I have liked this one guy for a few years. He's been divorced for 3yrs. I put myself out there & told him how I felt. I know I came across wanting something serious.He was honest w/me & told me he just wasn't in a place, mentally,to get serious.He didn't have it to give to anyone.I made the comment that "I aways pick the wrong guy." He told me"I am the right guy." & made mention that he was offended.I told him it was only because he is not able to reciprocate.He was still offended.He said he wants to be friends & who knows what might become of our it.In the mean time,I now have an ex boyfriend from 13yrs ago, we recently found each other on Facebook. He wants to get together while he's in town visiting his family. My heart still belongs to this other guy. I have no interest in dating anyone,except him.But if he doesn't care for me...what would you do if you were in my shoes?
2007-11-04 08:42:43 · 5 answers · asked by Fuzzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you should go for either guy. Remain friends with the divorced guy because maybe in the future something will come of it... but don't expect it to.
As for the other guy, he is probably an ex for a good reason. I'm not saying don't see him... but I wouldn't make it a point to start dating again. Exes always seem better after you've been apart for a while and start forgetting everything you can't stand about them.
Don't guilt trip guys, either.. whether you mean to or not, it could really turn guys away from you because it can easily come across as self pity.... and guys like confident girls!! So, smile, put on some makeup and live your life! Do things YOU want to do. Go on a vacation. Take your girls out. Have fun being independent! (and eventually, you will attract the right guy!)
2007-11-04 08:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by killersharktale 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't sit around waiting for the guy you want to want you back. I say remain friends with him, but don't expect anything more than that. Then go out with the other guy. That may end up being Mr. Right after all, you never know. Even if you turn out to not be really interested in the old bf, you may have a good time, talking about some of the laughs you had in the past.
2007-11-04 16:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've answered your own question already. I know it's hard, and you want to be in love, but stop going for guys that you know aren't into you. When a man wants to be with you (divorced or not) he will make any commitment necessary to keep you. You think your heart belongs to the other guy, but you are wrong. Don't you owe it to yourself to be happy?
2007-11-04 16:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about them both and move on. There are more than just them two guys in the world.Look at it this way they had their chance with you it's their bad luck if they miss out.
2007-11-04 16:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by mikk 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quit pursuing unavailable men.
2007-11-04 16:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋