How should I react?? Is it time to give up???

Question

We're both in our thirties. She was late in starting college and is now in a PhD program.

I really like this girl.

She's off at school during the week, and came over to my office to chat today.

First she goes into a story about this horrible class she took and how she had go through alot to drop the class.

Then she says that the last time she went to the class a male classmate of hers, who's never spoken to her before, suddenly started asking her like 50 questions about herself. (The classmate had nothing to do with her reason for dropping the class.) Then the next class session she doesn't show up and this guy emails her to see if she's okay. A week later, the guy chases her down in the hallway to find out why she wasn't in class and why she hasn't responded to his emails. She tells him she's withdrawing. He looks disappointed, then sends her an email a few minutes later saying he's sorry she's not going to be in the class because he looked forward to getting to know her better, and saying that he wants to hear about her experiences at her field internship.

Answer 1

yep move on she is playing with you.................

Answer 2

Just wanted to let you know that I wrote all this out from memory. I didn't copy anything from anywhere, and in fact I got a little repetitive. If you'd like to know more let me know.
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Answer 3

The Space Shuttle did not overcome the problems of expendable multi stage rockets. The problem was cost. The Shuttle is still a two stage design and the large external tank is still disposed of, crashing into the Indian ocean after each launch. The Space Shuttle was designed to be more reusable than the rockets it replaced. The Saturn V Moon rocket was 363 feet tall but the only thing that returned to Earth was the small 12 foot tall command module which was not reusable. The Space Shuttle brings it's main engines back with it and are reused as are the solid rocket boosters. The whole idea of the Space Shuttle system was that the re-usability would lead to lower costs but this was based on a two week turn around time and many more flights per year than NASA has ever been able to achieve. Instead of 60 flights a year the most they have ever been able to get into space is 5. The Shuttle has been a failure in the end because it cost more to operate than conventional expendable rockets and it has proved to be extremely dangerous and has resulted in the deaths of fourteen astronauts and loosing two vehicles in the first 120 flights.

Answer 4

This is something that she should be exploring or rather "hashing it out" with her best girl friend. (Not you). That's what best friends are for. Girls love to dissect every little trivial thing that occurs in their life.... everything! Consider the analogy of having a meal...... boyfriends or husbands are "dessert" and best friends/family are maybe entree. Evidently she thinks of you as the whole kit and caboodle. You are the whole meal from the beginning to the finish. (not good) It's much easier on the relationship if she has different ppl for different issues to go to for counsel or advice. It takes the stress off of you.... trying to be everything to her. You can't do it. It's too much for one guy; it'll overwhelm you. And ruin the relationship between you and her. Just remember, women are more complex than men; God made us that way.
Btw, the guy in the class that she's dropping, probably is just an itty bitty bump in the road. No big deal. Insignificant. Forget about it. lol

Answer 5

I am not sure what you are asking about entirely. If you are asking how you should react when she tells you about this guy, why don't you ask her straight out? She could be telling you out of fear, and just wanting you to tell her it will be ok. She is the only one that can tell you why she is saying these things. This is the reason most relationships end. People do not communicate and expect their significant other to somehow magically know how they are feeling.. There could be a million reason that she is telling you this, but you are not going to find the answer here on YA. Talk to her. Find out her reasons. Let her know how it makes you feel. Listen when she is talking to you and explaining how she feels. Really listen and if you are not sure about something, ask her to clarify. Do not let her evade you on any questions, if they are really important to you. If she refuses to talk about this, then leave, because if she doesn't care enough about you to listen and reply in kind, she isn't worth the time.

Answer 6

If you are a teacher or professional of some kind, then you shouldn't develop a romantic relationship with a student. If that's not the case, and you are of roughly equal status, she either is afraid of this guy and wants you to sympathize with her or protect her, or she's coming on to you. You won't know which until you learn more about her. I'll caution you that men have a tendency to try to rescue the damsel in distress, but it doesn't work to do it through a romance. All that does is causes heartbreak for both in the long run.

Answer 7

First, the fact that she comes to your office to chat means she wants to talk to you. You just don't know if she considers you a pal, or if she's giving you attention because she hopes you'll ask her out.

About the situation she told you about, either she needed to vent because she was a bit freaked out over the practically being stalked thing, or she considers you more of a pal than anything else. You missed your opportunity to ask her straight out if she's interested in that guy.

Listen, if you're interested in this girl, ask her on a date (movie and dinner, so there will be no misunderstanding that it's a date, not a pal-thing.) Use the word "date" when you ask her out. For instance, "Would you like to go on a date with me Saturday night?" She'll either say yes, or no. Either way, you'll have your answer.

Answer 8

Don't give up so easily. Remember, she came to you by choice to share all of this with you, including sharing about him.

He, on the other hand, had to chase her down to talk to her.
It seems she's closer to you than to him at this stage, otherwise she'd have been sharing with him.

However, don't expect her to guess your emotions from a facial expression or a conversation. Ppl often can't guess our emotions, and expecting them to only upsets us. If you feel a certain way towards her, you need to pluck up the guts to share that with her. But remember that we can't control who we fall for, so she may not feel the same way and may see you as a close friend. On the other hand, she may feel the same way. You'll never know unless you communicate your emotions.

Remember that communicating your emotions should be in actions as well as words ... flowers / dinner / the cinema ... these and similar things can be useful tools for communicating that you're interested (but the conversation will need to be a part of that as well, as she may not realise why you're displaying interest).

Answer 9

Sounds like you're a friend to her and she likes talking to you about her problems. If she's not interested in the guy who is semi-stalking her then you should tell her how you feel about her.
If she's still in school, how old is she and how old are you? Don't start anything with someone who is younger than 18 because it's not worth the trouble.

If she's the appropriate age for you, let her know that you like her a lot and would like to go out sometime. See how she reacts and likely she'll let you know if she likes you 'that way' or not.

Answer 10

What is the relationship between you two?
If it's serious (and I mean over a year or more), then don't give up tell her to put this guy in his place and move on. She is telling you about it so she definitely feels comfortable enough. It doesn't have to something serious from her side. He is interested maybe maybe she's not. You have to communicate with each other.
If you two are not serious then maybe move on, only if you haven't got feelings for her. If you do, then tell her how you feel sooner. Good Luck!

Answer 11

Jealousy and insecurities would be the feeling you're having at the moment.

But... come on ... just wanna ask you ... is she your girl friend? You never mention that. You just said, that she is coming to your 'office' to chat. Are you working in an Internet shop or something? (hehe)

But lets be serious ... why do you have to give up something ... yet you never tried it yet????

Have you ever try to tell her about your feeling?

I think its about time to tell her ... before somebody does.

You have better chances coz she's there with you all the time, use that chance and don't be stupid (opps, excuse my word).

Do everything you could to win her ... if you really like her.