how can i stop being shy??

Answer 1

Practice. Really. Act "as if" you are not shy whenever you can.

Answer 2

Shyness is not easily overcome. There is a level of anxiety associated with training yourself to become more social, which goes against your innate wiring. This does not mean that you won't be able to overcome it, though. Recognize the triggers that make you uncomfortable when trying to talk to others. When you feel the discomfort coming, take a deep breath or two, breathe out slowly, which automatically helps the body relax, and SMILE! Faking a smile helps elevate your mood and makes you more attractive to those around you. As the anxiety begins to subside, the smile will become more natural. People are attracted to those who appear happy!

As a first step, I recommend that you find a place where you are relatively comfortable to practice new social skills, such as the cafeteria at school, a party at a close friend's house, the "water-cooler" at work, the local bar or nightclub, whatever your situation and age group might offer.

What you need to remember is that everyone likes to talk about themselves, so ask questions and be a good listener. If you are trying to get to know someone who is only an acquaintance, keep the questions general at first. Ask about their family, interests, education, but don't be overly intrusive in the beginning. Maintain good eye contact. As long as the people you are trying to get to know have an audience, they'll keep talking, and they'll get to know you as someone who is genuinely interesting and attractive BECAUSE OF THE ATTENTION YOU GIVE THEM! Before you know it, you will build your social skills and find new close friends in the process. The more you practice, the more comfortable you will become in being outgoing.

Answer 3

For me, it often helps to remember that being shy is quite common, and not something to feel insecure about. I used to be fairly shy myself, but slowly I became more outgoing one day or week at a time. Every once and awhile, I would gather enough courage to speak to someone random in a class, bus stop, store, etc., and eventually it became easier to talk to new people. I didn't become less shy overnight, though, and it took some consistent effort for me. You can also check out some resources on the website wikihow to help you out, just search "make friends" on the website. Hope that helps!

Answer 4

Find a way to be forced to speak with the public. I used to be very shy. The way I overcame this was facing my fears and not worrying about what someone else may think of me. Join a club where you can meet new people. Anything, just start putting yourself out there!!

Answer 5

Start quoting Monty Python or Rocky horror picture show to random strangers. Try to pick the most annoying or craziest lines. After you've done that for a while you will feel less shy about a normal conversation.

What is your name?
What is your Favorite Color?
How many swallows does it take to carry a coconut to england?
African or European Swallows?

And so a conversation begins.

Answer 6

You just do it.
1.Stop thinking. Just do things like talk to a guy and such. Don't think about it...ever.
2.Trust your feelings...that is what they are there for.
3.Don't worry about that anyone else might think.

No matter what your first couple of times being with a guy will be awkward and weird. That is normal(for him too)...but it gets better with time.

Answer 7

You could bring yourself to joining a play or singing in church. Something that in a small way your talking to groups. The one thing is nobody is going to slap you, or kick you. Well laughing is a good thing. Loosen up and enjoy life, love, and being a leader.

Answer 8

Try becoming a sarcastic person. Once you are confident with poking fun at things, its so much easier to talk with people, because you can always say something to make them laugh, hence, easing the conversation. Laughter solves everything. Worked for me haha

Answer 9

talk to people more so that way you'll make new friends,join clubs, go out be outgoing. You should care what people think about you or what you think. Open up more.

Answer 10

First you eat a ton of sugar and talk to everybody you know and don't know. Then you throw a party at your house. And lastly you get a boyfriend.

or just deal with it until something interesting happens