im catholic but my girlfriend is christian, what do i do?

Question

im a catholic, born, raised and baptized catholic. but my girlfriend she is christain, my parents and i have no problem with that its her parents, the only time i get to see her is at school or if i attend to her chruch events. that was at the beging of our relationship but now we been dating for about an year and im at a point where im good with the parents. so can i stop lying to myself and everyone else that im christian. and tell them that im happy being a catholic and wont changes view. what to do

im catholic but my girlfriend is christian,

Answer 1

Pastor Billy says: first off you mean to say she is a non-Catholic Christian and you a Catholic Christian. Secondly the topic of which Church you go to is going to come up at some point you'll need to provide more information on what Protestant denomination your girlfriend and her parents attend so we can begin to understand their point of view as Protestantism has so many and alot of them tend to be anti-Catholic which is unavoidable due to their origin 400 years ago.

See some of my questions and answers to get a feel for what I'm talking about.

Answer 2

It sounds as if EVERYONE involved needs to lighten up.

Your girlfriend and her family need to make peace with the fact you are Catholic. You and your family need to make peace with the fact they are non-Catholic Christians. It sounds as if this process is taking place already, albeit slower than it should be.

I shy away from recommending inter-faith relationships for this very reason. Those involved always elevate religion to the point where it becomes a divisive issue, and it shouldn't be. It doesn't have to be.

When both sides are willing to accept that the other is a different religion, inter-faith relationships can work. So long as there is at least one person, even a third party, making an issue out of the religious differences, it is going to be a potentially explosive problem.

You and your's do not have to put God second in your priorities. Keep God first in your lives, of course. Just don't go nuts about it is all.

If things progress, you MUST talk to your girlfriend about raising children, particularly concerning how religion is going to fit in. Resolve this issue now, before any children come into the picture.

Answer 3

Hmmm, another problem that religion has caused, where otherwise there would be none. What to do, what to do. You claim to be a catholic, yet break one of them main tenants of the faith by lying. If your religion were so important to you, why would you have done this? Maybe you should sit down and think long and hard about how strongly you believe in your Catholic faith. If you cannot follow one set of religious rules, why would you consider switching to a faith of similar rules? You shouldn't have to ask advice on what to do. Lying is wrong, regardless of the religion, and you need to fix the problem. Go tell them the truth and if they no longer let you have anything to do with their daughter, blame no one but yourself, because you have earned it and let this be a lesson the next time you feel the urge to lie.

Answer 4

Don't bad-mouth the Pope or the Virgin Mary, and don't imply--as this question already does--that she isn't Christian, too. You know, though a few of their observations have diverged a bit from the Nicene Creed over the centuries, the Roman Catholics still do believe in all those things, which means they're still Christian. Oh, I would also advise against making jokes about her religion, or criticizing the worship of saints as idolatry. Don't repeat John Cleese's joke about spectacles, testicles, wallet and watch, and never joke about the priests wearing dresses. No nun jokes, either. Beyond that, plain old good manners should stand you in good stead.

Answer 5

My wife use to be a catholic...We talked about this before we got married , where would the kids go ?. She came to the church I attended , Baptist . She would ask " Where is the holy water ?" I replied ,"There is no such thing as holy water , water blessed by a sinner ?" Ecclesiastes 7:20 , Romans 3:23 , this goes for Mary too.And only Jesus can forgive you of your sins not a human . Did they die on a cross ? We got married then about 4 years later and Praise the Lord her eyes were opened by the word of God and became born again . I would suggest that the two of you read the bible together ( KJV ) start in the book of John and continue . You young man please read Timothy 4:1-5 ,and Hebrews 10:11 from a King James Bible. Be patient !

Answer 6

I see the problem. Yes, Catholics are indeed Christians, and many Protestant sects are also Christian, but the nature of Protesting Christ's religion (Catholicism) means that many Protestants can't see the sky through the clouds. You should dump her. It's not worth the hassel. Eventually her parents will send her off to one of those scarry Protestant religious camps where they blast Christian Rock and try to brainwash people. Then, she'll probably marry a guy in divinity school, move South, he'll realize he's gay, (like most ministers are) but it will be too late for her. I speak from real life experience.

Answer 7

You ought to know since you call yourself a Catholic that Catholics are Christians. You will have tell evceryone the truth sooner or later so might just as well come clean. If you are really both in love this should not be a problem in your relationship. Make it very clear to your girl friend that you are not going to change your religion. See what happens.

Answer 8

Since when were Catholics not Christian!? Lol! The advice of a Pagan would be to forget religious dogma and live your lives together in love and harmony. I believe a bible verse somewhere says there is Faith, Hope and Love - but the greatest of these is Love. Walk away from religion hand in hand and enjoy life.

Answer 9

What do you mean, what should you do? A catholic is a christian....good grief. Oh I see, the great christian divide. Well, if you both love each other then forsake your religions before they split you two and your families apart.
You will have to weigh up what is right for the both of you. Be happy with what you two can work out together, not what your family members want you to do. It's you two that will be living together, should you decide to go down that road.
Talk it out. Most everything revolves around sacrifice of somekind.

Answer 10

Are you serious about your girlfriend and possibly considering marriage? If so, you should seek to develop a common accord on religious questions to the extent you can. If you have significant differences, it can cause friction in the marriage. I suggest that you both attend membership classes in the other one's church, and come to understand what each other believes, and then you should make a decision about whether you can have a good marriage together.

Catholics say they are Christians, and I am assuming from the way you worded the question that your girlfriend is Protestant. The chief difference between Catholics and Protestants, to my mind, is that Protestants usually believe that salvation is by grace, and that means that it is an unmerited gift from God. Catholics, however, are taught that there are things you have to do to help earn your salvation, or complete it. As a Lutheran, I accept that salvation is by grace, and that our works don't contribute to our salvation, just serve as evidence that we HAVE faith.

Hopefully this short explanation will help you to understand what the differences might be, and what you will have to resolve between you if you are serious about each other. Good luck!