their born again believers and their love for me is conditional and i cant wait and hold my breath anymore. And realizing this has helped me push for a deeper relationship with GOD because i know that gods love isn't conditional. This has to be against GOD .... i mean for one they are my parents...they gave me life and well that alone is enough for me to realize something is not right on their end. Im ready to lean on god for the voids in my heart.
2007-11-03 19:28:08 · 11 answers · asked by seaofhope08 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
my parents more so my mother as abusive towards me and im trying to move on from it. They dont see it but i do. its a long story. a painful one i hate to relive. Im 27 years old
2007-11-03 19:56:09 · update #1
Hi, I'm not sure what your question is here. If you are saying your parents are believers, but that they only love you as long as you do everything just the way they do - then I can understand that makes life really difficult.
You are right, God does love you without any conditions. He has already forgiven you for any sins/ mistakes you will make. His love is your guide and He will never leave you even if you mess up big time.
God asks you to be respectful to your parents and to obey them while you live with them, unless they ask you to do something illegal/immoral. He knows it may be very hard to feel love for them when they love you with conditions attached.
Its really good to lean on God! Ask Him to give you the love and comfort that will help you get through each day. So much of the Bible is God's love letter to you. Try reading it as often as you can and ask God to speak to you through it. Sometimes it will be like you are reading and all of a sudden the words just jump out at you and you sense God is speaking to you. One caution, if you feel God may be telling you to do something, then check it out with someone. Do you have any local believer who could help you? Someone who could answer questions and pray for you?
Bottom line: My Mom was a very abusive person when I was little. I became a Christian at age 18 and shortly thereafter my Mom also became a believer. We had a much easier time for quite a while because of Jesus' love, but later on my Mom was still not always good to me. It hurt me a lot, but Jesus has helped me heal and forgive her. Hang in there, my friend. Maybe some of their toxicity will change; you can pray for them, too! :)
2007-11-03 19:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by LeslieAnn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 11:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
43 & I can relate. It doesn't get any better. & I was dealing with an increasingly abusive husband for the last 7 years of that - & my parents were only making a bad situationmuc much worse. {To them it was all about how things looked to their friends - than about my safty}
All I can do is to mimimise access to my parents. & with a Grandchild that's a push.
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2007-11-03 23:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Rai A 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its hard for parents and children to see the same thing in the same light. your parents love you and that is why they go at you so hard. I'm not saying it right. I'm just saying that we are all imperfect and loving someone so much we sometime hurt them the worse.
Ask your parents what will make them happy? Ask them where they want to see you at in the next yr.?
If you can see yourself in that light then you may not be so opposite.
2007-11-03 20:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by debbri48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,God Is leading you Into a deeper more meaningfull relationship with Him.
But please don't make the Grave mistake of not honoring & obeying your parents.
That's the first commandment with a promise.
Just pray for God to bring change Into their heart.
Praying for you Sweetie...May God crown your with wisdom & understanding...Blessings To You..
2007-11-03 19:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your parents teach you or force you not to follow path of God, you must submit to their instructions in all circumstances and you must pray for their guidance from God to be reasonable and loving truth and reality.
2007-11-03 19:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by shahinsaifullah2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need therapy,and you need to talk to your parents about how you feel,or someone you trust like a pastor or school councellor.
2007-11-03 19:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Inou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have unconditional love for them and be a good example.
2007-11-03 19:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.......So God helped you become the person you are today and your parents didn't do anything?
2007-11-03 19:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
huh? *scratches head in confusion*
2007-11-03 19:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋