ok i am getting married and i have like 6 friends that i am really close with... and you can only pick one to be your maid of honor, so how would you go about only picking one?? there is one that i have been friends with the longest but latley we have not been that close, then the other has been ditching me for her bf. and the rest are always there.. how can i pick only one
2007-11-04 08:25:41 · 17 answers · asked by MICKEYD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, a Maid of Honor has a lot of responsibilities, so you also need to think about yourself for a moment..
Who is the most responsible, organized and reliable? She will be leading the other girls with the dresses, bridal shower and bachelorette party. I'm sure there will be plenty of other things also that you will need her for!
2007-11-04 08:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by LoLo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I chose not to have a Maid of Honor...instead they are all bridesmaids and they are all OK with that idea. Just split up the top jobs of a Maid of Honor and give each bridesmaid a different "important" job. You could also just make them all Maid of Honors...I've seen some weddings where there are 2-3 MOH and then 2-3 bridesmaids.
2007-11-04 16:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously already questioning two of them. Kick 'em off the possible MOH list. If you're deadset on having at least one of these girls be your MOH, narrow it down to the two most responsible and have two. You never know when one person will be so busy they can't take on any more responsiblity.
Or, you can have a Matron of Honor AND a Maid of Honor (typically the matron would be the married girl while a maid would be unmarried). Alternatively, have those six bridesmaids and name your mother or another close, older, female relative as the Matron of Honor.
2007-11-04 08:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by Spider2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well strike off the one you are not close to and then strike off the one that has been ditching you lately (you cant have her ditching you all the time when you need her the most)
Now out of the other four, think about their individual qualities.
Which one is there for you the most, the most reliable, the best at planning stuff (like bachelorette parties) Choose her and then let the others be your bridesmaids. Tell the others you couldnt choose between them so you put all their names in a hat and pulled one out. That should shut up any bitchiness. But if they are true friends, they will just be happy for you, and not causing dramas.
2007-11-04 08:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are several senarios:
a) you could have them all be just bridesmaids
b) if one is married, you could narrow it down to and have one be that matron of honor and one be the maid of honor
c) have them all be maids of honor
d) like my cousin did: have none- no bridesmaids or maids of honor...this was really cool, because then all the focus was one her, and not on the bridesmaids too...I liked the effect and am considering doing that too
2007-11-04 10:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by will_run4basketball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a little ceremony where you put their names in a hat and draw? Eenie Meenie Miney Moe?
That's a toughie... You may end up making a list of pros and cons of each person being the MH and picking that way.. sounds horrible, but you have to do it some way.. Whatever you do, make sure it's the one who you know will be there every step of the way.
Have you considered no MH and just bridesmaids???? Then everyone is "equal" and you're absolved of guilt for "playing favorites"? (Probably not a well received idea, but it is an idea)
2007-11-04 11:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really, you don't need a maid of honor at all. the reason that people appoint "maids" of honor and best men is actually so that they can have someone sign the marriage license. you can have anyone do that though so if it is going to be more drama than its worth, you don't have to actually have a maid of honor. or, what i did to prevent drama, was have my sister be the MOH. do you have a sister, female cousin, or does your fiancee have a female relative you could use as the MOH? usually friends cant argue if you choose family over friends. that worked for me anyway.
2007-11-04 08:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by dropping bombs on your mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just not have a maid of honor and say you couldn't pick because you love them all, or make them all maids of honor. Another thought is if any of them are sisters you could say that's why (or pick your fiance's sister). If none of these work, I would pick someone that is always there for you.
2007-11-04 08:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by PixdeeArtist 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Choose the one you've been friends with longest.
Friendships go through times of being stronger and weaker. Don't base your decision on the fact that it's weaker right now. You'll have the best memories with her as your maid of honor, and it'll be an easy explanation to the others. Say "You all mean so much to me . . .I decided to go with _____ since I've known her longest."
2007-11-04 10:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by monicanena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could stay neutral and choose a close female family member to be your maid of honor... your sister? his sister? a close cousin? Then all of your friends are on the same level. Nobody gets mad, nobody gets offended, you don't have to pick a favorite.
2007-11-06 17:56:17 · answer #10 · answered by turkeyjerky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋