I am declaring marriage to myself, and I know it will make it big in the bridal industry. As a pre-bridezilla, I will not order many dishes, or pots or pans just stuff to get by for myself.
Some have called me selfish, prudish, a man-hater, or worse.
I thought people would be happy that at last I was getting married to the only person I know best---ME.
2007-11-04 06:59:51 · 29 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Toninico--thanks for such sound advice and your much needed kindness.
2007-11-04 07:06:45 · update #1
Madison, that is absolutely beautiful, BUT you just said you were a loving person, so why not just go to the wedding. No need to get all up in a tizz about it.
2007-11-04 07:11:52 · update #2
I'd bring a gift and sit in the front row! I don't think that there is anything wrong with not wanting to marry someone else. You don't have to do that!
What's wrong with celebrating the single life in a big way? Why do you have to get married so that your friends will buy useless crystal dishes for you?
I hope that you wear a gorgeous dress, have a fabulous cake and declare yourself true to yourself loud and proud!
No I'm not joking. I truly like the idea. At least there will never be a painful and messy divorce to follow. CONGRATULATIONS!
2007-11-04 08:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by beckini 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know how you feel. It is frustrating to live in a society in which women are expected to spend their lives waiting for marriage so that they can throw the biggest party they'll ever have -- that they feel as though each relationship that ends in heartache is yet another failure, that all their friends are getting married and they'll never get that same big day in the big white dress with the photographer and the gift table and everyone crying over them and wishing them lifetimes of happiness together.
I often feel as though we would all be happier if everyone got a big party that they could throw in honor of their life, love and relationships -- whether they were marrying a man, a woman or themself. It would take the pressure off single people and keep everything in perspective.
I support your desire to declare your commitment to yourself. I don't know exactly how the ceremony would go, but I'm sure you have ideas of your own and that they will be very meaningful and memorable.
Unfortunately, it is such an unusual practice that many people might think you're just a bitter single girl fishing for gifts. Therefore, I wouldn't ask for gifts at all -- no registry, just an event in which you gather your friends and family to show their support and celebrate your choices. If you make it clear that you aren't asking for gifts, I don't know why anyone wouldn't show up.
2007-11-04 07:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Got to be honest with you straight up. It sounds like one of those massive cries for attention that drama queens do like declaring that they're "Off men forever!!!!!" and "Gonna turn lesbian!!!" And I cant stand those people! So sorry, I wouldn't go.
If you want to celebrate yourself and your decision to look out only for No.1 and love yourself first, well that sounds cool. And healthy! But throwing a wedding celebration where you 'marry' yourself is really the wrong way to go about it.. Just look at the impression you give out by reading the comments you got!
Have a night out with the girls! Or splurge on yourself and have a weekend or holiday break where you go spoil yourslef and give yourself the pampering you deserve.
:o)
2007-11-04 08:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say yes but you are doing it all for the wrong reasons. you have given up on love and you just want gifts.. that just makes you look like a cold, loveless, selfish person.
A friend and I wanted to have a bride's only wedding cause we were all early 20's and wanted to the big wedding with the decorations and the dresses.. so we joked about having a big wedding themed party.. but.. not like there would be gifts..
I have to agree with the house warming party.. get creative.. I had a friend who threw a I was in a car accident and can't work and I'm totally broke party.. it was a $20 cover.. she had friends volunteer and make appetizers and mix drinks.. and it was a huge turn out of people that loved her and wanted to help her out. Ger creative.. but throwing a wedding for just you is worse than inviting people to your wedding just because they are rich.. it's just not right and totally ruins the sanctity of weddings.
2007-11-04 15:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by wonka wonka 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The beauty of being a bride is declaring your love for another. It's more than the dress, the registry and the party -- Please ask yourself what outcome you are seeking -- what will happen the day after the wedding? Loving yourself as a single person means being integrated in all the roles in your life: business, daughter, sister, friend, aunt, niece, etc. But think about this carefully. I wish you well and I wish for you someone to love you so that you can have a real wedding and be a real bride
2007-11-04 07:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, I wouldnt bother going. I would think she has gone mad, and would avoid such a stupid affair.
I would also think that she was one of these people who are sick of buying gifts for others for their weddings, birthdays etc. And that she wants gifts in return.
This attitude is so bad and wrong. Gifts should be freely given out of the goodness of the heart, not because one feels obliged to. If you are sick of giving gifts and going to weddings and such.............here's a thought......DONT GO TO ANY MORE!!!
I certainly wouldnt bother going to a non affair such as some fool marrying themself. It is not possible for a start, so it would be a big fat farce I wouldnt want a part of. And it is making a mockery of REAL marriages.
2007-11-04 08:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't see this catching on at all. But hey, if it makes you happy and you can afford it then go right ahead.
I would attend (as long as it wasn't way out of town or something) but don't expect me to buy you a gift or throw you a shower/bachelorette or anything like that. I'm sure I would see it as strange but if I knew you well enough for an invite I would already know you are a little different.
2007-11-04 07:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not really mature. It just shows how much you love yourself. There's no point in it and I can't think it's even legal. You won't legally be married to yourself. It seems like you just want a big party that is all about you. Why waste the money? I certainly wouldn't bother to show up. My fiance and I aren't even having a traditional wedding and reception. If we're not having one for ourselves why would I bother going to one where you are marrying yourself?
2007-11-04 07:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Rockit 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You know what? Go for it.
I know people are all up in arms about it but I see it as self-empowering and self-loving. It's a damn shame more people don't love and respect themselves enough to make proper decisions for themselves in life, and I think that perhaps this ceremony would remind you, on a daily basis, to be true to yourself and make the choices in life that will best serve you.
I, too, though, would be very forthright and explain that you don't want gifts, just the presence of people you love.
Good on you! I'd definitely go if I were invited to something like this and it was local(ish). It would be memorable, for sure! :-)
2007-11-04 07:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wha????
man hater or prudish are not accurate Selfish, definitely. Mature - probably not. Logical - definitely not.
How can you physically or legally marry yourself?
This is a great troll question, though.
2007-11-04 11:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋