we were in love and we both still have really strong feelings for each other... last night she came over and watched a movie and we messed around... at the end of the night i asked her to get back together and she said no ... i asked her why and she could only say "i dont know if i want a boyfriend right now" this girl isnt the type that would just mess around because she wanted it.. she has only ever done this with one guy other than me so she is not a slut at all.. and then later that night she sends me a text that says " You!! dont want to be with me anymore.." so what do i do to all this. i am so confused..
2007-11-04 01:44:59 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Something has happened that is making her say what she is saying ... but I don't know what and you may not either. She may also not want to talk to you about it, depending on how personal it is. Worst case scenerio, she was molested or raped (not even recently, but the feeling are creeping up on her and overwhelming her and making her feel badly about herself) least case, she may have cheated on you and doesn't know how to tell you. Of course, I'm throwing ballpark ideas out here and it could be anything under the sun. It sounds, from what you are saying, that she still cares for you. You have to decide if the pain of rejection and her uncertainty are worth making to efforts to try to keep her, or if you want to just walk away.
2007-11-04 01:53:04 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Tears 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others, move on. Stop messing with each other. You both still love each other, but it will not work from here on out. You will be playing these games forever only to find out you were both looking for something else. It is going to sting a little, and it will be hard to see her hurt. You can each take whatever you love about each other, keep that in your heart, and never lose that. The next time you both will meet someone who has all of those great qualities and more. And you will find out what was missing.
People date and get into various relationships to find out what you like and do not like, and somewhat build your love repretoire. Then, eventually you will find someone who completes you. Do not settle.
2007-11-04 02:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what it sounds like? it sounds like she had some bad experience with a guy/guys in the past so she's simply trying to defend herself. It also could be that she's not exactly sure what she really wants at this point. You gotta talk to her and see what's going on and if she's not open to telling you at the moment you need to try and find out. That of course is IF you FEEL she's REALLY worth it. Really think about this. We're too young to be worrying about all the crap relationships come with. I've come to realize this. Good luck with this situation.
2007-11-04 01:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Class 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly She Isnt Really Worth It You Should Really Move On With Youre Life.
2007-11-04 01:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by no.need 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give your gurl the time to think things over..
no matter how much we love a person,
if we are uncertain of our position....
there will be a point in when the only certain thing is to give up..
tel her that for the last time you are going to ask her if she still love and if she is willing to bring back the past...
if she said no, respect her decision, let her go,
if she said yes, then settle everything...
thelove_advicer@yahoo.com
2007-11-04 15:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by loveadvicer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im am confused about the text message. But give her some time to think. Dont ask her out again, this tme let her come to you. Hope this works. Good Luck!
2007-11-04 01:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give her some time. Girls are very complicated. If she doesn't want to be with you for now, then give her some space. Stay in touch with her, but don't make her feel like you're pressuring her to get back together. When she's ready, she'll let you know.
2007-11-04 01:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by cmh0114 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is with the confusing accusation? You asked her and she said no, I think you two should sit down and talk about the future for yourselves. As Fassee said 'love takes time to heal' so if it doesn't work out as planned, then move on and just be good friends.
2007-11-04 01:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by James G 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
of course you still have strong feelings, you just broke up. it takes awhile to get over someone. listen to what she's saying and get over her. stop messing around with her, because its only confusing for both of you. put her on ignore for awhile until you aren't confused.
2007-11-04 01:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by ProudM 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
she must stilll love you but has a lot going on in her life at the moment and needs some space and she cant see any other way but to be apart from you for a bit. if you are still good friends then i'd leave it at that until she's ready for something more again.
2007-11-04 01:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋