What can I do? Please help!?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and we're really close. He's told me that he'll only go as far as I want, and he's stuck to that, although of course he does try, but stops if I don't let him. He's never been anything but amazing. Recently, he's started trying to get down my pants. I never let him, and he always stops until we see each other again [different schools, only see each other on the weekends...it sucks]. The thing is, I want it really bad. I have to force myself to move his hands. No, he doesn't get far at all, but it still feels good. We've gone kinda far in other ways, but I can't let him do this. I'm not ready, legally, I'm too young, and I have a really good relationship with my parents. If they found out, I would lose their trust. But I can see myself losing my virginity to him. He's my first love, and I wouldn't regret it being him at all. I just can't, as much as I want to because of my morals. I'm waiting till I'm legal and emotionally ready.

I've still got a bit till then, so is there anything I can do to make this a little less hard to deal with? I'm really conflicted, and no, I'm definitely NOT breaking up with him. He's not going to force me or anything, just tests to see if I'm ready. The thing it, I also don't want him to stop trying, because I do want it. I don't know. I'm just a bit messed up about this right now. Help?

Answer 1

You sound really mature and sensible. Well done for deciding to wait until your are older and ready. Your boyfriend also sounds mature in that he is willing to wait. The fact thathe keeps trying is his way of asking if you are ready yet. You stick to what yiu want and if he reallyloves you he will wait.

Answer 2

First of all, pat yourself on the back for realizing that you're too young and you should honor the trust of your parents.
I know it's very hard to control oneself when you love someone so deeply and want to have more than an emotional connection with him/her. And I know what makes that even harder is that if it's your first time. But please, if not for your parents... do it for YOURSELF; and don't have sex with the boy. Talk to him about it as it seems like you haven't already. If he agrees with you it will show you that he loves you not just physically but for who you are. If he does not agree, and even threatens to break up with you, take a deep breath, and move on because he wasn't worth losing your virginity to in the first place.

Answer 3

hmm parents trust u right..? and ur heart says it would b wrong if u wud go for sex wid ur b.. den dont.. see though time is so forward now.. dont do a thing in which ,ur heart doesnt allow u .and u r showin such maturity at this small age.. den cant u b lil more mature.. by stopping ur urge.. and u can hav it later wen u r ready to take ur responsibility..if ur relation is serious ur bf will also understand why u r stoppin him..
its test time for both of u.. just enjoy lovely moments... to stop that physical need u can meet in public places.. so tht u urself can b in control.. dont meet in so private that u loose ur control... all hav sex nowdays at young age nothing new or strange in that... but u goota choose now girl.. do what ur heart says..god bless u

Answer 4

wow what a smart young lady you are! I wish there was something I could tell you that would make it easy, unfortunately there isn't. you say that you and your parents have a good relationship, then talk with them. Remember your parents were young once too so they know what it's like.
Please don't give in to peer pressure and don't give in to his wants and needs. your first love is something you will remember the rest of your life. (I remember mine and I'm old) lol
make it a good memory. don't go to places that will leave it to where you and your BF are together alone. That way you won't be put into the position to have to fight him off.
good luck to you

Answer 5

you didnt say how old you are but if you truly believe you are not emotionally or morally ready then you are doing the right thing by waiting. if he cares about you then he will wait too. try to avoid situations of temptation though because you may just give in and do something you dont want to. just remind yourself of what it is you want for your future and stick with it. congrats for waiting

Answer 6

if he's your first and only love then do you think you'll get married? your still in school girl. save it for marriage. i dont know what is actually right with you people these days. if you dont think you'll stay with him forever, dont. losing your parents trust is a pretty big thing. your parents are your life even if you dont realize it. without them, you would fail in life.

SO. wait until you are legal. or until you're married.
that is all i can say right now.

Answer 7

Thats good so far dont let him reach to your pant until your fully legaly because you coud be pregnet at the first time so if i was you i would tell him the way you feel about this

Answer 8

u just anwered ur own question'im waiting till im legal and emotionally ready"

Answer 9

ok im gonna say this. if yall go to different schools im pretty sure he is gettin it somewhere else anyway....so i would use a condom.

Dont worry about your parents finding out. Im sure yall can find a place to do the deed ....if ya know what i mean.
They dont have to know.

Bottomline.... If you love him....do it. Dont live with what if's ;)

Have fun...BE SAFE!!

Answer 10

Well first off, if you're legally to young to have sex. You shouldn't be with him. It doesn't matter if you're having sex or not, if you're too young to have sex, you're probably are too young to be dating him. On another note, do what you want to do. It's not immoral to have sex. But if you're not emotionally ready, I would talk to him about it. If you do plan on having sex, make sure to talk to your parents (I know, it sucks) but it's better to be safe, and be prepared. Then to not be. But, it is your body, and not on you, but your boyfriend to need to respect it. I would do what you want to do, but make sure you're ready, physicall, emotionally, and make sure you use protection! =)