get this, i withdrew from school with every intent to go back. But my parents forced me to go back claiming that they will not support and I told them i was fine with that. I told them that i had made my decision and that im sticking through with it. But then my mom started going about how she felt that it wouldnt work out for me to get back into school, how the hell does she know. They used every tactic possible to get me to go back. They even started trying to manipulate me through emotions. Finally i just snapped and surrendured, now im back at school but i still have the oppurtunity to stay withdrawn even though im here should i do it, not just for my sake but to prove a point to my parents that they cant control me
2007-11-04 08:49:47 · 18 answers · asked by loni_831 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They're not trying to control you. They're trying to make your spoiled, ungrateful butt realize that you are making a huge mistake that you will regret, even if you are too blind to see it.
2007-11-04 08:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually parents love their kids and want good things for them.
The fact you are 18 and that you have written this post shows you are still a child in some aspects...You need to grow up a bit and see that going to school and getting prepared for life is the best thing you can do now.
I guess this is not what you want to hear right now; but being a parent is really tough -and right now you should try to see their point of view, not just yours. As for independance, you will be free to do as you wish when you are able to survive on your own, without their help. While you live in their house, you must accept their rules. Sorry, but that's the way it is.
(( When you are older and you have a kid of your own, you will be saying the same thing to your child....))
2007-11-04 09:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult, but your parents still care for you and you should listen to their advice with respect. This doesn't mean you don't make your own decisions, but just listen because they have been around longer than you have.
I'd say its up to you whether you go to college or directly to work. It may actually be beneficial for you to be on your own, earning your own living and paying your own bills.
You can go back to college later; maybe you will be more motivated then.
It's not really worthwhile to give your parents the silent treatment because things are tense between you. Try acting more like an adult with them: show respect but don't act defensive or upset when they disagree with you. Everybody is entitled to his/her opinion, right or wrong. You can agree to disagree.
I know it's hard of course, since you are at a transition age. That is normal.
2007-11-04 11:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to withdraw just to prove to them that they can't control you that's not a good reason. Withdraw from school if you personally think that you need to. Evaluate your situation in school and what it would be like out of school. If you're going to drop out, just be sure to have something else going for you. Don't do it based on your emotions. That having been said. Your parents are a bit twisted by playing with your emotions to get you to go back to school. Maybe you all should go to counseling. Anyway, good luck!
2007-11-04 08:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not about them controlling you it is because they want you to make something of your self . you are only 18 and I know your what your going to say you know what you want out of life . I have to say at 18 you don't even know what life is all about . Just stay in school soak up every thing that you can because life is hard. when you get out on your own and you have Rent to pay light bill and you need a phone so you'll be having that bill too. Plus lets not forget food oh and yes can't leave out cable . Plus now your going to want to drive so you will have to fork out for a car and insurance and a tag all of these things cost money so you better have a good paying job to get all of theses things . So if you are not going to listen to your parents take it from someone that you don't even know STAY IN SCHOOL .......... Your parents love you and only want what is best for you Trust me
2007-11-04 09:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you withdraw from high school? If you don't graduate, your life will be a series of horrible dead end jobs and no money. Your only hope will be to marry someone with an education and mooch off him for the rest of your life.
Your parents are not trying to control your life, they just don't want you to make such a stupid mistake.
2007-11-04 08:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your parents wanting you to finish school is something to be upset about - a lot of people leave school with intentions on returning and never make it back - besides theyre your parents - theyre always gonna try to control you - even when your 50 -
2007-11-04 08:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by imissmahboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already let them control you. Why withdraw? Get your head together and go to school. To answer your question, yes your parents do try to control your life, but that's because you are acting and thinking like your 15, not 18.
2007-11-04 08:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just worried about you and fear that you are making the wrong decision. They just want you to graduate so you can be available to more opportunities out there. Don't be so hard on them as they are just trying to do what they feel is best for you. Go ahead and finish school and make them proud of you! : )
2007-11-04 08:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by randmthots 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're 18yrs previous. in case you're to blame and characteristic a activity and might locate the money for an house with or without your gf then i might say drop out of school and do what you prefer. yet, in case you reside with your mothers and dads you will could desire to positioned up with their crap. I left while i replaced into 18 and now being a discern of a 20yr and 14 300 and sixty 5 days boys they experience the comparable way. yet you recognize what you may desire to do. My 20yr previous went and have been given married and have been given his spouse pregnant, they tried to get an aparment yet in no way paid their hire, consistently spending on themselves, so now they're right here with me, and sure I do assume issues my way while they're in my abode. they do no longer it like they understand what to do. So in basic terms save this in techniques. Your mothers and dads could be smarter then me and not make it easier to return decrease back. So be effective to have decrease back up plans. good success.
2016-10-15 01:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although they act as if u don't know what's best for yourself even tho u think u do. Hey hon let's get something straight. . . They're forcing u in school yet THEY"RE paying for it. Sounds like u just aren't appreciating. Sorry to sound rude but just think more about it ok.
2007-11-04 08:56:37 · answer #11 · answered by Shae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋