We are half way through planning (dress, reception, church, etc. ) It was intended to be a large wedding and I am not sure how both of our families will react. We are living together in a newly built house, both have full time jobs, and are financially okay. But this was completely unexpected and we dont know how to tell the family
2007-11-04 08:35:36 · 17 answers · asked by Monker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Since you are living together, there has always, always been the POSSIBILITY that you could get pregnant. Explain this to your mom. If possible, I'd try to bump up the wedding...
Good luck :)
2007-11-04 08:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should let them know as soon as possible. If you don't, then they will be more upset when they find out later. You could also postpone the wedding for after the the birth. If you want to be married before the kid arrives, maybe go to a Justice of the Peace and get married, but have to official wedding ceremony afterwards. Then the pictures can show you as not being pregnant and everyone else can see you that way too. But tell your family as soon as possible.
2007-11-04 08:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by randmthots 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i would just tell them. it is great news! and everyone knows that you are not getting married because you got pregnant, this happened after the fact. since you are worried, they might react a little disappointed because they wanted you to enjoy marriage without having to worry about children for awhile, but they will warm up to it knowing they are getting a grandchild!
I would not wait to get married after the child is born. i suggest getting married in court , but still have the big wedding a few months later than planned so you can have the baby and have time to adjust being a new mom.
Congrats on everything and good luck, I hope everything turns out the way you want!
2007-11-04 23:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by nytengayle13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what the problem is. This isn't 1807, it's 2007, if they have a problem with it, too bad. You have three choices about how to do your wedding.
1. Get married now, before the baby is due and before you start to show. You might be big at 6 months, even if this is your first baby.
2. Have the wedding you've been planning but make sure you buy the dress big and don't mind looking pregnant in the pictures.
3. Plan the wedding for 6-12 months after the baby is born. This is good if you don't mind waiting and don't mind leaving your baby for the honeymoon.
Any of the above options is viable and acceptable. Like I said this is 2007.
2007-11-04 09:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Congrats on both of your big events! I'm sure your families will have mixed reactions... Not to be impolite, but how pregnant are you? In 6 months you could be just about due....
If you want to keep your original wedding date, you'll need to time things carefully!
You two together need to decide whether to move the weddig up or back, or still have your big ceremony. In today's society you're not going to be social outcasts!
If you family will freak out about you being pregnant at your wedding and won't come because of that then they have a problem separating the two events and don't worry about them.
Again, congrats, good luck, and do what your hearts tell you!!!
2007-11-04 11:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Apologize profusely and understand that they might be upset and disappointed in you. It is to be expected. They may not wish for you to continue with a big wedding. Do what you feel is best but expect that kind of reaction. At 6 months you won't be too large to wear a regular dress with an empire waist but you will need to order a size or two up. Dress shops have dealt with this before and will know based on the brand what to order. Something like this would work great Good Luck.
2007-11-04 09:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just tell them! Life happens! They should be happy for you.
It is not like you are going to be a single mother!! Just go ahead with the wedding as planned, but buy a dress with a little more room! And leave purchasing it as long as u can.
If this is your first pregnancy, then chances are you wont be showing all that much at 6 months.
Having a family is part of what marriage is all about. Just tell them and be happy for your wonderful blessing.
2007-11-04 08:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations on your engagement and the pregnancy. I know you are feeling insecure about telling your families but you need to be confident about this. The more uncertain you sound when you are telling them, the more you open the door for them to criticize. I would make a big HAPPY deal out of this. For christmas, wrap up a baby rattle in a box with a note that says "surprise" on it. You family is supposed to be happy for you and support you no matter what. You are lucky to have been able to conceive and this is truly a gift. Timing is just timing- don't worry. You have each other.
2007-11-04 08:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
You have been playing house. In other words, you live together so they probably know you have had sex. You're living like you're married, it's just not a legal marriage yet. So if you're living like you're married you might get pregnant. If you were so concerned about what this would look like you should have thought of that beforehand. Just tell them that you're pregnant. Let him tell his family. You could have a small wedding now or push it back until you have the baby or just keep it at the same time.
2007-11-04 08:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by Rockit 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would try moving the date up so that you aren't really showing. Dont cheat yourself out of a beautiful wedding just because of this little unexpected event. No regrets!
2007-11-04 15:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by Bride08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 00:59:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋