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Question

Today I went outside and then people were staring at me and then one guy was like walking in front of me back and forth and then he smiled at me. So I followed all your advice and I smiled back, but then that's it. He did nothing. Some guys just went up to my face and give me a nasty look and say "sexy", but no I don't want those men. Another man who was decent stared at me for so long and I stared back, and he was gonna approach me and then he decided to go back and left. Then this man who was like 40ish is the one who went up to me and told me oh you're so beautiful i wanna squeeze you, Okay I am 18. So the people who are like my age or a little bit older [19 - 25] than me won't approach me, but the one who's almost my parents' age [40ish] will? What must I do to get you men to approach me?

I don't have a pic but people tell me I look like the girl on the left and I dress like that too, my hair is also like that but darker.

http://img89.imageshack.us/img89/4544/phoebefp0.jpg

PS - Please don't say "haha yeah right" or "you wish" or whatever remarks, I'm not here to brag and don't judge either, I just want your help. I don't get why I see a lot of nerdy/geeky girls, mean girls and slutty girls with decent men, but they won't even give me a chance...

Answer 1

If you're good looking the teenagers are intimidated by you. It's not something you can turn off. They feel what could I possibly say to her to get her interested. They don't want to be humiliated with rejection so they say nothing.

Talk to people. Be friendly, but not slutty like. Just be nice and talk to people.

Answer 2

I'm not a man, but I'm going to try to answer your question.
ok - you went outside and then people were staring at you.
Where did you go outside??????
What were you wearing????????
What are you looking for?????
you have gotten some really good answers, and few good ones, and a few people getting their 2 points and a few mean ones.
You once said you never smiled back. If you don't smile back, you seem cold and distant, no matter what you're wearing.
What you are wearing is important. From what you are saying here, you almost sound like you were standing on a street corner. It is true, that many men, especially young men have a hard time approaching pretty women/girls. It is also true, that most men don't want a girlfriend who reveal too much - they don't want to have to fight off the other men.
Most men, do want a woman of substance - (I'm not talking about the body here) they want someone they can talk to after (well, maybe before in reality) sex. Are you working, or going to school? Do you have an interesting hobby? Do you volunteer? It's possible that you may be coming across as being desperate - "one guy was like walking ...back and forth ......it makes me think you were standing on a stage, or on an auction block.............. just what were you doing?
I think if you concentrate more on your interests - (other than guys) - school, learning about things.....what do you have to offer men besides your body?
Stop dressing like you are a whore, and dress a little more discreetly - you can actually be very sexy the less you try, and the less you reveal of your body. Sexy, is a state of mind. But, maybe if you just try being friendly - smile, talk to people, show an interest in other people, and kind of forget that you're looking for a boyfriend, you might actually end up with one. Think about where you go to meet guys and what kind of a person you are going to meet there. You're young, you have lots of time (hopefully) to have a long term relationship with a good person. Focus on making yourself a better person - how are you going to support yourself in 4 years? 10 years from now? 30 years from now? do you want to wait tables or have a career in an interesting job - although there isn't anything wrong w/waiting tables, what do you want to do? It's certainly good to look nice, and to take care of yourself, but that shouldn't be your main focus at this stage in your life. Seems, like you already look good - how good does your brain look?
Does this help a little bit more?
And oh yeah - "the guys going to support me" doesn't work anymore - and besides, something may happen to the guy. Just in case you were thinking this way.

Answer 3

This has nothing to do with whether you're attractive or not. The issue is that you want men my age to approach you. If you want to be approached in a direct way, such as "you're hot" or "wanna ****?" then you'll find a problematic guy. But if you're just looking for sex anyway, then go to a party and pick a guy and say to him "I'm so drunk." Any guy in his right mind will follow up on that comment.

Answer 4

Give on-line dating a try. It will help to build your confidence and you will learn how to be comfortable introducing yourself to others. Also you will learn the basic questions to ask to know if someone is right for you. I was really shy, then I joined an on-line dating site that has a casual chat room. It really helped me to learn what to say and what not to say. I did find a nice girlfriend and we are happy to be together. Put together some nice photos (for your profile) and be creative when you describe yourself. I'm sure you will have many single young men take an interest in you.

Answer 5

Go to a party/bar. Guys get liquid courage easily and by the end of the night you'll probably be sick of guys your age talking to you. But if you find one there that you like and he isn't so drunk he will forget about you in the morning, more than likely he will want to spend time with you later because he will be no longer intimidated. If worse comes to worse, at leaste you will get a good laugh out of all the cheesy pick-up lines.

Answer 6

If that's the case and you look like Melisa you'll never get a guy your age to approach you they think your to high maintenance and the older guys are looking for ra good trophy sorry honey some times looks can be a burden not a gift.

Answer 7

First issues first, definitely under no circumstances make it look such as you're shifting there simply by fact of him. i in my opinion wish that may not the case. i could advise taking part in it very casually, deliver a text textile quite telling him "whats up i'm shifting to XYZ, i in my opinion dont understand my way around, any hazard you would be my excursion handbook?" for sure you additionally could make it a sprint greater flirty in case you like, yet truly something alongside those lines could permit him understand you're shifting close by, yet additionally provide him of undertaking to make a connection lower back by offering to coach you around if he's involved. If it grew to become into in common terms a fling or there's a girl chum or something, then it additionally provides him an hazard to say no or to respond. p.s. this works despite in case you do understand your way around. merely attempt to furnish him a heads up, and not text textile him once you're on his doorstep already!

Answer 8

If you're good looking the teenagers are intimidated by you. It's not something you can turn off. They feel what could I possibly say to her to get her interested. They don't want to be humiliated with rejection so they say nothing.

Talk to people. Be friendly, but not slutty like. Just be nice and talk to people.

Answer 9

no offence really but
dat girl dresses weird no offence =/
and see
old guys dont really care how a girl dresses jus as long as shes a pretty and...a girl
but guys more towards THIS generation doo tend to care if the girl dresses nice too
u see
dreess like dis generation
then they will approach u
beeelieve me

Answer 10

You know you have posted this question atleast two times a day. Either that isn't how you really look like but want to know what guys are going to say or that is how you look like but you just want to bragg about what you look like to everyone. That's actually quite sad... Maybe you should post other questions rather than this one over and over again.... Read over all your other answers from your previous question if you haven't deleted them thinking that people won't remember this question and deal with it seriously....
Jeez...