His ex cheated on him, we've been together 4 months, he told me at the beginning he sometimes gets paranoid but I thought I had reassured him that I would never do that. It's a long distance realtionship and last night I went to a party but he wasn't there. Now online, he is saying that he feels something is wrong, but won't say what. He said he feels paranoid that people aren't telling him things, but won't say who. I asked if he was annoyed at me, annd he said, well why would i be, you haven't done anything. Do you think he thinks i've cheated last night?He's being all quiet and weird. How should I handle this?
2007-11-04 10:18:53 · 24 answers · asked by Katrina W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him about your night. He'll feel better when he realizes that nothing is wrong. If he asks strange/paranoid questions, just answer him and try to be patient. No matter how ugly it is, remember that Jealousy is wired into our DNA. Try to be patient with him. Eventually, he'll trust you if you are willing to give it enough time.
2007-11-04 10:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it sounds like youve been through hell. Its not your boyfriends fault, and never will be. Its very obvious in the way you're writing this that you do very much feel guilt about your actions. I would suggest that you think very hard about whether or not he would stay with you if you told him you've cheated. Think of the betrayal and hurt it will cause him. Although your past may be the cause of your predicament, you cant use it as a crutch, you were partly responsible for your actions. If you choose to leave him, dont hurt his confidence, tell him about your past, if you havent already, and tell him how it is affecting your relationship, and that you need time to get help. Telling him you cheated on him will only hurt him I would say, give him time and space, If he comes back, I would tell him then, and at that point I think you'll spare his feelings, as well as your own.
2016-05-27 08:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how bad YOU need to have HIM. He sounds really paranoid and weird. I can't tell you what to do but for me I would not want a relationship that is paranoid and whether it is understandable or not, I personally would not want such a relationship. Trust is one of the most important thing you have in a relationship. Walk carefully here.
2007-11-04 10:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him like it is- You understand he's been hurt and cheated on in the past, but he has to trust you, that it isn't your fault his EX did that to him. If he cannot get past it- then you know what? What's the point..is this a serious relationship? If not, i'd just break it off because it seems to me like a waste of time.
2007-11-04 10:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very hard to gain trust in a relationship after you have been betrayed. Just give it time and if he doesnt start to gain trust maybe he is not worth the stress. By the way he prolly is jus trying to get something out of you.
2007-11-04 10:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't cheat on him..let him get with the program and just come out and ask you. Who has time for kid's games? Tell him if he thinks you cheated on him that you haven't, if this continues I would probably find someone else as you are not his last girlfriend!
2007-11-04 10:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant concern yourself with his problems of mistrust or low selfesteem or anything else. If you didnt cheat and he thinks you did thats his problem , you cant change the way he feels. If he hasnt gotten over the last hurt he's experienced, he needs to step back and work on that. Its not your fault someone else cheated on him. You cant or shouldnt even try to deal with this, its for him to work out.
2007-11-04 10:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by that hot chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably does. long distance relationships dont work out that good. But the next time you go to a party you might want to tell him all about it (where,when) before you go.He is a man and of course us men are protective of what we like or even sometimes love.
2007-11-04 10:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he probably thinks you have cheated on him. You need to talk to him and explain why you didnt go with him. Who you were with. What you did.. just tell him everything if you dont want your relationship to be at jepardy. He dosent want to ask a bunch of questions because then he would be rude, or it would seem as if he didnt trust you. Tell him everything to save the relationship!
2007-11-04 10:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by chazycares 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if everything is ok and reassure him that you would not do th at....
I will say after awhile his paranoid behavior will become a strain on your relationship. Tell him that as well.
2007-11-04 10:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by gayman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋