if we decie to abopt but don't like the child after say a year can we give it back?

Answer 1

You can't just abandon a child. If you aren't committed to having a child, don't adopt a child. That would be very stressful for a child to have a sudden change in environment. The child could end up in the foster care system and have a miserable life.

Answer 2

I really could not believe this question when i saw it. I pity the poor unfortunate child that would get you as parents, if you are even considering giving up on a child if you just decide you don't like it, then you should consider why you want a child in the first place.


Children are not just some object to be discarded if they don't suit you!!
I'm so angry after reading this. BTW it's adopt not abopt and decide not decie..Imbecile!!!

Answer 3

I have looked into adoption and I have never ran across anything that says you can return them. I don't think you should be able to adopt. I'm sorry, but even if your other half was to get pregnant and you have a child, you can't put that child back. I don't think you deserve to adopt. That child would be better off with a family that is willing to take care of the child, love that child, teach the child. A child is not like a new car, adopted or by birth. There's no warranty no return policy. Adoption is a wonderful thing. My best friend is adopted and her parents have inspired me into adoption. So I suggest you think about this subject long and hard. Maybe when the time is right for you to adopt then do it. You've got to be patient.

Answer 4

I am not sure of the legal side, but I dont think you can give the child back. The idea is that all parties involved are open with each other and that everyone is positive that the adoption is right for you and the child. If you ahve any doubts then you should raise your concerns. It is much better to voice them before everything is final, so any problems can be resolved. Children who are up for adoption have generally had a hard time (that is why they are up for adoption), and dont need a second lot of parents saying that they dont like them. That is bound to emotionally scar them. If you think this way then maybe adoption isnt right for you. Have you thought about fostering?

Answer 5

Technically you can disrupt an adoption after any amount of time but ethically you should not. Before you consider adoption you need to be certain that you are ready to take your new child (flaws and all) and keep them and love them forever. Although you will not be giving birth to your adopted child, your relationship with and commitment to them should be the same as if you had given them life.

I have three adopted children and three natural born children. Raising children is not easy. Adopted or not children will be difficult at times and part of your job in parenting is to teach them right from wrong and love them even when the wrong choice is made (hoping that they will learn to choose better).

Consider seeking counsel from a trained professional about your concerns with adoption. Some adoption/ state agencies provide this free of cost. It is better to be certain you are ready to commit to "forever" (which goes beyond 18 years) than to potentially find yourself a year down the road ready to return an innocent child. The damage done to the child would scar them for life. Please consider this.

Best Wishes!

Answer 6

I think you ahve a very valid question. Sure you adopt a baby and then a year later discover it has a diagnosis you can't deal with or doesn't fit your family. Even birth parents can place their children up for adoption if the baby is born with a diagnosis of special needs. But birth parents more than likely struggle with the pain and agony of having a special needs child and muster up the strength to raise them to the best of their ability. So consider that when you adopt.

Answer 7

You've just answered your own question. There is no doubt that you need a pet, peferaby a fish. Not a child.

Children & pets in adoption are not on a 'lease' warranty plan. A pet can be sold or given to another Society. Hopefully, before any lasting damages are done.

It would be cruel & absolutely irresponsible of you to attempt to adopt with this attitued before entering into a parent relationship.
Hopefully, your marriage isn't based on the same attitude.

Answer 8

The adoption process is very thorough and you would be matched and gradually introduced to a child in such a way that this scenario is unlikely to occur. Even basic things like your hair colour etc... can be taken into account during the matching process.... Children of a certain age are also offered counselling to overcome their rough start and to prepare them for adoption.

Answer 9

OMG, I would say yes but if you have to come on yahoo answers and ask a question like that, maybe you dont need to adopt a child. Thats abandoing the poor thing. Do the poor child a favor and dont adopt

Answer 10

After having a child for a year, and you are still not emotionally attached to that child and would like to give him back, you should not be thinking about adopting a child.