How to ask a Chinese girl out?

Question

i just came to china but i really tried to understand their cultures however,i want to know the right way to ask the chinese girls out. There is this other cute one but she likes to tell me that chinese are not open like many countries and they like to hide their emotions especially to foreigners, which means even if they don't like you or not happy about you is hard for you to tell. I have just found out that many chinese girls are shy and trustworthy. I just want the right way to get a chinese chick and things they do if they are interested in a guy please, oh en i can speak some chinese. xie xie!

come on people, this is serious i need this girl. Stop coming up with funny ideas.

Answer 1

First, never use the term "chick", when you talk about any woman, Chinese or not...

Regardless of what many people think, Asian women as a vast majority and Chinese women in particular are indeed reserved with foreigners. It is not shyness at all. When they are in a group with their own friends, males or females, they are far from being shy. Dating a non-Chinese is frown upon by most if not all parents, and as you may know, respect for parents is one of the most important rule of life in China. So you are up against something huge, whether the girl likes you does not make a difference. I've dated Chinese girls and despite the fact that our relationships seemed so perfect at all levels, in the end there was this incredible socio-cultural barrier that made it impossible to go forward. There are exceptions, I have friends who are happily married to Chinese women, but these exceptions are the rare minority. Some loser girls will readily date a foreigner, especially for a short term romance, but if you are talking about a serious relationship with the 'typical' Chinese girl, all odds are against you.

Good luck...

Answer 2

Come on guys China is not that different from America. Well okay it is. BUT it's not the olden times anymore. Modern Chinese girls are very similar to girls everywhere!

First make friends with her and her family, make sure her parents like you well enough. Don't go too fast because you're right many of us can be a little shy. We were just brought up that way. When you ask her be very clear and polite, and respect whatever answer she gives. Be patient.

Chinese children are VERY respectful to their elders, especially parents and will usually respect their wishes. So basically if their parents don't like you, you don't really have much of a chance. SUCK UP! But discreetly...lol

I like to think that only the old-fashioned parents would not let you date their daughter just because you're foreign. I asked my mom, and she said if you were a nice guy it wouldn't matter were you were from. So there you go, from a real live Chinese parent!

Also, make sure you know enough Chinese to know what she is saying! XD And don't call her a chick...

Good luck!

Answer 3

You have to bear in mind that whenever you meet with someone for the first time or initially, just be friend. If you have this mentality, you will behave naturally and this buy you time to get warm with the other side and let the other side to you more truly. Then wait for the right moment and casually ask the girl if she is interested to go movie or eat lunch or dinner with you. Wait for her response.

Some answerers here are right that chinese girls may not be as shy as some had said but what you need is the thawing period to warm a bit besides dont you be a bit worried if you are facing some foreigners for the first time...

Dont worry ..good luck

Answer 4

I lived in china for 3 years. You have a cultural thing to overcome. Most chinese girls will not date foreigners. It is not approved by amily and they follow the rules the family lays out. There is also the religious thing too. I won't say it's impossible but it is unlikely that she will say yes... You would have better luck pursueing a girl that is somewhat westernized and works in the mainstream business world. I too speak chinese (fluently) and it did me no good getting a chinese girl for a date. Most chinese look down on girls that date foreigners because they view them as bar girl types even if they aren't. Good luck. Tsai Chen.

Answer 5

Different countries doesn't matter, so stop called her a Chinese Girl. Does she work there, if so when you pay for your meal get a piece of paper and write your number on it, and write 'call me' underneath. If you don't want to go that far yet, start smiling at her and holding doors for her if you have the chance. But hey, she might have a boyfriend. Best of luck x

Answer 6

I would take kliu117's advice.. if I were you ... that's only the first step ... but it is not easy to develop a serious relationship with Chinese girl from traditional family, I agree with ykphyil. Always be a good friend and be patient and you may end up with just being a friend of them!

Sometimes.. luck may not help much.. it is FATE!

Answer 7

all right dude, ur in luck cuz i used to live in china and i kno about all that culture stuff. :)

alright, first of all, in china there's almost no such thing as asking someone out for a first date, if u do that they will think of your "date" of more as a hang-out. trust me i've tried it once b4. so what u do is ask her to hang out with u like go to the movies or whatever. And what happens is that if she likes u enough she will eventually reveal her feeling for u, or u can reveal ur feelings to her. But u can do that anytime, the hanging-out is more of making sure about each others feelings. Trust me on this, the girls in china like to hang-out a lot and asking them out is like revealing ur feeling for her. but she won't understand it. Asking someone out in china is kinda like a big deal instead of being a small deal in the US. Yeah china is still kinda far back in terms of the entire dating process. They're more like: I like u and u like me, so we are GF and BF and we then go on dates.

so what i'm getting at is that hangin-out never hurts and they're ok with it. What is the real problem is if she has feelings for u.

so i recommend u hang-out with her. Just like talk to her and get to kno her better and just be good friends. And just use ur instincts. If u think she likes u then reveal ur feelings and from there it can be a smooth ride, or a tragedy

good luck buddy

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Try to talk to her first... Flirt heavy...heavy eye contact...look deep into her eyes...smile...be playful....dont get serious.....Make her feel your love for her through your body language and your eye contact..... I have been with quite a few chinese girls and not one was a bar girl in fact most have had only one or two boyfriends their whole life....I can only speak a little chinese...but patience showing you are interested...not just her booty either but who she is....Ithink it is actually pretty universal....for more tips watch more films closly...

Answer 10

Just hang out with a lot of asian people and youll understand how a asian girl mind thinks. Im not asian myself but ive dated some in my lifetime.
At first I had no experience in how to approach to them since they are shy .....but then somehow after 6 months of trial and errors it just came natural to me. Even the girls that I hit on earlier were confessing to me that they liked me but they were shy to do anything. Overall i think you just need to be much more nicer and have more patient.....once they start opening up to you then you know the person likes you.