My bf had an event to go to, and he did not invite me to it. I was ok with it at first b/c I was under the impression he wanted to go alone or was going with his buisness friends. Maybe a guy outing but then when I hear him on the phone calling up his non-buisness friends, asking if they can go...now Im feeling funny. Its like why is he asking them and he dint ask me? Im like ok guy thing again. But then he calls a female friend. and that bugs me even a bit more. i wonder if i did not hear him on the phone with her would I feel the same?
2007-11-04 07:00:18 · 16 answers · asked by Roma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand that we dont have to do everythign together. But If i ask him to do something somethign with me and he says no cuz hes doing somethign else? Isnt the next reaction for him to invite me to where hes going? specially since its a recreational thing?
2007-11-04 07:04:39 · update #1
he said he dint ask me because he didnt think that I would have had fun, because Im not a sneaker fantaic like him. I still think he shoulda asked as a courtesy. I wouldve went! he says yeah I know but you wouldnt have had fun. maybe Im nuts. YET just last night he said how he loves that i like to try new things? does this compute?
2007-11-04 07:15:22 · update #2
Maybe the female friend is more interested in the event than you were. First you have to determine if your b/f thought you would be uncomfortable there or not enjoy it.
2007-11-04 07:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by spirit dummy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would be hurt as well. I'd be up front about it. Ask him why you weren't asked. If he doesn't have a valid excuse then maybe I'd take a second look at the relationship.
If you were invited to this event as a couple then it was unfair of him not to invite you. I had my spouse do this to me once and I was very hurt. Turns out he acts like an *** at these parties and he didn't want me there to witness his *assness*. He was in the dog house for quite sometime. Since then he will ask me to go to events with him and I always decline. The reason. He doesn't want me there. You being hurt is indeed validated. Him not including you is selfish and just plain cruel and not to mention very very disrespectful to you.
2007-11-04 15:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are kinda clueless and they don't realize that stuff like that can hurt our feelings. He probably jut wants a night out with his friends... which is understandable. And don't forget he is allowed to have female friends also. You should just accept it, give him some freedom, and maybe use this as an opportunity to hang with your friends also. It doesn't mean he loves you any less.. he just needs some time with his buds.
2007-11-04 15:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can go one of two ways, either he is hiding something from you; or thinks that your relationship is at a comfortable enough level, where he doesn't have to invite you to everything; and that you should trust him. See if that happens again.
2007-11-04 15:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way I look at it he could be hiding something, be that good or bad. sometimes he may be planning something for someone that you dont know, perhaps an old friend gathering or something like that. talk to him, but dont stress about it. And it's normal to feel that way, one of the worst feelings are feeling left out. If your feeling really bad about the girl, like i said, talk to him. Dont pressure him about it, sometimes people need their space and time.
2007-11-04 15:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by Evan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a normal reaction to be a bit jealous.
Tell him you're a bit jealous & ask him what the event is & why he didn't ask you.
Communication is important in relationships!
2007-11-04 15:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by embroidery fan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you guys do EVERYTHING together? Do you ever want to do things with your own friends without him just the same? Its only normal.
2007-11-04 15:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by Andre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he did not invite you. He's the only one that know the real answer.
2007-11-04 15:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by foodieness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to get to get to the bottom of this then, and it'd be a good idea if you two be straight with each other.
Good luck.
2007-11-04 15:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop second guessing and straighten that out now. Apparently he doesn't respect you enough to take you out so kick him to the curb ASAP. If you don't. . . he's going to do it again and again.
2007-11-04 15:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋