Why do I keep on getting over guys after I get them?

Question

So for the past 6 months, I'll be really obsessed with a guy, but as soon as I get together with him, I don't want him anymore
like, ovr the summer I had this guy and once I got him, we did all the physical stuff and then I was just done. he got all attached to me or whatever, and he was such a great guy, perfect all around, but I just wanted to run from him! and move on to other people.
also the guy before him, same thing. as soon as i kissed him, i was done. i wanted to move on.

why does this keep on happening? I'm afraid that it's going to eventually ruin my relationships later on. i'm already hesitant getting in a relationship now, because i'll probably fall into the same situation!
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Answer 1

Well at least you recognize your pattern. You are not really interested in having a relationship; you are merely interested in the chase. It's an ego thing. Once you've "caught" him and know he's hooked, you lose interest. The only guy you can like, at this stage you are in, is one that DOESN'T like you - one that remains tantalizingly out of reach; which is not a basis for any kind of relationship. That would be the ultimate challenge for you. I suspect there is something in your background that a trained and experienced person such as an analyst or psychologist could help you discover. I would NOT recommend taking suggestions from unqualifed strangers on the internet. "Barbara E" comes closest to the best advice!

Yes, at this stage do NOT try to enter into any kind of permanent or lasting relationship because not only are you not ready for it, you couldn't possibly sustain it. Don't harm someone else. Take responsibility for what you have discovered about yourself.

Answer 2

Well, What are you missing in your self, Meaning why do you need the opposite sex to make you feel better about yourself? When you keep meeting people and just using them for what you think you want and dump them and you still are not happy. Then what are you lacking in your life. When you figure that out then you can be happy and the people around you will be happy. Relationships are roads in life, you drive one and turn down a new one because the drive will be forgotten but the trip is for a lifetime.

Answer 3

You are responding to "sex appeal" and "infatuation." You want that whole glorious package but when you open it the allure fades away. I suggest that you should take a lot more time before "opening that package." That is, get to know the real guy , his mind, his likes and dislikes, who he really is before you ever consider getting physical. To most young people these days that seems absurd, but it truly is the only way you can find someone you will really love. Infatuation does not last (ever). But if you truly love a man you will have something much deeper and more noble. If you keep opening the packages, so to speak, before you truly know the person, you will never feel like sticking around to find out who he is.

Answer 4

It sounds like you are just all about physical contact. You don't actually want to get emotionally intimate with a guy after you meet your physical needs. Try not doing physical stuff. Just try talking and communicating. If you have an emotional base...you might not have that problem. My sister is the same way though...she always has been. I don't really know why. Good luck.

Answer 5

You might have a fear of commitment. If it sounds like you want to meet the perfect guy for you but things change when you get into a relationship with a guy you like, keep searching for the right guy and I think that when you find him, you should love him so much that you never want to leave him.

Answer 6

You probably keep doing that because you realize the type of person that they are and you probably have high expectations of them and they don't live up to your expectations. Next time get to know the guy before you do your activities with him i wish you the best. Sometimes what I do is write a list of what I want from a guy then if he don't meet the my expectations I drop him lol. I WISH YOU THE BEST.

Answer 7

no, it's probably the chemistry in your body with raging hormones. your chemistry loses its interest faster than other people even though, for some people, their chemistry of liking another person will last for months even years. also, once you have no feeling for a guys, your hormones comes to play and make you want other and more. don't worry, they will balance out once you get older. or meet someone really special that don't want to do any physical stuff with you but still loves you. that's rare in man.

hope this help

Answer 8

sounds like i use to be you like the excitement of the chase...the trying to get the prize...the game that happens between a man and a women before they finally give into each other.....its fun for awhile but then it gets boring and you want to settle down with one person....when i finally did that i realized there is so much more exciting things than the chase...like the getting to really know someone and knowing that when you need them their there without a doubt...its great try to see how much you can learn about someone and see what happens

Answer 9

Thrill of the hunt, like when you catch the fish, you release them. After you climb the mountain you have to strive for new challenges. This feelings will subside asyou get older for then you realize that it was for naught.
Take a step back and search out your true feelings.

Answer 10

You are what I call a player. I know I am one of the best at the game. After I have slept with them they are disposable.
Sad but true. I could never remain fathful to one Women so I will stay single and keep bed hopping.