My boyfriend of 3 years and i bought a house together in august and weve always had differences concerning our finances he is very irresponsiblewith money and would rather buy a xbox 360 than pay bills. We constantly fought over it. well he moved out on friday. i really didnt think he would he didnt really say anything to me. I saw him online and i said hey to him and asked him if he loved me and he said he does hes just not in love with me but he still cares. and i told him i cant believe hes done this to me when he knows my grandfather was just put into hospice on friday and he was basically like whatever later and signed off. this house seems so cold and empty im so alone i cant do anything i cant even sleep maybe 4 hours a day is all i cant eat i just break down crying my 21rst b day is nov 29th (we had a trip to vegas planned and paid for) its the holidays and this house my heart cant handle it i just want him to come home our cats lay by the door waiting for daddy to come home
2007-11-04 03:22:25 · 11 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't want to be with you anymore, and if you force him to it will be a very bad relationship! I know that this is hard, but maybe you should move, living in the house that was both of yours would be hard, so i would suggest either selling it or renting it out to someone else until your broken heart has healed!
2007-11-04 03:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by allspells 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that you are going through this.
It sounds like he was honest with you when he told you that he wasn't in love with you. I know that it's really bad timing with your grandfather being so ill, but i guess he can't pretend to feel something he doesn't. (He is still a jerk, though).
Anyway, you didn't mention if he put you into a financial problem by moving out. You may want to sell the house and move into your own place. If you don't sell your house, get rid of everything that is his. This may help you get over him. Whatever you decide to do, this will take time, so be patient with yourself.
2007-11-04 11:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone through your heartbreak .The symptoms you're having , I found out later , are symptoms of a nervous breakdown . You need to get a support base going . Get a counselor or join a women's crisis group . This man is totally wrong for you .I say that because he doesn't care . Even if you were to get him back , you would always be wondering when he's leaving next . It's best for you to get over him now .You can drag it out for years like I did ,but do you really want to dedicate your life to someone who doesn't care . Your life is precious and you should only give it to someone who will value it . You are trying to create a family with him (cats) , but you are not family to him . Think about what you are doing to yourself and get that support you need .
2007-11-04 11:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by opinionated 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People come in and out of your life for a reason. You learn from them love and lose and grow and move on.
Take this as a blessing. It would only gt worse farther down the line if he stayed. Who knows what would happen if you ALLOW him to be in your lfe.
You are an adult. Let it go-thank the universe for the experience, learn from it and make the next one better.
Good things and bad things happen because you Let them. Let the next one be a blessing.
Good luck
2007-11-04 11:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by Aero-Smith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice i can give you is GO HAVE FUN. call up some friends and go out your about to be 21 thats probly going to be the best bday you will have. and if he doesnt want to be around for YOUR BIRTHDAY hes not worth it and this isue with your family the key honestly to a good relationship is likeing who you are with AND your family like them just as much. there are so many more guys out there its not even funny. so just take a night and have a good time!
2007-11-04 11:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take someone else on the trip and have fun. laughter is the best medicine. try to do things that make you smile and you will get over him little by little. if he doesnt want to be with you anymore then cut him off. dont email or call him. get rid of his pics (or put them away). work on making yourself happy again. dont stay in on your birthday. go have fun.
2007-11-04 11:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by bilkmilk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. It was like that when my exhusband up and left. But, it will get better. You need someone more responsible in your life. Good luck with the holidays.
2007-11-04 11:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by I love my baby boy! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a roomate and take someone else to vegas for your b-day. if he would leave you high and dry like that he is an ****** and you could do alot better than that.
2007-11-04 11:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by mattdrew2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him time. Time heals everything. You may in time realize you don't want him. It's crazy but believe me , it happens. I know!!
2007-11-04 11:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by ezwill29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes gone for know and if you want to feel better you have to stop dwelling on him ,you have a life and need to concentrate on you
2007-11-04 11:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋