My parents have never let me date anyone. Well, I'm 18 soon and plan on moving out. Can they get between me and a guy I want to be with once I'm no longer under their roof and rules? I mean, now they can't do anything more than disapprove right?
2007-11-04 08:27:38 · 40 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Nope. You're an adult then. Yay, you. Go on the pill first.
2007-11-04 08:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should always listen to your parents because they are almost always right and only want the best for you. It is true that all they can do is disprove, but if you think about it... their not just disapproving about it because they want to but because they think the person that you want to date is not good for you or just not good enough. Before you date someone i would think that if you want your parents to react in a good way and allow you to date them you should follow their guidelines on what is right and what is wrong. If they like guys that don't take drugs, treat you well, are responsible, no tattoos, are smart, organized, and have a good personal hie gen. Then just follow their guidelines and you WILL find a perfect guy for yourself. You will be happy and so will they.
2007-11-04 08:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by GEARS OF GLITCHES 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They cannot legally do anything. However, if you plan to ever tell of your dating partner to your parents, or tell your dating parter of your parents, then they can share those moments in your life that you never wanted revealed. The best way (not so ethical) is to exile your parents from your life once with your date. Either that, or just tell them it is your life and you have to live it. Maybe bring up something that they have shared with you regarding their early dating life. Just a little input.
2007-11-04 08:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by David G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the answers are right. You are an adult and you are free in doing what you want to do! Just words of advice! It's difficult, but if you really don't want them to interfer, make sure nothing can happen in order for them to interfer, i.e pregnancy, etc. In that case they'll know your safe etc. Although they may not approve at first.
Another, you must allow yourself to break free! I am only 16! Aand i really don't like all the controlling my parents do, but that's because i'm afraid of being bad in their eyes. I think you should really be willing to break free =) good luck my love!! x
2007-11-04 08:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jayne 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are your parents, and you should honor their approval or disapproval. Trust me, turning 18 is not a huge milestone as you may think. Legally you are an adult at 18 but will need your parents guidance long after 18.
2007-11-04 08:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by Coach K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only if you allow them too, are they being unreasonably overprotective of you or do they have a legit reason/s for reacting the way they do? I hope your dating dilema is not your sole reason for moving from your parents, you are 18 and have the right to live your life as you please, being 18 has its pros and cons, there are a lot of conditions and consequences depending on our decisions we make because whatever we decide today, we will live it tomorrow no matter what , always remember we can always make another choice if the first one is not working for us. Good luck with your growing pains!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-04 08:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by yawhaneeh53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can disapprove like you said. And also interfere if things go wrong and you need them to help. If it turns out they warned you about the guy. And once out on your own things turn out as they said it would. They might help you if you seek their help. But you will also never hear the end of them saying I told you so. As long as you have no need to depend on them financially they can't say or do. But if once out of their home you constantly come back whining about how hard it is. That's like asking them to interfere.
2007-11-04 08:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, they can't interfere, as long as you are mentally stable. In some states, parents with enough evidence can petition to have your age of majority moved up to 21 if it's proven that you're not capable of being an adult. As for moving out the day you're eighteen, you'll probably regret it, as did many people of my aquaintance did, myself included, although I was seventeen at the time.
So yes, you can date people once you are past eighteen and not living with them.
2007-11-04 08:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Eleni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, they definitely know more than you. and there is a reason why they dont let you date around. its for your very own good. if you want to have a good life for the rest of your life, i suggest you listen to your parents and get a true lover. not date around, ruin your life, and move out. its great if they get between you and a guy and save you
all those people saying "protective parents" im sorry but you guyz are awfully wrong. they aren't protective, they are actually doing their job: being a parent
2007-11-04 08:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They certainly can try.
What matters now is your maturity level and how you deal with the situation. You have to deal with your parents firmly but kindly, and speak to them like an adult. Thank them for their continued interest in your life and well being, and thank them for their advice, but tell them you will be following your own path from now on.
BTW, you have a place to stay, and a way to pay your rent, right? Because an adult does not hit up their parents for rent money.
2007-11-04 08:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you are eighteen you are an adult and you can please yourself with whatever you decide to do and live your own life.Always remember one thing and that is always have respect for your parents.I am sure they have tried very hard to bring you up so never leave with bad words.What you must not forget is that you will always need your mum and dad and they have a lifetime of experience to help you.I am sure you do not want to hurt them in any way.
2007-11-04 08:38:21 · answer #11 · answered by seafrontane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋