you.
2007-11-04 18:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by that hot chick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
discretion is the key here. if your conscience says tell. then you should. but be very discreet. pull him aside alone. and tell your concerns with her past. say that you were torn whether or not to say anything. and apologies for being the bearer of bad news. but try not to sound like your attacking her. that will cause an immediate shutdown in the other person. love makes people blind. he may not care/ believe. and may not even leave her. but your conscience is clear. and if courteous and discreet chances are you wont lose them as friends.
2007-11-04 18:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by komyohibiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until opportunity presents itself... like if he says 'so what do you think about me and XXXX?, she's great, huh?" - then that opens the door (slightly) for you to add your delicate input ...
but don't just bust out with hey - that girl is a trick and you need to dump her.. cuz you know how that will go....
2007-11-04 18:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to your friend (by himself, not with the girl)? It could help. Confront him, and tell him all of your concerns, ask him to think about it, and if you are best friends, it should concern him that you fear for him. Best of luck
2007-11-04 18:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by darkstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should have told him before and b/c they are already together you look like a homewrecker. just stay out of it and wish him luck. it was his choice to be with her. maybe you could talk to your friend and tell her be careful with his heart.
2007-11-04 18:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by Tian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not your place to say, it'll just cause trouble. Good of you to look out for your friend but it'll cause tension if you say something.
2007-11-04 18:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by L ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him suck on her grotesquery so as to gain in experience points. he is naive and the girl deserves to die a slow death caused by several fun-loving venereal diseases.
2007-11-04 18:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by zonkniches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it unless u want to lose one of them /or both of them as friend
2007-11-04 18:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋