How Do I Overcome My (Spiritual Q)?

Question

hate for men?
Not to go in details here--had abusive father, and nearly raped by a date I just met. No good male role models in life. I know it's no excuse, but how do I overcome this hate for men. I trust in God and know He can help me.

I've already went to counseling and wrote a journal, but it hasn't helped much.
Anyone out there who is in similar situation or suggestions needed.

Sorry men. No offense here.

Answer 1

kik us in the nuts

Answer 2

Sorry to hear of you misfortunes.

Yes check out Albert Ellis Institute. They have a lot of good books there that can help you if you work at it. That is the key. If you are looking for magic, well you will never find it and that seems what you want when seeking Gods help. I also recommend REBT or other Cognitive therapy. There are a lot of bad counselors, therapist, psychologist and psychiatrist. So if you are not getting the help you need go to another one.

My best friend growing up was repeated raped by her father. She was able to over come that by herself and is the sanest person i know. I don't know how she did it but i do know she did it without any magic (religion).

Good luck

Answer 3

Its understandable that you would see the opposite sex has monsters if all you have ever experienced with them is horror. I think it will take a long time . I hate certain types of people well I say dislike .. I have come to terms with it .. I think when we realise its people not sex its easier to stop stigmatising men with labels .. or women in some cases because some men have this problem too. I think if you got to gether with a mixed group of abused men and women you would see that victims and villains have no face .. its all about what kind of person they are not the sex. Some really nice men I know get knocked a lot because there kind nature lets women walk all over them .. but what a lucky women the one who sees him for his worth .. and vice versa ...

Answer 4

You need to meet some good men in a non threatenig environment. Men are not that different from women, Their are a lot of bad women in this world also. Abused people often become abusers, and the cycle keeps on going. We need to do something, about all this abuse in this country, which involve both sexes, as abuse victims and as abusers. You should pray/meditate, do mind/body exercises, eat healthy, and not over indulge. This should make you stronger spiritually. You need to keep telling yourself, that most men are good men. But be careful to avoid bad people of either sex.

Answer 5

I think it's most likely going to come through prayer and asking God to produce the spirit in your life. We must be patient with that process. Fruit trees produce fruit in season and more abundantly each year as the tree grows stronger. John 15 Says we are the branches.......Jesus is talking about GOD being the gardener or orchard keeper. Galations talks about fruit of the spirit.......it's produced by staying in the vine and Just BE a tree for Jesus so to speak and let him produce that fruit in your life. Accept yourself, forgive yourself, ask the Lord to literally put the forgiveness in your heart for your Father, etc because you cannot do it yourself! That's why Jesus came to overcome the power of sin for us but he is saying "let me love you, receive from me," He's not EVER shaking his finger at you saying STRAIGHTEN UP.......he understand you have been broken and he takes responsibility to you heal you, you take the time needed to receive........Jesus' name is COUNSELOR, among other things. He will counsel you with the Holy Spirit invading your life with little truths that you need to heal and become someone who can love "men" again. Hopefully you will never associate abuse with love again. I want you to know that I have had issues like that myself I have tried to work through myself (failing) then gave it to Jesus who never fails and he has literally given me a new heart about things and I see men in a whole different way. satan was behind the abuse. Satan depresses a person, then if not resisted he oppresses, then possesses part of their mind. At that point they can't even operate any differently without the help from the spirit of truth and in most cases cannot change anything except through the power of Jesus' name. The only name demons bow to. Hope I didn't overwhelm you. God bless you.

Answer 6

Stop blaming yourself would be the first step. Learn by your lessons in life on how to read people before trusting them. God puts all of us through a test of faith. Some worst than others. The main thing is don't lose your faith in God or you will let the devil steal your soul. Fill and surround yourself with love and the devil will have no other choice but to flee.

Answer 7

You really should talk about this with a qualified therapist.
This is too important to ask on here. You'll get all kinds of crazy answers.
Good Luck!

Answer 8

you dont have to look outside, look within yourself.
how do you think males should behave?
you wont find your answer by sitting around or at the computer, nor will you by asking god, or a counciller.
Life holds the answer to all questions. look inside and outside, not just to people but to animals and nature, that is where you will find your answer...