lately he has been all i can think about. i try so hard to let him go but it just seems harder and harder..it seems like he always makes me think he still has feelings for me but then i find out he likes someone else.but my friends always tell me that they think he still has feelings for me.i really dont know what to do..i want to move on but i miss him so much. what should i do?
2007-11-04 09:50:48 · 28 answers · asked by iloveyou. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the best way to get over someone is get under someone
2007-11-04 10:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by rowdy rick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The keyword is EX. He HAS moved on, regardless of what your friends think about his feelings. They aren't prophets, fortune tellers or soothsayers, so they really wouldn't have a clue to another person's feelings. But because he isn't with you, and you call him ex, I would think you would want to go forward, not backward.
Don't give him the satisfaction of waiting and being a doormat for his feelings. He may be turned off by all of this and it surely isn't like most men to want someone who is doing nothing with their life except mooning over them. It shows no respect for you. So, move on.
I know this hurts, and the emotional pain is terrible at first, until you focus on other things. When you replace his memories with new ones, he will not look so appealing. He may have been the best thing in the world, or not. But you don't want him hearing that you still are carrying the torch for him. Stay active, focus on where you want to be in your career field in 10 years, and then work for that. On that road to discovering yourself again, you'll meet a wonderful man who will love you in return. But you have to be able to give them all of you, not someone who is hoping an ex will come back. There is a reason he is an EX...put it on paper and read the negative everytime the positive memories surface.
Have a great life. You deserve it. And truly, this passes. Keep notes so you can tell your grandchildren how you almost gave your entire life to one person, who has moved on. And how you moved on to marry their wonderful grandfather.
2007-11-04 10:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm having that problem right now! i KNOW that he still has some sort of feelings for me (either because he loves me or because he just wants a grl who likes HIM) but i've been trying to get in touch (cuz we're best friends anyway) and he wont call me! i miss him sooo much and its tough when he says one thing and does another, you know what i mean?
So your ex is probably thinking that same thing. he might still have feelings for you, yes, but are those feelings good? as in, maybe he just thinks of you as someone who loves him, so if he ever needed to crawl back w/ his tail between his legs you'd be there. i dunno about you, but i wouldn't take that.
So what can we do to get ourselves away from the of our minds?? Get a hobby. Watch tv (nuthin about relationships tho!) and take a deep breath. Remember why you want to move on. Forget the crap you hear about him and all that. spend as much time as possible keeping yourself busy, that way you wont have TIME to think about any of that. and time will also help. i know that may be hard to believe, and right now i'm struggling with that too. but i know that its all for the best. and you should too!
Hope that made a little sense lol Good Luck!!
2007-11-04 10:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by Marguerite R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one said you had to stop loving your ex, but don't forget the reason he is your ex. Move on with your life. Stay away from him for at least a year - let all the anniversaries and special days pass without him. See where things are going after a year ... I'll bet you are with someone who really cares for you and loves you and who wishes you would forget your ex bf.
2007-11-04 10:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he break up with you? If not and you broke up with him, then think about the reason you broke up in the first place. It makes no sense to dwell on an ex. You are probably a smart, pretty girl; so get your butt out there and meet some new nice people. I am sure there is the perfect guy out there just waiting for you!
2007-11-04 10:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all.... GIRL GET A GRIP!!! sweetie, you said ,"EX" That means that it is the end my friend. Life is too short to sit and worry about the has been's ok . Take it from an old fool . It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. Go.... It's his lost. Live, laugh,and love, thats God's plan for you. Bless you, for you will find true love in due time.
2007-11-04 10:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by lil red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing right now. It hurts so bad at times, but you just have to let them go...if he does still love you he will be back in your arms soon enough, and if not then you will just have to wait until you find the next person that you can relate to.
2007-11-04 10:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by Darren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to hang in there. Don't go back to him because the reason you two broke up will always come back to haunt you later on. I always tell people that you get one chance at a relationship, after that you will be trapped in a vicious break-up then get back together cycle. Do things you enjoy and you will get over him much faster.
2007-11-04 10:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by canonbomb1987 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he always seems that way and you find out he likes someone else, he could be using you because he knows he can...if he leads you on just enough then you'll keep holding on and he can fall back on you...
I say try ot move on...maybe start seeing someone else and if his feelings are true then he'll fight for you....if they aren't he'll talk trash about the other guy and get super jealous....
if you do start seeing someone else and he doesnt come to you to talk about "us" then he was just leaving oyu hanging...
and if he doesnt just flat out come back ini the first place, move on because he obviously isnt worth the fight.
2007-11-04 10:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't move on if your heart isn't ready to move on. don't let your head control your heart. whatever is meant to be will find a way. just keep yourself really busy and go out and fun with your friends. get your mind off of him. and don't let him know you still love him. guys always want what they can't have if you get my drift
2007-11-04 10:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What part of "EX" don't you understand? You'll need some time to heal, but you can't even start until you mentally let go of the notion that he'll be back. Even if he did come back, you would be wise to give it some serious thought.
2007-11-04 10:04:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋