Why would you want to use contraceptive as a Christian?

Question

If you are a Christian and you trust in God to not give you anything you can't handle, why would you use contraceptive to prevent pregnancy in a marriage relationship? God brings people together in marriage to bring children into the world. I recommend reading this article for perspective. I don't expect you to necessarily agree with it but if you want to see the other side of the coin read this...
http://www.mountainretreatorg.net/articles/birth_control.shtml

You would be more equipped to answer my question after you read the article but all answers are welcome.

Oh I forgot to mention that there are many married Christian couples that can't have children and that too can be a part of God's plan. Maybe he would have them adopt or maybe he wants them as a couple to do some service that they can better do without children but it is better to be God's choice, not ours.

If you read the article it speaks about how overpopulation is a myth.

The argument for believing using contraceptive is God's wisdom is refuted in the article.

True Christians don't have starving children, God will provide for them.

For those Christians who do not want children. Why do you not want children? Is it because you are being selfish? I asked myself this and realized that was the reason in fact. I was thinking of children as a burden instead of how God would have me think of them, as a blessing.

In the article it mentions how God will provide what we need but do you really need a cell phone for every child and money for the mall, etc? Come on those are obvious things that we are taking for granted as needs when in fact they are not.

sherl pagan...you obviously did not read the entire article or very much of it at all. you saw the part with the "alleged" health problems and got angry.

I must mention once more that I am specifically speak about Bible-believing CHRISTIANS leaving it up to God to decide how many kids they have or don't have. I'm not talking about anyone else.

wyomugs, thank you for your honest opinion. What I'm trying to say is if we are true believers in Jesus Christ as our Savior and that God will not give us anything we cannot handle that we should trust God to only give us what we can handle including children. If God doesn't want you to have children as a Christian, you won't. But I don't think we should be the ones making this choice. You can feel how you want to but I believe this is true.
I'm not trying to make anyone feel guilty. I'm trying to provide another perspective. I used contraceptives for 2 years and I believe I was wrong to do that. I am not judging anyone honest. I am not better for believing this. I simply wanted to help others by giving them this information and I did want other opinions.

wyomugs, Your article basically agrees with what I was trying to say but I don't necessarily think you that article the way you were supposed to...

wyomugs, This is from the post/article you gave me...did you read this?

"If you are married and you are asking this question, I would tell you that you do not have to try and force pregnancy to happen (by watching your cycle and having sex on those days in an attempt to become pregnant). But at the same time, maybe you should not be doing anything to try and prevent it either, such as birth control pills, condoms, etc. If you are married and it is a matter of whether or not to have children because of your career, there is no doubt what my answer is to you. Forget the career, at least for the time being, and have children."

wyomugs, Oh yeah I almost forgot... What is with the Mother Theresa comment? You act like I thought she was bad for not being married and not having children. That really doesn't have anything to do with what I wrote. I think God calls some women and some men to be single and focus on him alone...so if that is why you put that.

I thought of something....
How is it wise that we started using contraceptives? Consider this....
Since we've made contraceptives widely available...there is widespread sex before marriage, baby's born out of wedlock, teen pregnancy's (under 18 in high school or drop out.) Widespread sexually transmitted diseases. Even some children (under 13) are having sex because our culture is saturated in it. We've made sex into something we use mostly for pleasure...

Consider if we didn't have contraceptives available to the majority in US and other well-to-do countries especially.

Would people be so interested in having sex outside of marriage?

Would they think of sex as mainly recreational?

Answer 1

First of all , as I see there are a lot of people that don't let God do his plans for their life. As modern people, the society thought us that we have to stick for ourselves and take decisions for our lives regarding all the aspects of the life. I see that it was a comment about Mother Teresa. She was not married and as Paul states , it is good for a man or a woman to not be married , so that they can be focused more on the work for the Lord ( and Mother Teresa did a good work for the Lord ) , but also Paul says that if you cannot stay away from your sexual urges, you have to get married so that you can fulfill those desires. You get married because of love and you put all your trust into the Lord regarding not only your or your spouse's life, but also for the future of the family. If you so trust the Lord why you need to be in control. I am sick of people that say " Lord I believe that you have a wonderful plan for me and I will let you in control " and then you watch them how they decide for everything, because they want to be in control. If you don't control the pregnancy and let God do his plan for you, do you think is such a hard lottery? Oh Lord I don't want 20 kids , because is too much for me. blah blah. Who said that Lord will gonna give you 20 kids and not 2 or 3, or maybe none? God knows you better, knows your heart and He knws you since your mommy's womb.
There are people saying about bad genes in the history of the family.... If you really trust God in EVERYTHING, do you think he will gonna curse you? He takes care of his children, he never failed. But no, we have to be # 1 in decision makers. He gave you the right to choose, to choose between right or wrong. Who was speaking about our intelligence? He gave us intelligence, wise thinking, so therefore we so proudly invented birth control. " Show me a verse in the Bible where it says to not use birth control" someone said as answer. Could you please tell me where this intelligence brought us as people? We are so close to disaster as nations, everything around us goes so " well" and that is because of us CHOOSING. Could you please tell me how using our intelligence , recently, there was a situation in which a school board decided to give birth control solutions, condoms and blah blah to even 11 yrs old kids? Where did we reach in our intelligence? As I see it states for itself.
So people, if you are a truly Christian, trust His Word, His plan for your life and let Him lead your way.
I have a kid, but all I know is that He will provide and if there will gonna be much more , thank God for them, He knows what we need.
So put ALL your trust in Him , and He will take care.

Answer 2

First of all, I'm no longer Christian, and I help the proper to abortion as much as the time of quickening (a usual-feel procedure supported by way of countless numbers of years of English Common Law as stated in Roe v. Wade). I don't suppose that a new human existence starts at belief. I've researched this drawback plenty through the years. Here's what I understand. The Pope remains to be towards the Pill, however I understand a number of Catholics that use it besides. Catholics disallow using any contraceptive as opposed to the rhythm process. For Protestants, they will use start manipulate. There are a few professional-lifers/anti-option humans that dislike the tablet, and here is why: The tablet *frequently* prevents ovulation. It does not consistently do this. I was once on it for over 17 years and nonetheless mainly had mittelschmerz, that is a ache that happens throughout ovulation. Yes, you're right in pronouncing that a important means for the tablet to paintings is for it to thicken cervical mucus in order that the sperm has a rough time getting an egg. There is a danger, nonetheless mild, that IF an egg is published and IF the sperm get to it that the final fail-reliable prevention of the tablet kicks in. You see, the tablet additionally dramatically thins the liner of the womb, which means that that a fertilized egg might have an excessively tricky time implanting within the womb. That's plenty of "IFs" there, and from the whole thing I've learn, the thickening of the cervical mucus IS the important means the tablet works. I feel it might be unattainable at the moment to do a research to uncover out what number of months out of 1, an egg will get fertilized however both fails to implant or implants however is miscarried. The lack of a fertilized egg is no less than theoretically feasible from the whole thing I've learn.

Answer 3

This is the limit of credulity!

1. God is NOT regulating overpopulation, as is evident in China, Japan, India, Africa, etc.

2. There are millions of starving children in the world and you want "no holds barred" in making MORE? This is idiotic.

3. There are millions of abused and poverty-stricken children in the world, all from parents who just popped kids out like PEZ candies, with no thought to what the quality of their lives would end up being. Kids suffer every day because of that lack of decision.

You evidently believe everything you're told or that you read! Try using your logical and analytical skills.It would be a shame if your parents were cursed with a defective gene that produced a child with no reasoning abilities.

PS - You would be better equipped to read different articles.
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Answer 4

Perhaps they do not have the financial resources to bring a child into the world or perhaps there is a medical - genetic condition which would make it impossible to carry a baby to term.
If God didn't give people anything they can't handle why are there so many starving children in the world?
Why did God give Andrea Yates more children when she was already suffering from post partum depression knowing (if He is omniscient) that she would end up drowning all five of them in the tub?
Why do so many Christians ignore all the children who need adopted, choosing to have several children on their own?

Yes, if I blindly believed everything I read in a non-scientific church propaganda website, I would believe that overpopulation is a myth. Thankfully, I am smarter than that. You should be too.
http://www.overpopulation.org/

Check out the starving children in Africa for more proof.

Answer 5

Well, SINCE you ALREADY HAVE all the answers to your question, WHY are you asking it? Trying to convince yourself again? Trying to change other people's minds? Please.

I've heard all these arguments, and more over the years. In fact, in college, I did a term paper on "Child-FREE" marriages, so it something I am well aware of... and frankly, it's a SELFISH argument that Child-FREE marriages are a result of SELFISH thinking!

I fully agree that children ARE a blessing, but one I am ill-equipped to tolerate and handle, no matter how much faith I have. Don't you think that God's promise that He will never give us challenges that we can't handle can also mean that He might be saying, "Hey, I know you can't handle being a parent, therefore I won't give you that challenge."

There are TONS of people in the world who should NEVER have been parents... and yet, they find themselves pregnant time after time. YOU will say, "yes, but these are not CHRISTIAN parents" or "they are not true Christian parents." That's a wonderful excuse people like you keep dropping on them.

I have a niece and two nephews, and they are wonderful people. I loved them dearly as they grew up. I was close to them, and they have told me time and time again of how wonderful an aunt I was, and that I would have made a wonderful mother. But I did not feel the same, and never have. I have never felt the "urge" nor desire to procreate. I do not feel I have the "maternal" characteristics which would serve to raise a beautiful child and blessing from God. Why would you, then, in your "wisdom" try to force me to feel guilty that I don't feel like I've EVER been "mommy material?" That I am DENYING my true Christianity if I choose not to have children JUST because I CAN? There are many God-fearing women who chose not to have children AND God-fearing MEN... witness (in particular) all the Catholic monks and nuns, and priests throughout the ages... Would you label Mother Teresa as an unholy, unChristian, etc. because she chose to commit herself to a RELIGIOUS life of serving God's children in OTHER ways other than having them HERSELF? And would you label HER as SELFISH for choosing NOT to have children???

HOW DARE YOU!!

OIC... your "angle" on this is that it is the marriage thing... Mother Teresa chose not to be married... and you say that IF you are truly Christian, and IF you marry, then you are OBLIGED and COMMANDED by God to have children, and if you don't you are VIOLATING God's will? Well.. please to read this article from "gotquestions.org" in its entirety... but let me pull a couple of quotes for the sake of brevity...

God declares that children are a reward. This is not to say everyone must have children because they are a reward. It is okay to not have the desire to have children, so long as you still recognize that God declares all children to be a blessing.

God’s Word does not state that we must all enjoy being around children nor must we all have children, but we are to acknowledge that each child is a gift from him.

Perhaps God has not chosen you to be a parent.

First and only, marry if you are getting married because you love your spouse. [NOT to have children!]

=== So, please... spare us your espousing this nasty notion, this UNCHRISTIAN notion that if a couple is married and are Christian, then they are EXPECTED to have children! What was that verse about JUDGING????

Answer 6

I mean no offense by this at all...but with all respect i dont need to read an article to answer this. Some people do not want to have children, even married couples opt not too, and I dont see anything wrong with that. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent, and we have to respect that. I'd rather have couples using birth control than having unwanted children

Answer 7

Just because you can handle another child doesn't mean you wnat another one or that you could provide a good environment for them. On a farm, having lots of children is generally good. In the city, having lots of children generally lowers everyone's quality of life.

Also, God gave us brains and reasoning and the ability to invent birth control. Why ignore all that just because he also gives us the ability to have children? Don't you think God wants people to use those gifts intelligently and not blindly? God gives us the ability to have children and use guns. Should both be used indiscriminately?

Answer 8

So, the only reason for marriage is children? What about couple that can not have children. What about couples who shouldn't have children because of defects in DNA?

What about the fact that this planet is having problems sustaining all these people on it?

Answer 9

I didn't read the article but I feel as you do. I leave it up to God weather he wants me to have another child. I have 2 already, so if he wants me to have another then that's his will for me. If I don't then I was only meant to have 2.

Answer 10

in todays society ... this is a silly thing to recommend
if left to "Gods will " then most Christians would be having 15 children ( give or take )
now add those numbers up
how many million Christians are there ?

contraception is good sense

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overpopulation is a myth ??
sorry but that is just laughable
there are hardly enough means in this world to feed everyone as it is
there are droughts , famines , poverty and things are not getting much better fast enough