my son was diagnosed with add, when he was fourteen, he is now nineteen, at the age of fourteen he did not want the help the doctors were offering him and there was nothing we as parents could do, over the last few years his mood swings and aggresion are worse, we are trying to convince him to get medical help but he changes his mind all the time one day he will say he will get help and then the next he will say he has not said this and he doesn't need help. we are finding that he lies a lot, and this is getting to the point where we cannot trust him and look at others differently because of what he says we don't know if things are the truth or not. Is lying a syptom of add, he as always been a story teller, the lies are pointless lies that cause a lot of trouble, any advice, please. many thanks xxxx
2007-11-04 04:03:04 · 5 answers · asked by flower 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
I am convinced that your son not only has ADD, but he's bipolar, as well. He says yes, then a day or two later, he says no. He needs help, no he doesn't. That's classic bipolar. Angry and aggressive, too.
My son has the same affliction, and he's a liar, too.
In our house, my son (17) has to take medication (he has to prove it every day) while he lives with us. You move out, you can do what you want. But we want you sane and not cycling up and down and able to concentrate while you live in our house.
He has a girlfriend who caught him once unmedicated and she stepped back and said WHOA! She says she likes him better medicated, so as always, her word goes.
The one thing that is really upsetting--we haven't had to deal with it yet--is that bipolars are hypersexual. They masterbate, and sometimes they cannot control their sex drives. So far, we're ok, but our goal is to keep him pure until "the one" comes along. We have lots of rules about where they need to be, no going into bedrooms, etc.
Lastly, here's an EXCELLENT resource: www.nami.org. National Alliance for Mental Illness. You can guarantee there is an article from a mom just like you on this site, and what she did to manage things. They help you find drs., they can find a therapist, they can help you figure out to pay for it, and figure out how to get him to go to the dr.
Thinking of you, hoping things get better.
Debbie
2007-11-04 04:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good news, you don't have it. :-) It involves being unable to prioritize the stimulus coming into your brain, so you focus on something constantly. Not dazed and kind of flaking out or daydreaming, but being overwhelmed by the sights, sounds, etc... around you so that you can't focus on any one thing because too much around you drags your attention away. However, if you are tired, that affects your focus. If you are having trouble focusing, that can be caused by being tired. And if you are having trouble focusing and get distracted AND tired, there is likely something going on that is causing this, yeah. Often food issues, sleep issues, snoring, allergies, celiac disease (unlikely, but might be worth checking if you have any gut issues, to boot)....or the people you know are very, very boring. ;-) Also, doctors SUCK at testing for this, in my experience. They are supposed to give you a full physical, to make sure you don't have any hearing issues, food allergies, any of the above. And then if nothing can be found and your symptoms match, you might get a diagnosis of ADD. But they don't have a physical test that says: you have ADD. They just guess - educated guess, but more and more, they aren't testing for anything else, they're just going straight to the 'diagnosis' (aka the guess).
2016-05-27 07:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wanted to say that I completely agree with Debbie V's advice. She is talking from experience. I have worked with many adolescent ADD people and none of them were compulsive liars. ADD (attention deficit disorder) is just as it implies, these people have a VERY hard time concentrating for a period of time. In the classroom they may be the child that is hanging over the back of their chair (not seeming to pay attention). Many people think they aren't listening but in reality they are. Again, I would suggest calling his physician. You may not like their suggestions but always keep in mind your son is not the only case they have seen. He can't get the treatment he needs without you.
2007-11-04 06:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by babybear330682000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He definitely needs help. I'm not sure how you would get him into the doctor's office to get assessed, though. Perhaps if you called the office of the specialist and explained the situation, they could help you come up with something.
2007-11-04 04:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by It's a secret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him go on line to a site that he can for himself take a test for add I think that you can go to add.com Im sure he already knows that somethings a little diffrent going on with him. with the lieing i bet he has other stuff going on. you should have put your foot down when he was a kid and got him help when it was your choice.and not his
2007-11-04 04:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋