My ex-boyfriend, who kicked me out of our house almost a year ago in a very violent scene (he had cut himself to the point where I could see the fat on his arm) won't leave me alone. He continues to call me and text me despite the fact that I have told him numerous times to leave me alone. If I don't respond, he will begin to call and text my father (who is sick) because he knows that I will talk to him in an attempt to protect my father. When I tell him that he is being manipulative by doing this he tells me that I am the one who made him do it because I wouldn't talk to him. He has hacked into my e-mail accounts, his friends have called me pretending to be other people so that he could find out information about me. He knows details about my life that I haven't told him (such as who I am dating). When I have talked to him he calls me horrible names. He has had his friends request to be my friends on myspace so that he could see my private profile. Am I being stalked?
2007-11-04 07:31:31 · 14 answers · asked by artygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I am being completely truthful. The thing is he is not following me (as far as I know).
2007-11-04 07:39:05 · update #1
Yes. He sounds very unbalanced. Take steps now to protect yourself.
Change your cell phone number and have your Dad change his home phone. Tell the police. Even if they don't do anything yet, it will at least be on record. Change your internet details, and hide the private notes, until your sure who's looking at the stuff. Posting your life on the internet may not be the smartest thing for you to do at this time.
Record everything. Phone calls, times, dates. Use an answering machine to screen calls, and keep any bad messages from him (or his friends). Have the information detailed so if you have to charge him you have it all to hand.
2007-11-04 07:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound at all exaggerated, in fact it sounds like the tip of the iceberg, or perhaps a snowball at the top of a mountain. It will escalate. It will get out of control.
You have to find a way to disappear for a while so that he has no choice but to get a new hobby or find something to do other than obsess about you. That means paying absolutely no attention to him. Don't even bother telling him to leave you alone. Don't respond to his emails and make sure everyone who knows you doesn't pay any attention to him at all. Have his number blocked from both you and your fathers phone or have your numbers changed. If you can, make new accts for all your profiles and see if you can get your friends to do the same so that the old ones don't link back to you.
He wont like being ignored so its best to take care of as much of that as you can first, but don't give in. Go on vacation if you have to. Once he's gone long enough with no acknowledgment at all, he will tire himself out and move on. if you can't go on vacation, just make sure you're not alone as much as possible and if he approaches you in public, act as though you cant hear or see him and ignore him altogether.
2007-11-04 15:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Echo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first he kicked you out and he was violent to you. Two risk factors right there. He seems to see you as a possession he can use and dispose of when desired. This is the attitude of a misogynist and possible stalker but there needs to be a record of a chain of events over a period of time with something escalating. Have you kept records, phone messages on tapes, copies of emails, pictures, eyewitness accounts, signed statements from friends, phone records, anything? A journal on his activities. If you have, take it down to the police station and ask to speak to a detective who specializes in these cases or else, the deputy sheriff.
2007-11-04 15:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he probably has someone following you and your not even smart enough to put a stop to this. ALl you ahve to do is get copies of all his texts and record as much as you can about how he calles you names and telling what he wants to do. and then go to court and have a restrainting order on him from the court for you whole family and if he break it he can go to jail. And his friends tell them they better watch out or they will go to jail with him because it seems liek it's a conspiraty and that's against the law too. So just get one on him and tell his friends if they don't want to get in trouble stay away from you. And don't tell anyone who, what, or where you going, going out with or anything else. Trust no one not even your friends
2007-11-04 15:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not acceptable in any way. it sounds like you gave him a chance but he took it too far. yes it is a form of stalking!!! if it gets too much get the police involved, record conversations, keep messages, anything u can to back it all up. he should get a restraining order. if he loved u truly he would not make u go through this. carry on as best u can, hold your head high!!! your father will not blame you for anything, 4 his health you should report!!!!!!
2007-11-04 15:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i would cut of all friendships that are mutual not give out your address (move) get a new life and a new phone.
i do not intend to scare you in any way just say that you need you own life away from him and this is the only way youll get peace.
chang your use of the computer (name and access so none of them can get it and your free from the worry)
GET YOU DAD A NEW PHONE
2007-11-04 15:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE BEING STALKED & HARASSED! Get as far away from him as possible! Get a restraining order. If you don't care enough about your safety, at least care about the men you date because he just might harass or physically hurt them...PLEASE WAKE UP!
2007-11-04 15:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very dangerous to me, I would contact your local police department and see what their advice is. Do you carry anything to protect yourself such as mace. Be very Careful.
2007-11-04 15:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Words of Wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously babe.. this can get rrwally serious pleaseee get a restraining order and be sure to mention about your dad and yes your definitley beig stalked..sorry to scare you.. he probably has people he knows following you, they could be someone you had a conversation with in a store not knowing theyre with him.
2007-11-04 15:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, you're in a mess. He's a psycho and if you don't get away from him it could get even more violent. You're definitely being stalked and should be worried about yourself first.
2007-11-04 15:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by cloned247 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋