Why do fattish people delude themselves...?

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to their own physical attractiveness to the opposite sex (assuming they are hetero, of course).

Because it has been shown many tiumes that:
men prefer slimmish/toned women with low BMI and shapely figures

women prefer the lean, typical alpha-male physique (v shaped chest/narrow waist) and low BMI.

In other words- both sexes prefer low to minimal BMI.
Why?
Numerous studies prove that subconscious and primal areas of the brain correlate low BMI/good physique with excellent health and unimpeded mobility- hence a suitable prospective mate.

Sorry fatties- but the amygdala, the id and the super-ego which rule 2/3 of all brain activity and govern most of our conscious thought- on the most primitive, primal, critical levels- find fatties repellant- it signifies poor health and an unattractive potential mate.

Summary- we in the UK are all getting too fat/chubby and we'd best all lose some weight.

Isn't it sad to see a son/daughter many times fatter than their parent?

Cheers- I just coined it.

A-and-a
your comments are in total contrast to innumerous studies such as:
Marianne LaFrance (2000) of Yale
Pederson of Oregan Statue (1998)
(Vienne 1997:154)
(Alford 1996)

not to mention the numerous UniLever & Procter and Gamble commissioned studies to determine what constitutes attraction.

Lean, young females= male preferred sexual mate- simple, indisputable fact.
Lean, mature, muscular males= female mate of choice.
As it is is for all apes, it is also for us primates homo sapiens

I have no knowledge of pedophilia causes- so that's why I never comment.

Interestingly- pedohilia is empirically lowest among Asian males- who have ample access to very low BMI females- altho cultural elements are certainly at play- I can't comment among which race it is highest- where females develop to sexual maturity faster than their Asian/Caucasian counterparts along with associated secondary sexual characteristics.

How does your rather preposterous argument sit now?

Answer 1

Which is exactly why I started working out, and I am now not only more attractive physcially but also more confident. However, if both sexes continue to incease in size then it will even out. I think there will be a large gap between people.
Those who are overweight (many) those who are average (not as many) and those who are physcially fit (few)

Answer 2

I disagree, from what I have heard it is the ratio of waist to hips that matters most when men choose a partner. Unconciously, they select women that will give an evolutionary advantage. However, this only works up until a certain weight or size.

However, I don't think anyone consciously just chooses their partner entirely on their body shape. There are not enough perfectly slim and toned men and women to go around and if a great body is all you have in common, a relationship is unlikely to work.

We are more than our animal insticts, drives and desires. In the modern world, when life is not based on sheer survival to live, there are other factors when choosing a partner. We think about the potential of the relationship surviving on many levels, financial and emotional security also influence our decisions.

Think about it this way, the majority of people who are larger that I know are attached, married and happy. Often the two partners are of different shapes and sizes and perfectly in love with each other. Their relationships are thriving.

To be honest, your post just does sound like 'fatty bashing'. Yes, being slim and healthy is good for us and being overweight can leave to health problems - however a happy relationship can be the catalyst for a change in lifestyle for the better.

Answer 3

It's not a preposterous argument. Everyone has different taste in partners and to assume that all guys like thin women and all women like thin men completely ignores that. Personally I like my men big (Not grossly overweight but definitely not thin). Everyone has different taste and if you're not in danger of damaging your health whats wrong with being a little larger than average. We all have something we're attracted to and not everyone is so shallow that they'd completely ignore a person's personality for how they look.
I agree that it's sad for a person to be grossly overweight but frankly quoting studies is meaningless. You can use some study somewhere to prove pretty much anything and I sincerely doubt that you are a scientist who has done any sort of unbiased research into this.

Answer 4

Well, when I was young it did not enter our heads that anyone should conform to a type. They were all just people. Fat, very fat, thin or anorexic. They were all accepted without preference and we got on with our lives. We did not consider that Mr Jones who was 18 stone and six foot four was not conforming health-wise, or delude ourselves into thinking he could look like Tom Cruise. What is it about modern day society. We can't even enjoy a bacon sandwich now!

Answer 5

Where has it been shown many times that 'men prefer slimmish/toned women with low BMI and shapely figures'?

What 'numerous studies prove that subconscious and primal areas of the brain correlate low BMI/good physique with excellent health and unimpeded mobility'?

I agree that you Brits are getting fatter, but shouldn't you worry about your teeth first? Are there actually ANY dentists in the UK?

Answer 6

well im a fatty and have been married for 14 years and my husband has no complaints he's not fat hes medium build and doesnt find slim women as attractive as chubbier ones,
i dont delude myself as being desirable but as long as im desirable to my partner that is all that matters, i dont sit around all day eating chocolate and im not lazy as i walk alot as i dont drive and have 3 kids to run around after as well as have a job, as for a miracle pill to make fatties thin no i wouldnt take it and im not lieing to you or anyone else as i would raher lose weight the natural way, not through meaningless diets but through exercise and a balanced diet.
my kids are all of slim build and have no fat on them they eat a well balanced diet and exercise

Answer 7

well here in Canada we're the second fattest nation (next to the US) the reason my generation is getting fatter and fatter is becuase our food is frozen, not very nutruitous and has loads of trans and saturated fats! Also becuase of video games, computers, tv's. Kids are getting lazier and eating much poorer diets; that results in fatter, less healthy kids.
Fat people are becoming much more accepting in our society, all my friends call me anorexic and skinny, I'm barely underweight! everyone is so fat that they make average people look skinny

Answer 8

I agree with you. It is very sad to see any child who is many times fatter than is healthy.

Also any one who says they are happy being 'big' are lying to themselves and everyone else. No fattish person would refuse a 'magic' pill (if there was one) to make them slim - they'd prob bite your hand off for it!

Answer 9

so your trying to say all the fat people are going to die a lonely death?! dam that's going to send me to the biscuit tin! lol

don't be so naive

Answer 10

Inside every fatty there is a slim, chic person trying to get out.