Ok he is at work and I understand he is busy he was home on wed when I passed the first I was home with my 3 yr old when I passed the second well today I am still having the cramping and bleeding which I know is normal but I mentioned when he gets home I wanted to go to the er and he was like well I don't kn w when I am coming home and like well if thats what you wanna do does he not realize there could be something still there and it could cause a serious infection
2007-11-04 08:23:25 · 6 answers · asked by dolphin tat 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First of all, I'm VERY SORRY to hear of your miscarriages. My first pregnancy I too miscarried, so I completely understand what you're feeling. I agree with ZK on this one.
My deepest sympathies!!
2007-11-04 08:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by grami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. He may not know.
He may also be grieving in a way you don't undrstand.
It may not be callousness, but simply the fact that he doesn't feel he can handle the finality of a doctor's exam. He is torn between the need to be strong for you and the need to cry like a child...
Can you ask your parents to watch the 3 yr old or to drive you to the ER?
If not, take the kid and get it done. In all fairness, no one is responsible for your health besides you. Your husband may really just be a jerk, but it may be more complicated than that.
2007-11-04 08:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately men do not always understand a womens body, and they do not realize all the emotions that a woman has to deal with. You have to let him know exactly what you feel and explain to him that it is something serious.
2007-11-04 08:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
until he gets home, think about a brief, but complete explanation of what you are feeling/thinking. You need to fill him in on YOU, but don't take to long because most men(including myself) get annoyed easily with one sided conversations[especially about feelings] , and eventually lose consciousness of the impact of the subject being talked about. So, then we stop caring, get frustrated, etc.
p.s. please use periods in your questions next time...it was a bit hard for me to figure out what exactly you were asking...thanx
2007-11-04 08:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by diziPPP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but he's acting like an ***! I would be livid! This isn't something you should be going thru alone.
2007-11-04 13:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not realize that, and he may be brushing it off because it is his way of dealing with things. have you told him up front this is serious?
2007-11-04 08:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by Havanah_A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋