My fiance is 30 years old and his sex drive is not as great as it used to be. While we still have good sex, he never seems to want to do it on his own. We enjoy it while we are doing it, but getting to that point can be challenging. I always have to initiate it and I'm getting tired of that. We both are fairly certain that he has a low sex drive... does anyone have any ideas on what we can do to improve the situation? We both find each other attractive. Any ideas would be great.
2007-11-04 04:56:46 · 12 answers · asked by Cochy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Getting a good amount of exercise may increase it somewhat, and minimizing stress in his life may help also. A certain decrease is to be expected, but 30 is a bit young to have a pronounced reduction without a physiological cause. Check with a physician to eliminate medical concerns from consideration. Good luck to you.
2007-11-04 05:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say step back a little bit. Some men like to do the chasing or initiating that if a woman does too much of the initiating, it demasculanizes them(just an analogy), and subconsciously turns them off.
Tease him. Wear something sexy but at the same time don't look too interested in sex. Just wait. Let him do the initiating and sometimes act like you're not available..
If that does not get him up, maybe he is stressed at work or into another activity. Don't pressure him, it will make him anxious and will make it hard for him to have an erection.
Stand back and just observe. It could also just be a stage he is going through or it might be a health situation. See how long before he initiates sex without you starting it and decide if you could live with that kind of sex drive from your man before you marry.
If you both plan to have a baby anytime soon, your situation is good as women tend to have a lower sex drive when pregnant and even lower when they have a child. If that happens, then you and him will just be even.
Good Luck!
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2007-11-04 08:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one question that has endless scope and one might suggest you a hundred things. Losing sex drive often indicates a deep change in one's personality - whether you accept or deny. If you sit back and think or rather observe your man, you will find subtle changes in his attitude towards women in general. Why it happens is something that can not be explained in definite terms as it is quite different from person to person.
Therefore, I am not going to offer you any extra-ordinary solutions. This is completely your and only your call. Even seeking a professional advice might not be all that helpful with such matters.
However, as a man myself, I can tell you this. Male brain by nature has a strong libido. And remember, it's just the brain that decides one's level of libido. So try doing what gets him going, and again only you can find out what gets him going. Play a seductress as there are very few men on this planet who can resist a seductress. And if you wish to know what is it playing a seductress or if you want extra tips or ideas for playing a seductress, then post another question just for that.
Once, he tastes your seduction he will crave for it always ! And that's what you should be looking for !
I wish you a great married life throughout !
2007-11-04 05:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it could be stress. For a period of time in my life my sex drive fell off and that's what it was with me.
Other than that there is a whole plithery of psychological and physiological conditions that can cause a low sex drive. I do not know offhand of any good references, but I am sure there are plenty that could help you discover the cause of the problem.
2007-11-04 05:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 08:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-04 05:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by diva9047 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
be patient and understanding. the worst thing you can do is pressure him or put him on the spot. he might have alot on his mind. role play.....dress seductively etc......
2007-11-04 05:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by jb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what type of things turns him on. Maybe watching porn together.
2007-11-04 05:05:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's probably cheating on you with someone younger and prettier.
2007-11-04 05:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bring him over here...I'll see what I can do.
2007-11-04 05:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by ANewLife 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋